calanniebu
<font color=red>... you're never to old to love a
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I don't have to hide anything. We have a budget that we made together and we each get a certain $$ amount each month to spend any way we want or to save up for something. I could bury my money in the backyard, burn it, buy clothes, save up and buy something "big", whatever, he doesn't care so long as I stay within my budget. If I do go over (which I did a little in November) it carries forward and then I have less the next month until I catch up. This way he can see 10 bags from JoAnn's or Macy's or Victoria's Secret and not wonder how much I spent or what's in the bags . . . o.k. he would be curious about what's in the Victoria's Secret bag![]()
OT: That's a great way to do it. We just got married and are starting to actually truly MERGE the finances and that would work quite well.
I must check one of my J's out tomorrow - They are off the beaten path and often have stuff longer than most.
It's also sort of a female bonding thing...much more feminine than banging our chests & grunting!

But some people do have issues with this kind of thing for real. I remember, long before I got married, fellow scrappers at crops having to call their spouse to see if they were "allowed" to buy stuff or asking the hostess to hold their stuff until they could sneak it into the house.