What age is death NOT shocking to you?

[MaryAnnDVC]

Anything in their 70's and younger is "young to die" to me. I guess at 80 I think of people as being old and having led a long life.

 

[goofyernmost]

I guess that I would have to modify the question a little from "shocking" to "surprising". There are two things that are absolute in life if allowed to begin...the first is birth and the second is death. Everything in the middle is just filler.

I learned long ago that death is not optional regardless of ones age, health or status in life. What age someone passes is the unknown, the fact that they are going to pass is a given. I am surprised when someone of seemingly good health and young dies of whatever, but shocked isn't the proper definition.

I don't think of death as negative or positive...it just is. I am not shocked but maybe saddened at my loss or feel nothing whatsoever if the individual has no connection to me. I'll list the famous ones in the last few weeks and tell you my reaction.

Ed McMann (sp?)......nothing
Farrah F.....sad
Michael Jackson...surprise / nothing
Billy Mays....nothing
Gale Storm...nothing
The Comedian (can't remember his name)...nothing
Karl Malden (come on he must have been close to 100)...nothing

I guess that is what happens when one is already dead on the inside (me).

 

[Hillbeans]

Very interesting post. My mom died at 66 which I think is young, but dying at 66 wasn't "shocking" to me. I guess 60 and over?

My FIL was 60 when he died, but he was in terrible shape/health, so to me it wasn't shocking. I think that has something to do with it as well.

 

[SCHBR'smom]

I guess that I would have to modify the question a little from "shocking" to "surprising". There are two things that are absolute in life if allowed to begin...the first is birth and the second is death. Everything in the middle is just filler.

I learned long ago that death is not optional regardless of ones age, health or status in life. What age someone passes is the unknown, the fact that they are going to pass is a given. I am surprised when someone of seemingly good health and young dies of whatever, but shocked isn't the proper definition.

I don't think of death as negative or positive...it just is. I am not shocked but maybe saddened at my loss or feel nothing whatsoever if the individual has no connection to me. I'll list the famous ones in the last few weeks and tell you my reaction.

Ed McMann (sp?)......nothing
Farrah F.....sad
Michael Jackson...surprise / nothing
Billy Mays....nothing
Gale Storm...nothing
The Comedian (can't remember his name)...nothing
Karl Malden (come on he must have been close to 100)...nothing

I guess that is what happens when one is already dead on the inside (me).

It could just be because they are famous. They haven't touched your life personally, so their death doesn't touch you personally. I don't think it means you're dead inside. I don't think I felt much about all these celebrity deaths, but I was heart-broken about the people who have died in the recent plane crash. I feel more of a connection with everyday people and I am more aware of how their loss will effect their families.
I know death is certain, but it is also suprising many times. No matter how much you expect it, it still gets to you.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

I agree with 70's.

Though I have 2 aunts in their 70's that go to the gym regularly, swim daily, and drive from Iowa to either Los Angeles or Connecticut on a regular basis. I wanna be them when I grow up.

 

[dalt01]

all death shocks me, i pick up bugs and take them outside when my wife says squish em. i guess the only non shocking death i will ever be a party to is my own. hopefully it will shock someone.

 

[Chicago526]

I'd say that anything under 60 would make my jaw drop and say "but he/she was so young!"

Not that being in your 60's is old, per say. But at that point a person is more likely to have life threatening illness than at a younger age.

 

[AristocatFan]

At any age is shocking. Hopefully they were loved by someone and their death has created a loss. It doesn't matter the age. And yes, sadly, life does go on. I remember as kid how hard it was to be around my friends who still had their fathers. Then people who still had their grandparents. After I was married and had two miscarriages, everywhere I went there were babies and pregnant women. Now my mom is gone too and it's all hard. But life goes on and every day is a gift........that's why it's called the present!

 

[TnTsParty]

My brother in law passed away on his 38th birthday this year. It was a total surprise as one minute he was here and the next I am getting a call at 2:30 in the morning telling me he is gone. I was very shocked at that and probably still in shock over it. My grandmother was 92 and passed away 2 days after my brother in law and it wasn't as shocking. Not sure if it was because we were all still numb from the shock of my brother in law or if we were more expecting it with my grandmother since she broke her hip on Jan 1 this year and then ended up breaking the other hip before finally passing away.

It is very hard realizing that life still goes on even though our loved ones arent here anymore.

 

[disney1990]

Hey, I will be 65 in weeks.

Age 95 or earlier for me.

Hum, I think I'm going to go with 99.

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[Mandychelle79]

I work in a Nursing home so we see a lot of deaths. I am with the its not the age, its the suddenness. We have had residents who died and it was a shock to everyone that worked there because 3 doors down is someone who we had been expecting to die hanging on and someone who was relatively healthy gone.