What advice would you give your 23 year old

[kacaju]

I guess it never occurred to me to call my parents, or text them, when we go places . If we are going to visit them we call when we leave so they get an approximate time of when we will get there but that is about it.

When we go on vacation, yes, we always let someone in our family know we got there safely. Our daily activites, not we do not inform anyone what we are up to.

 

[golfgal]

Honestly, I always call my dad after I arrive home from visiting him. And he's 70 years old and always calls me after he gets home from visiting me. It's just a habit we've gotten into and are not inclined to stop.

Right, we do that too but if you drive to say, Disney, do you call him to let him know you got there ok?

 

[pilotwife_02]

Do all of you really call your parents whenever you go on a car trip somewhere to let them know you arrived???

If my parents know we are going somewhere then yes because if I don't they will call me and check up on me. So for instance, if we are going to Disney World we will call/text them when we land.

If we take a road trip on a whim and they don't know about it then I don't call them.

 

[Ohiodislover]

Do all of you really call your parents whenever you go on a car trip somewhere to let them know you arrived???

Honestly, I always call my dad after I arrive home from visiting him. And he's 70 years old and always calls me after he gets home from visiting me. It's just a habit we've gotten into and are not inclined to stop.

I am the same way. I'm 44 and my mom is 63. Last weekend we had a girls trip to wv. I waited to unload my car before calling her to let her know we were home. She texted to see if I was home When she comes to visit, she calls to let me know her plane as landed, and again once she gets close to home. We did this when we lived an hour apart, and continued when we moved 9 hours away.

If she knows we are traveling she usually calls or I call/email her with plans. I don't want her calling our house and not getting an answer and worrying. We usually communicate somehow during the trip. Often it is a pic to her cell, or computer.

To the OP. Everyone has given you the advice I would. Make sure the car is working well. keep the cell close, yada yada yada. Hope your DD has a nice trip.

 

[mdsoccermom]

Right, we do that too but if you drive to say, Disney, do you call him to let him know you got there ok?

We drove down to Florida a few weeks ago and yes, I did call him when I got there. It was more of a thing to remind him that I was gone rather than to tell him I got there safely, but yes, I called him.

 

[Mimi1965]

daughter wanting to go on a field trip by car by herself for a couple of days?

What kind of a "field trip" is she going on?
Is that another way to say vacation?
Or is she going on job interviews?

My advice-Dont use rest stops when traveling alone-go to gas stations for the bathroom

 

[Kriii]

Not being snarky but just wondering, when you say daughter "wanting" to go on field trip, does this mean you expect her to ask for permission? If so, you gotta let her grow up! If your post means you are just worried about her trip then that's ok. We all worry about our kids for various reasons! Lots of good suggestions for a safe trip on this thread!

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

THis is weird. She is 23. Who cares?

 

[Inigo]

Do all of you really call your parents whenever you go on a car trip somewhere to let them know you arrived???

Well, never my parents, but this summer DH and I went on a road trip from IN to ID to OR to CA to AZ to NM then back home. We called the kids (23 and 19-both home from college) every time we got to a new spot where we would be for a few days to let them know we arrived safely. (We also sent text messages every time we crossed a state line, but that's just because we always had a little "celebration" when we did that on family road trips when the kids were little.)

If they didn't hear from us in a few days, they called us to make sure we were OK. I thought it was hilarious they were playing the parent role in checking up on us!

 

[MichelleVW]

THis is weird. She is 23. Who cares?

I think it's a little weird too..

Well, never my parents, but this summer DH and I went on a road trip from IN to ID to OR to CA to AZ to NM then back home. We called the kids (23 and 19-both home from college) every time we got to a new spot where we would be for a few days to let them know we arrived safely. (We also sent text messages every time we crossed a state line, but that's just because we always had a little "celebration" when we did that on family road trips when the kids were little.)

If they didn't hear from us in a few days, they called us to make sure we were OK. I thought it was hilarious they were playing the parent role in checking up on us!

Lol, my college aged DD will call me in a panic if I don't call her on my way home from work. I usually call her during that time because I'm bored driving home and if I don't she will freak.

 

[NHdisneylover]

When I was 23 I got married, bought a house, moved across the country and got pregnant (DD was born 3 weeks after my 24th birthday). I cannot fathom my parents having any input whatsoever in whether I had taken a trip at that age
Is there some reason you need to keep closer tabs on your daughter? Does she have a disability or illness or something? I guess that would sway things. Otherwise I would not say anything (or perhaps, because I am a worry wart ask her to call me when she arrives to let me know she is safe) unless she asked for advice. If she did ask, I would suggest (as others have posted) making sure the car is in good repair, having a driving plan, not trying to drive too long (while sleepy), etc. The same basic things one would need to think about at any age.

 

[Carly_Roach]

Do all of you really call your parents whenever you go on a car trip somewhere to let them know you arrived???

Right, we do that too but if you drive to say, Disney, do you call him to let him know you got there ok?

We're in our 40's and YES we call someone to let them know we've arrived. It could be his folks, my folks, a sibling, a friend, but we do let people know when we've landed at any particular spot.

A majority of the call is simply a keeping in touch/wish you were here thing for those left behind. It's just a nice thing to do.

But there's also the "time marker" faction where if, God forbid, something were to happen to us (kidnap, earthquake, fire, disappearance, etc) there is a time-marker where someone would be able to say they last spoke to us at 3:00pm on Friday and we were at the Hilton on X Avenue in room XXXX and we mentioned that we might go to X venue for dinner or to a movie or the beach.

That "check in" call has many purposes, the least of which is any parent keeping tabs on us as they're in their 70's and we're in our 40's.

 

[Imzadi]

When I was 23 I got married, bought a house, moved across the country and got pregnant (DD was born 3 weeks after my 24th birthday).

Maybe it's the got pregnant part the OP is worried about? Maybe the field trip is to Vegas.

 

[kacaju]

We're in our 40's and YES we call someone to let them know we've arrived. It could be his folks, my folks, a sibling, a friend, but we do let people know when we've landed at any particular spot.

A majority of the call is simply a keeping in touch/wish you were here thing for those left behind. It's just a nice thing to do.

But there's also the "time marker" faction where if, God forbid, something were to happen to us (kidnap, earthquake, fire, disappearance, etc) there is a time-marker where someone would be able to say they last spoke to us at 3:00pm on Friday and we were at the Hilton on X Avenue in room XXXX and we mentioned that we might go to X venue for dinner or to a movie or the beach.

That "check in" call has many purposes, the least of which is any parent keeping tabs on us as they're in their 70's and we're in our 40's.

exactly!!

 

[dakcp2001]

I don't think it is odd to want to give advice to your child going on a road trip! Parents worry about their kids, that is what they do! It doesnt mean the 23 year old is irresponsible or anything. She might be, but the OP didnt specify. lol.

If she is driving through a less populated area, make sure to fill up on gasoline when given the chance and during the daylight. In some areas all the gas stations close early! If she has to potty, stop when she sees a safe well lit busy place, dont wait until it is an emergency and "any place" will have to do. Also, make sure she knows to stop when she is too sleepy to keep on keeping on, and stop in a safe place. ALso, I would wanr her that when in a hotel/motel, to lock the chain/deadbolt and not to open the door for anyone, not even if they claim to be an employee. Be SUPER careful in looking around when taking money out of ATMS and do this in the daylight, do not flash cash around anywhere. Dont tell anyone you meet that you are traveling alone etc etc etc

 

[Jennasis]

Right, we do that too but if you drive to say, Disney, do you call him to let him know you got there ok?

I do. Well, not HER dad ...but I do call my parents when I am driving to Disney (they live in NY and I live in NC). Will usually call somewhere in the middle of the trip and when we arrive, both going and coming. We do not usually call DH's mom (who lives 10 minutes from us in NC). It's just the relationship we have with each parent.

 

[Jennasis]

THis is weird. She is 23. Who cares?

Um, perhaps her mom does? That's why she's asking.

 

[crashbb]

Do all of you really call your parents whenever you go on a car trip somewhere to let them know you arrived???

I do generally send a quick email to my aunt when I travel. It takes a minute and it makes her happy. My aunt is my mum's sister and took over the mum role to a large extent after my mum died. Sometimes I'll cc my dad, sometimes I don't.

 

[NatashaDisneyCM]

hum, when I was 23 I was married with a child. I guess I should have asked first!!

 

[NHdisneylover]

Maybe it's the got pregnant part the OP is worried about? Maybe the field trip is to Vegas.

Well, I WAS married after all (not a Vegas wedding engaged over a year and married in a church with family and friends present). I DID take a road trip with my (then) boyfriend to visit my grandparents two years earlier for spring break. I also flew to LA with him the first summer we were dating (so we would have been 18) to visit his sisters. I called home when we landed in LA and again when we got bumped from our flight home (since they were picking me up at the airport). I wasn't given any advice that I can recall for either trip. Or the road trip to Red Cloud Nebraska for the Willa Cather days, or for any of the others shorter trips I made in college.