Well, I NEVER!

[ilovemk76]

It sounds like you need to only have small talk and no opinions or drop her from your FB friends.

 

[disykat]

The whole thing sounds so childish too me. She's mad at YOU because you said the same thing her husband said? Ok..whatever..if a friend gets mad that easily and without even trying to talk to you about it..it's not a friend worth having. IMHO.

How is that person being mad any different than the OP being mad? The whole thing sounds like a minor misunderstanding being turned into a huge drama by everyone involved.

A huge message board full of people bashing someone because she was irritated that someone rained on her vacation fun? Kind of ironic since this is a message board where people come to discuss every minute detail of their vacations!

 

[disneyismyname]

That isn't a friend, that is 5 year old brat in a grown up's body. unfriend.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I dunno, I sort of understand her being annoyed at your comment. It's like you are mocking her for liking a place where YOU think the food is horrible. I have a relative that is constantly posting negative stuff on my facebook feeds, little digs like this, and to her it may feel like you are being judgmental and attacking her taste.

I wouldn't get in a huge huff over it, though. Sounds like you may have just hit her on a sensitive day.

Either she is extremely crabby or she feels like you always have a negative comment. I know some people that no matter what you post their response is negative. It gets annoying. I wouldn't get that angry about it though

I agree with these posters. Of course we don't know the whole situation. If in general you're not overly critical of her then I think she was being way oversensitive. However, if it's normal for you to criticize her and say your opinions as fact then I can see her being annoyed.

I agree you have to put an lol after everything on facebook to not offend anyone

You'd think, but then some people get huffy and act like "lol" is the most stupid thing out there. I have one friend see a text that I'd written (not even to her....I was showing her something on my phone) and she said that she couldn't believe that I actually used "lol". Wow, high standards from that "friend".

UPDATE: So, this morning a mutual friend texted me. "do you have any idea why xxxx is mad?" No.

Because her husband agrees with me and tried to get her to go to Mike's to eat and then to the hangout for drinks or dessert or something! (he did this before she posted)

I had no clue. I don't ever talk to her husband (am not particularly fond of the man).

This is really getting dumber and dumber.

Oh, well; she will either get over it or not. But either way, I will be spared of the blow by blow accounts of her weekend!

That's actually kind of funny. Did she think that you and her husband had some sort of a conspiracy?

The whole thing sounds so childish too me. She's mad at YOU because you said the same thing her husband said? Ok..whatever..if a friend gets mad that easily and without even trying to talk to you about it..it's not a friend worth having. IMHO.

Didn't you know that friends can't agree with our spouses?


Giving her the benefit of the doubt, perhaps she was tired of being criticized, hormonal (speaking of one who is very hormonal right now ), and her husband saw your comment and razzed her about it. Who knows.

 

[luvsJack]

How is that person being mad any different than the OP being mad? The whole thing sounds like a minor misunderstanding being turned into a huge drama by everyone involved.

A huge message board full of people bashing someone because she was irritated that someone rained on her vacation fun? Kind of ironic since this is a message board where people come to discuss every minute detail of their vacations!

I wasn't mad. Confused but not mad.

 

[maxiesmom]

Haven't you ever heard 'if you don't have anything nice to say....'?

I think your comment was rude and it would have annoyed me.

I have to agree. I'm not sure why you felt you had to make negative comments about a place your friend was clearly enjoying. What was the purpose? It just made you sound like you think you are superior to her, and your tastes are superior. After all, she was enjoying inferrior food! How can you think she wouldn't be annoyed by that?

I would be offended and I probably wouldn't talk to you or facebook you for a while either.

 

[luvsJack]

I have to agree. I'm not sure why you felt you had to make negative comments about a place your friend was clearly enjoying. What was the purpose? It just made you sound like you think you are superior to her, and your tastes are superior. After all, she was enjoying inferrior food! How can you think she wouldn't be annoyed by that?

I would be offended and I probably wouldn't talk to you or facebook you for a while either.

Well, she is actually over it apparently because she sent me an IM asking when we are going.

She didn't say she was enjoying the food. Its not like she was saying "YUMMY, this is the BEST hamburger" or any such. She said she was at a cool place or a fun place or something like that. And no I do not think I am superior to her or have a problem with her tastes.

I just made a comment about the food in a place in a vacation spot. I wasn't dissing her life, her family or her.

And the purpose was in giving my honest opinion about a place that others were asking about. The place can be a lot of fun and we go there as much as she does. So, its not like I am looking down my nose at her for being there.

 

[tlbwriter]

She didn't say she was enjoying the food. Its not like she was saying "YUMMY, this is the BEST hamburger" or any such. She said she was at a cool place or a fun place or something like that. And no I do not think I am superior to her or have a problem with her tastes.

I just made a comment about the food in a place in a vacation spot. I wasn't dissing her life, her family or her.

But even if you weren't, it might have sounded/felt to her as if you were.

 

[design_mom]

And the purpose was in giving my honest opinion about a place that others were asking about. The place can be a lot of fun and we go there as much as she does. So, its not like I am looking down my nose at her for being there.

Glad to hear your friend seems to be "over it." I also agree with the previous poster that she might have taken it wrong. Sometimes intent is so hard to read.

If others on the thread who had never been were asking about the place, I think some could see a difference in tone between "Great place. Awful food. Go to Mike's Seafood instead." and "If you're going to [vacation spot], The Hangout is a super fun place to hang out... but don't miss Mike's Seafood for a great meal." or something like that. I am sure you were trying to be brief but...

 

[Christine]

Well, she is actually over it apparently because she sent me an IM asking when we are going.

She didn't say she was enjoying the food. Its not like she was saying "YUMMY, this is the BEST hamburger" or any such. She said she was at a cool place or a fun place or something like that. And no I do not think I am superior to her or have a problem with her tastes.

I just made a comment about the food in a place in a vacation spot. I wasn't dissing her life, her family or her.

And the purpose was in giving my honest opinion about a place that others were asking about. The place can be a lot of fun and we go there as much as she does. So, its not like I am looking down my nose at her for being there.

Don't feel like you need to defend yourself. I get that you didn't mean anything by it, but obviously, right or wrong, your friend took it the wrong way. I think most of us were just pointing out WHY she may have taken it the wrong way. You didn't really do anything wrong. I'm not all Pollyanna Sunshine myself and I can see posting something like you did but do recognize that there are LEGIONS of super-sensitive people out there who will look at a remark like that and think badly of it.

 

[luvsJack]

Don't feel like you need to defend yourself. I get that you didn't mean anything by it, but obviously, right or wrong, your friend took it the wrong way. I think most of us were just pointing out WHY she may have taken it the wrong way. You didn't really do anything wrong. I'm not all Pollyanna Sunshine myself and I can see posting something like you did but do recognize that there are LEGIONS of super-sensitive people out there who will look at a remark like that and think badly of it.

I guess that is really the key--some folks are just more sensitive about stuff. She does seem to be over it but I will try to remember in the future to be careful how I voice my opinion of something. I really wasn't trying to hurt her feelings.

I just really never, ever imagined anyone would be sensitive about resteraunt food! I mean really I can't help but giggle every time I think about it. And I can already see that its going to be one of those little inside jokes in the office.

At least 3 times today I have gotten the "SOOOOO, I hear you DON"T like the food at The Hangout. How could you?" I am guessing that she either told the office gossip, told everyone she could think of or maybe it was more obvious than I thought on FB. Hopefully they will knock it off before she comes back tomorrow or at least wait and see if she can see the humor in it.

 

[beaucoup]

She sounds like too much work. Not worth it to me. Bye bye.