Well, things may not be as hopeless as I feared.

[Desparate Housewife]

DH sat down today and looked at bills and it's bad. But, not as bad and hopless as I feared. He feels we can be "back on track" within a month and in "good shape" within six months.

He said I would not likely ever get control of the bills again, which is fine with me as I know I can't handle them. Not to say that I won't get control of some money as he will give me an allowance once things are looking okay. And it also doesn't mean I will be in the dark about the finances as he wants me to sit with him when he does pay bills (work on them together, in a sense).

We had to wipe our savings out and will have to borrow a few hundred from my parents, but considering what I had feared, it'll do.

This has, of course, caused us to sit and talk about our marriage and why I hid things, etc. We both expressed things. So now, I am quite sure this situation will not lead to our divorce, although I am sure there will still be a fair share of arguing over the next month until things get under control again.

I plan on calling my doctor on Monday and asking him to refer me to counselling as, along with depression, there are other things that I think I need help with (an understatement).

So, although things are not good and I know there will be quite a few dark days ahead, there does seem to be some light at the end of the tunnel......it's just a really, really long tunnel.

Thanks to everyone for your support.

 

[Mimi Q]

Thanks for the update. I just know the two of you will work all this out.

 

[Serena]

I love it! I love that you two are working this out together. I am soooo happy for both of you.

I know it will be a long hard road, but it will be ok, and you both will be closer for it in the long run.

 

[Taylor]

Good luck to you.

 

[capthooksmom]

I didn't post to your other threads but I read them. I'm very happy for you. You're right. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[iNTeNSeBLue98]

Good luck working things out, together.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

 

[rasnlms]

The best of luck to you and your family.

 

[DaisyDebbie]

That's good to hear

 

[disneyworld!]

you must feel a HUGE weight off your mind!! It can only get better now!

 

[Octoberbeauty]

Glad to hear the light is shining bright!

 

[DMickey28]

I am glad that you are finally facing this. I struggle with the bills every month.. I have had to overcome the need to squirel all my money away Just in case (in case of what I don't know) to the point where bills get behind.... I have been working on it and am much better but I still struggle... then it feels hopeless to get out... but you do. I am glad that you can work together on this...

Once everything is out in the open it usually isn't as bad as it seems, I think because your mind and guilt make it so much worse to yourself....

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Glad you're on your way to working things out. I give you credit for having the courage to admit your problems and attempt to work out a solution. to you.

 

[Dan Murphy]

What a nice update.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Your DH sounds like a good guy! This must feel like a big weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Glad to hear you two are communicating!

TC

 

[DD2Disney]

So good to hear this. It is so important to work together like this. I hope everything works out good.

Tricia

 

[Feralpeg]

I'm very happy to hear things will be okay. Best of luck to you!

 

[Pop Daddy]

who are you ?

 

[2BOYMOM]

I'm go glad for you!

 

[Minniespal]

Thanks for the update ~ The best of luck to you and your family.