Wendy & Chuck's PJ and TR Merged 2/4/08 Escape SBP/JIKO: Updated 9/19-Pleasure Island

[Starr W.]

So if a wedding planner hands you/me a black hood or shoves one of us behind some bushes, we'll have to make sure they know we know each other!

Do they really do this? Don't they know all of you probably have talked on this board and maybe want joint pictures together, or at least get a good look at the dresses you've been discussion for months. Perhaps if you give them the heads up you won't get the black hood.

 

[Lynn5700]

I'm outta here in 9 minutes and then I'm off to my bridemaid Jenna's house to get my highlights, trim and trial run on my hair!!! We're going to experiment with the birdcage veil! Eeek! I'll take pictures!

I can't wait to see the pictures!!!!!

 

[figmentfan814]

Glad to hear that you were able to find a happy solution for the jordan almonds incident and that you avoided the pen crisis. I completely understand how frustrating these little things can become The little Hawaiian shirt bags sound so cute for Ohanas!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

And another thing... it occurred to me that I will be standing around in front of the BoardWalk Inn trying to catch a boat right after our reception - like 2:15 -which might be right when you're leaving the BWI to walk to SBP for your ceremony. I started to worry that they will make one of us hide/take another route to avoid us being in the same place b/c they don't know we're cool with that.

So if a wedding planner hands you/me a black hood or shoves one of us behind some bushes, we'll have to make sure they know we know each other!

OMG... I'm going to let Kathleen know ahead of time that we are A-OK with the double bride thing. It would be tres cool if we could get a double bride/double dress pic!!! Woo Hoo!!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I read the whole journal! Yay!

Glad to hear your plans are falling together. Where do you work? I might have to drop some of my theater stuff and get a better job, but one where you might have a little time for DIS sounds heavenly

Keep the handy, and don't let the FMIL/FSIL ruin YOUR big day!

waiting for more. Reading yours Caryn's, and Carrie's. Now to catch up on Kristen's haha.

Thanks for reading. I know I've been spotty with my posting and kinda all over the place.

The FMIL/FSIL are great and I don't think they would ever do anything to ruin my day. I know the things that happen aren't purposeful or spiteful. I just wish they could be more excited about MY plans and less disappointed that it not what they like or want. I can read the disappointment in my FSIL's face as we're working on things. Like she just doesn't like anything I've decided to do! I don't know why?!? I mean we both recognize that we have different taste and that we like different things. That's not to say that if she likes something in particulary that I wouldn't support her even if I didn't like it. I just get this vibe that she hates everything having to do with my wedding. Is that weird?

And it seems like it a bother for her to help me out with anything... I mean I know it's not, and she doesn't complain or anything, but she's certainly not enjoying it... I don't know. Things just seem really tense and weird between us right now. Hopefully after the wedding and everyone is gone and Chuck is at the conference and it's just her and I, we can hang out at Disney and get back to 'normal'.

I want pix of the red patent pumps too!

OH MAN! I had everything out last night and forgot to take pics. I'll do it tonight.

i'm back! i feel so left out! good choice on Beaute Speciale. I had ana, i think she does most disney weddings because she was formerly with disney cosmetology and knows all the planners. she is great. you're like me with the stress and she kept me really calm and they did a GREAT job!

glad things are coming along. i couldn't conn mark into staying a few extra days. i missed my kitties too...so we're home in tx. my best friend and her girlfriend had to leave early though and they want to go back. i'm trying to talk them into next week, being home stinks!

Caryn! I'm so glad you're back on the boards and here before I leave. Reading your TR and your support are so great to have with only 3 days left before we leave!!!!!

I was reading your TR, and we are very similar with the stress. I'm uber freaked out right now. I've stopped sleeping. And the messed up thing is that I'm still working (thru tomorrow) and I've got class tomorrow night. I have class Thrusday too, but I'm not going. I'm giving all my homework (including everything that's due while we're gone) to my friend to turn in for me on Thursday. I have to take tests in both my classes early so that I don't come home to back to back tests in both classes. I just don't want to come home behind! So, I spent a total of 12 hours in the computer lab this weekend just working on homework, not getting other stuff done!

Do they really do this? Don't they know all of you probably have talked on this board and maybe want joint pictures together, or at least get a good look at the dresses you've been discussion for months. Perhaps if you give them the heads up you won't get the black hood.

I'm going to seriously let Kathleen know not to keep us apart.

Glad to hear that you were able to find a happy solution for the jordan almonds incident and that you avoided the pen crisis. I completely understand how frustrating these little things can become The little Hawaiian shirt bags sound so cute for Ohanas!

I know it's ridiculous and petty. I know that I'm a bridezilla for having such a problem with it... But oh well it's resolved and over now. Kathleen thinks it's funny that I've given the JA's there own acronym and that it makes them important. I said it's just so I don't have to be ill every time I read, say, think the words out!!!

SHOOOOOOT!! I should have taken pictures of the bags. I don't know if I'll get a chance to now either. The problem is, the welcome bags are not put together. They're going to be put together in FL. FSIL leave tomorrow. So she's got an extra day and a half start on me and I figured why buy everything like candy and water up here in MI and pack and fly it to FL. I'm going to give her explicit instructions to take pictures of everything so that I can post them up, even if it's after the wedding!!!

 

[FIREFLY01]

Hey When Do You Get To Disney? We Are Gettting There On Friday We Are Staying At Wl If You Need Anything Please Don't Hesitate To Ask, Pm If You Want And I'll Give You My Cell And Last Name For Room Reservation We Will Be There Till Monday!

 

[Lisella]

This is so exciting, Wendy. You are so close now. I know you are super stressed, but try really hard to focus on all the beautiful work you've done to prepare for the special day. In the end, it is all going to be such a special memory.

I'm sending special wishes your way for smooth sailing and fun times for the rest of the week and your trip!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Where do you work? I might have to drop some of my theater stuff and get a better job, but one where you might have a little time for DIS sounds heavenly

Okay, I think I meant to answer this before and then got wrapped up in the FMIL/FSIL comments instead.

I work for two amazing guys. They are partners and work in the metal stamping business. One does capital equipment sales. He buys and sells large metal stamping presses and related feed equipment. The other does part supplies for certain brands of afore mentioned presses. The one is 3 years older than me, married with 2 kids. One of the kindest, cool guys ever. The other is a year younger than me, married with 3 kids and another on the way I can't even imagine.

Anyhow. They're pretty great to me. I'm pretty much a Den Mother. I do it all. Answer the phones, file, sort, clean, remind them of things. I handle all the inventory tracking. I quote customers. You name it, I do it. I actually have quite a bit of work left for me, but I'm really, really unfocused. I'm really only here today to rack up the hours on my already pitiful check (I missed 10 hours last week and I'm off Thursday and Friday of this week.) My next check after that will use up my whole two weeks of vacation for the wedding and honeymoon! They're really flexible though with school and everything. If I ever need to leave early during a 'crunch' time they're pretty understanding. It's the best job for me right now, because they are so flexible.

That being said: Here's some pictures of my workspace, lol...

The really funny thing is that the CM name tag on the MK map is Wendy! How cool is that??

I can't wait to see the pictures!!!!!

Ugh... I'm such a yutz, but I forgot my camera for my hair trial. My bridesmaid/hairdresser Jenna took pics, but they're on her camera...

So, I just took a couple of pics of me sitting at my desk. Here are my highlights. Nothing drastic. We just got rid of the 8" roots and trimmed it up. And I'm pretty plain jane most of the time for work. I do look a little more tan though, so that's making me happy. I normally don't tan, but I didn't want to look like casper for the wedding. I'm going two more times before we leave. Today I'm going to do the stand-up and Thursday I'm using my free upgrade to the high pressure bed... eek! Hope I know what I'm doing.

Hey When Do You Get To Disney? We Are Gettting There On Friday We Are Staying At Wl If You Need Anything Please Don't Hesitate To Ask, Pm If You Want And I'll Give You My Cell And Last Name For Room Reservation We Will Be There Till Monday!

Isn't your wedding Sunday??? Oh gracious, I could never impose BEFORE your wedding, but you should totally come lurk at my wedding on Monday!

This is so exciting, Wendy. You are so close now. I know you are super stressed, but try really hard to focus on all the beautiful work you've done to prepare for the special day. In the end, it is all going to be such a special memory.

I'm sending special wishes your way for smooth sailing and fun times for the rest of the week and your trip!

Thank You!!

 

[Desnik]

I am so excited for you! I can't believe it's just a few days till your wedding. I know you are stressed, nervous and excited. But, try to enjoy every minute of it all. Even the bad parts. This will be the only time in your life you will do this so try not to sweat the small stuff and try to remember that this is all about you and DF starting the rest of your life together!!

 

[Desnik]

I posted the same time you did! Your highlights look great! Really natural.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I posted the same time you did! Your highlights look great! Really natural.

Thank you! I'm a natural kinda girl. That's why I don't look fake tanned, just slightly tanned. I'm very low-key, low maintainance. I didn't even have highlights for 3 years or something, but I was really bummed in the winter last year so I had to do something to brighten up. Now I'm plauged with the upkeep!

 

[keenercam]

Your hair is gorgeous!!!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Okay, I finally uploaded these photos, so I thought I'd do a little back tracking. There's a lot of drama that surrounded my shower. At one point FMIL wasn't going to come, etc...

I think I even posted up about my horrible nightmare I had the night before. I dreamt that Chuck and I were out and about and my shower was at 3pm (it was really at noon) and that Chuck took me to his friend's house and left me there while he went to run an errand. We were in Michigan, but I totally didn't know the area and I had no idea how to get to my shower. So then, I finally realized that I could take this subway/tunnel system. All I could think about was how angry FSIL and FMIL were going to be for me being late. So I'm in this tunnel system (very similar to the utilidors under MK only a lot cleaner ) and I'm following the signs to get to Jiko!!! Oh my.

So I woke up panicked. I was just very freaked out. Despite being together for 11 years, our families have never really mingled witht he exception of FSIL, she used to work for my mom. And there was such an age/culture gap between my mom and Chuck's mom. And some of my mom's side of the family are unique. So, I was just really freaked out about how everything is going to go.

So I get ready and head off to Champp's (yes, a sports bar at noon on a saturday ) I call a couple of my girlfriends to make sure they are on their way and they assure me that they are. Well, I get there at 11:55am and NO ONE from my side is there save one person. It's FMIL, FSIL, Chuck's grandmother and then FMIL's two friends and FSIL's two friends (who she didn't tell me she invited until the night before!?! Now, I know them and like them, but it was weird.) So, I start to panic and call people. I can't beleive my Mom is LATE!!! Ugh, so I'm talking to my single person, one of my Mom's friends who I've known my whole life and she's like, yeah... don't you know you're mom is alway late? Ummmmm.... NO! Finally everyone shows up and we get the show started. It was akward to say the least. We ordered lunch and then played a few games. After everyone had lunch we had desserts and started opening gifts. Well, right as I'm going to open gifts everyone decides to inform me that the # of ribbons you break is how many children you'll have... I didn't break one ribbon!!! Not that I don't want any children, but why tempt fate. We're just not ready now.

Me holding up a couple of gifts...

My step-father's sister-in-law gave me this gift. (So I guess she's my step-aunt-in-law?? lol) It's an expansion set for the lenox nativity set that I got when my step-father's mother, my Grandma B, passed away. It was really sweet that she passed it on to me, but a little bittersweet b/c they signed the card "Grandma B" and she hasn't been with us for over 5 years now! I got a little teary eyed!

So, something that was weird (to me) was that FSIL announced that they weren't paying for alcoholic drinks, so if you wanted to drink that you had to start a tab. Now, the reason this was kinda weird is b/c everyone had already ordered waters or soft drinks... However, my girlfriend Beth did start a tab and got me some drinks to help calm me a bit. It helped. I got all warm and fuzzy and smiley.

Also, my mom had asked me before she even flew in to MI from AZ what she should wear. She specifically asked if jeans and a sweater were okay and I very specifically said NO. I told her she should dress it up at least a little bit. It must have gone in one ear and out the other... She showed up in jeans and a big, chunky sweater...

That's my Mom's mom in the picture. And my grandma. But were just not that close. It was nice that she came though. Her and my Aunt got lost finding the place and that's why they were late. They're totally from a different part of town and they weren't familiar with the area.

Oh, and I was told that we weren't going to have a cake! And I kinda made a big deal about this b/c it just seemed weird to me. FSIL/FMIL decided they wanted to do small sweets instead. So there were all these little tarts and TWO chocolate strawberries?!? Everyone wanted the chocolate strawberries and it was weird to see grown women grumble over a chocolate covered strawberries. I mean, I love em and they're one of my favorite treats... but I didn't get one trying to keep everyone else happy. Well, I think FSIL got the point that I wanted a cake b/c she surprised me with one...

The cake topper is a bride dragging a groom and there's claw marks from where he's dragging his fingernails. It was funny. And everyone loved the cake the best of all the desserts. Hmpf.

Another weird thing... because my FSIL invited a couple of her girlfriends she sat with them the whole time. I mean, we're all friends and we've all been out together before, but it was just weird. I had other friends there, but it just seemed weird that she wasn't sitting with me?!?

Anyhow, it ended up being a success and people seemed to have an okay time, but to me it just seemed like something I needed to "get through." In fact this whole process just seems so surreal.

On a happy note... some pics of my niece. One with a chocolate covered strawberry

And my niece and I together...

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Your hair is gorgeous!!!

Thank You!!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

And can I just say that even though the shower was only 3 and a half weeks ago, it seems like another lifetime?

 

[hope1826]

Your niece is so adorable! She looks a lot like my nieces (which you will see in my future PJ or TR)

Your shower cake topper is hilarious!

I know I shouldn't be requesting this but... more pics??

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Your niece is so adorable! She looks a lot like my nieces (which you will see in my future PJ or TR)

I know... she's always been adorable. Mixed babies are sooo pretty!!!!

And you better get that PJ going!!! [insert stern smiley here]

Your shower cake topper is hilarious!

I know I shouldn't be requesting this but... more pics??

I thought the cake topper was pretty funny too! I promise more pics this afternoon (the bachlorette party!)

 

[Keira1387]

Wendy,
Your almost there! I really like the highlights. They look great! Can't wait to see more pics!!!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Wendy,
Your almost there! I really like the highlights. They look great! Can't wait to see more pics!!!

Thank You!!


OKAY, Question!! I never had a particular affinity towards any particular music for the ceremony. After talking to Chuck we just went with standard wedding music with the exception of the recessional.

After reading Caryns TR and the conversation that Mark had with the musician (I think) about the popularity of the Death March from Star Wars (in comparison to their star trek- tng song), I'm thinking that it would be really funny to switch the song to the death march and "surprise" Chuck. Am I'm just totally looney or does anyone else think this might be funny/ cute?? I mean heck... look at the cake topper from my shower. If everyone else can poke fun, shouldn't I be able to too???

What do you all think?? I'm not even going to ask MOH/FSIL her opinion, b/c she's just going to make that sour, disapproving look on her face and have that catch in her voice b/c it's not traditional.

 

[mla1977]

I think it would be hilarious, but then again, I have been pissing off DBF's family a lot lately. I told his brother that durian (really stinky Asian fruit) would not be eaten in my house in front of his mother. He lives with us and she had the nerve to get pissed because I was telling her son what to do. (The durian rule applies to everyone in our house.) Grr!

Anyways, I would find it funny to play that, as would most of my friends and family (they just expect that), but I would never hear the end of it from her.

I guess it depends on how long you want to hear about what you've done wrong with you wedding. When you have your own daugther's wedding, would you want to hear her complain about that song?