This is what gets me. My heart goes out to her, to lose a spouse to cancer, especially at 34 must be so painful. But it's also not such a unique or rare situation that people have no idea what she's going through. I don't want to rank her pain on a scale, but it almost seems like that's what she's doing -- claiming her pain is so unique and so much worse than anything anyone else is dealing with that we just don't get it. And I'm calling BS on that type of entitlement. My mom lost the love of her life at 36, it sucked, but she managed to get through it without emotional support turkeys, or without claiming that no one could possibly understand her pain.
Well... my thought on this is, who is she hurting?
Asking and getting permission to do something isn't "entitlement". Entitlement is refusing to take no for an answer, not happily accepting "yes" (and getting all the proper paperwork in order, as well as having a doctor sign off).
I agree with you there are likely people in the world who do know what she's going through, but many people say things like, "People have no idea what I've been through," when what they really mean is, "No one I know personally has been through this." Certainly,
I've never been in her shoes! I have no idea how I'd handle it, if I was. Would I be as graceful and resilient as your mom was? I'd hope so, but I couldn't guarantee it.
I guess, what it comes down to is I'm just glad that I don't need an emotional support turkey. Or a
scooter, or a seeing eye dog, or a helper monkey, or a pacemaker, or an oxygen tank, or psychiatric medication or any of the many, many other things people rely on to get through their day. I'm not in any position to judge who actually needs/deserves the assistance (typically, that'd be the purview of the doctor who prescribed it). And I'm definitely not an advocate for yanking away someone's "crutch" just because it happens to have feathers.