Well, I NEVER!

[Poohforyou]

She isn't usually quite so sensative but I think I will be a very quiet friend for awhile.



She and I usually actually talk back and forth going from fb to text when we start discussing something like that. She is ignoring me. The only thing she said was "that was totally uncalled for" uhmmm, ok??

I think that is EXACTLY what I will tell her.

Maybe she's upset about your saying "be safe" rather than about the horrible food. She may think you were implying that she drinks irresponsibly or something like that.

 

[ilovemk76]

I have had people get mad at me over some dumb stuff before, but I think this takes the cake.

Friend is in Gulf Shores for the weekend. She posted on FB that she is at The Hangout. Several people were commenting about it and I said "fun place, horrible food" and went on to say that when we go in July, we have already told dd and friend that we will "hangout" at the Hangout but eat at Mike's Seafood. And then I said "have fun and be safe". Just a comment. I really thought she would say something about loving the food at Mike's and agreeing about the food at The Hangout. We all love Gulf Shores and compare trips all the time, making suggestions or talking what we found to be fun or whatever.

She's mad! She won't even speak to me! Its the craziest thing. If I had known she was so sensitive about the food at The Hangout, I certainly would have never said anything.

Oh, well, maybe I won't have to see anymore posts about every step she has taken down there. "on the beach" "at the pool" "at Lulu's" "walking down the street" etc. etc. etc.

You really can't see how she might be offended by your comments? Just because you think the food is horrible does not mean she does.

 

[Buckalew11]

You really can't see how she might be offended by your comments? Just because you think the food is horrible does not mean she does.

I agree. It is a FB page, not a BB, lol.

She probably read your message to her DH and he probably thought it was a jerky thing to say--like they had poor taste for eating there. JMO

 

[Swan4Me]

I have had people get mad at me over some dumb stuff before, but I think this takes the cake.

Friend is in Gulf Shores for the weekend. She posted on FB that she is at The Hangout. Several people were commenting about it and I said "fun place, horrible food" and went on to say that when we go in July, we have already told dd and friend that we will "hangout" at the Hangout but eat at Mike's Seafood.

Trip advisor-The Hangout 3 stars
Mike's seafood 3 1/2 stars

So maybe you exaggerate how much better mike's is

Lots of people have a faveote place they long to go to each year on vacation-maybe this is hers and by putting it down you "dissed" her

 

[Tink888]

Maybe your negativity about where she was just got on her nerves. Sounds like she was just being easy-breezy and pumped about her little vacation and you sort of "rained on her parade."

Certainly not a reason to ignore you or act like that but your remark does sort of remind me of the Debbie Downer character on Saturday Night Live.

This. Kind of petty of her to get so mad over something so trivial but you know the old saying......if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

 

[luvsJack]

One thing about the internet, whether it be facebook, email,etc. sometimes it's hard to understand the "tone" of what is written. someone who may be joking around doesn't put j/k or whatever, and it could be thought of as not a joke.


Then again people are just nuts.

I'm going with nuts.

I could understand better if I said "you are going THERE?" The food is horrible!" But I love the place just like she does, just not the food. With two teen girls along, I am sure we will spend as much time there as we do the beach when we go in July.

 

[luvsJack]

I agree with this. She was enjoying yourself and was probably eating their food and liking it fine. Why rain on her parade?

I don't think her thinking it was an uncalled for comment and not continuing to respond ( by my understanding she's in the middle of her vacation) was any worse than telling someone you don't like a place she is currently enjoying.

Think of it it terms of WDW. Would you want someone telling you how bad the food is when you're there and having fun? Let her enjoy her trip. If she's mad when she gets home, THEN she's over-reacting. IMO right now she just wants to enjoy her trip.

Well, if we had not had many conversations about this place before, I could see what your saying. But its a place you go to for fun and to "hang out" not really the food. On Friday and Saturday nights it can be a 3 hour wait for a table and if you like over priced chicken strips and fries, I guess it can be ok? We go because dd and friend have a ball dancing in the dining room, listening to the live bands, playing fooseball and volleyball on the beach.

As for WDW, the SAME person and I have had conversations of the place. She likes some things about WDW, but not a lot. It really doesn't cause a problem. I have my preferences and she has hers. If we are talking with someone who hasn't been to WDW, I would't get in a tizzy if she gave her opinion about the things she doesn't like.

Maybe she's upset about your saying "be safe" rather than about the horrible food. She may think you were implying that she drinks irresponsibly or something like that.

Then she has more issues than I first thought.

You really can't see how she might be offended by your comments? Just because you think the food is horrible does not mean she does.

I didn't say HER food was horrible, I said the food at The Hangout was horrible! I also said the place is a lot of fun.

Trip advisor-The Hangout 3 stars
Mike's seafood 3 1/2 stars

So maybe you exaggerate how much better mike's is

Lots of people have a faveote place they long to go to each year on vacation-maybe this is hers and by putting it down you "dissed" her

Not sure who gave the stars, but if you prefer frozen chicken strips and fries over hand battered gulf shrimp, I guess they could be that close. I have eaten both places in the same weekend. They are two very different type of places.

We LOVE going to The Hangout. Its a lot of fun--and that is really what you are paying for. Its a beach hang out themed placed with all kinds of stuff going on. Its a lot of fun and we go everytime we go to Gulf Shores. Just not to eat.

She didn't say "YUMMY, we are eating at the Hangout". She just said she was at a fun place. People asked where, she said where. She and I were kind of jumping back and forth talking about the stuff that is there.

I love eating at Le Cellier every time I go to WDW. But I KNOW there are people on this board that do not like it. I don't even know anyone IRL and I can guarantee you that if you don't like it, I. . Don't. . Care! Its not something worth getting my undies in a twist about. I certainly wouldn't act like a brat to a friend!

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Maybe it's her favorite place to eat and you insulted her taste. Or she is related to the owner or something.

 

[shortbun]

Facebook is wonderful, isn't it?

 

[LuvOrlando]

I don't know that angry is ok but I can see someone getting peeved when contradicted on their own page. I have posted things now and then where people come in and spew their opinions on my page and it's irritating, sort of like coming to my house for dinner and telling me what to eat. MY page is for my thoughts and my friends, if someone else has a contradictory thought the place to say it is on their page where their friends can read it and agree with them.

If you don't know why she's upset I guess I's start here, I hope it all blows over soon.

 

[luvsJack]

UPDATE: So, this morning a mutual friend texted me. "do you have any idea why xxxx is mad?" No.

Because her husband agrees with me and tried to get her to go to Mike's to eat and then to the hangout for drinks or dessert or something! (he did this before she posted)

I had no clue. I don't ever talk to her husband (am not particularly fond of the man).

This is really getting dumber and dumber.

Oh, well; she will either get over it or not. But either way, I will be spared of the blow by blow accounts of her weekend!

 

[Buckalew11]

Well, then, there was tension to begin with if he wanted to eat elsewhere and she insisted on "The Hangout". I would think this will probably blow over quickly. It was a heat of the moment type of thing--that's my guess.

 

[tlbwriter]

Maybe your negativity about where she was just got on her nerves. Sounds like she was just being easy-breezy and pumped about her little vacation and you sort of "rained on her parade."

Certainly not a reason to ignore you or act like that but your remark does sort of remind me of the Debbie Downer character on Saturday Night Live.

Yeah, that's what it sounds like to me... she was having a good time and enjoying the place, and maybe your remark sounded condescending or snarky to her and she didn't appreciate you criticizing the activity she was enjoying.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Maybe your negativity about where she was just got on her nerves. Sounds like she was just being easy-breezy and pumped about her little vacation and you sort of "rained on her parade."

Certainly not a reason to ignore you or act like that but your remark does sort of remind me of the Debbie Downer character on Saturday Night Live.

That's what I'm thinking. OP, if I posted what she did and you responded what you did, I might be slightly annoyed, but I would be angry about it. Maybe she's got other things going on that is making her extra sensitive or possibly you say negative things more often than she thinks someone should and it's been getting on her nerves/building up?

oops - meant to say: "wouldn't be angry."

Saw the update and can understand why she was upset, but I still don't think she should be mad at you.

 

[Christine]

That's what I'm thinking. OP, if I posted what she did and you responded what you did, I might be slightly annoyed, but I would be angry about it. Maybe she's got other things going on that is making her extra sensitive or possibly you say negative things more often than she thinks someone should and it's been getting on her nerves/building up?

Add to that, her husband didn't want to go there because of the food!

 

[ilovemk76]

UPDATE: So, this morning a mutual friend texted me. "do you have any idea why xxxx is mad?" No.

Because her husband agrees with me and tried to get her to go to Mike's to eat and then to the hangout for drinks or dessert or something! (he did this before she posted)

I had no clue. I don't ever talk to her husband (am not particularly fond of the man).

This is really getting dumber and dumber.

Oh, well; she will either get over it or not. But either way, I will be spared of the blow by blow accounts of her weekend!

Such a nice friend you must be.

 

[luvsJack]

Such a nice friend you must be.

You would have to know her. I normally do listen to every detail she feels compelled to tell me. (and believe me in the future I won't comment) But everyone here does get tired of it just a bit.

When it goes from being an excited "we had so much fun and I really want to tell you about it" to "I want you to think I am special because I can afford this hotel or to do xxxxx"--it gets a bit old quickly. She is how she is and I accept her for that but do have to tune her out sometimes.

Just like this little tiff she has going. I will never mention it again and she will get over it, I am sure, and all will be well.

I might add, we are more the co-workers going out to lunch together type of friends; not best friends that share everything etc. type of friends.

 

[jrmasm]

I have had people get mad at me over some dumb stuff before, but I think this takes the cake.

Friend is in Gulf Shores for the weekend. She posted on FB that she is at The Hangout. Several people were commenting about it and I said "fun place, horrible food" and went on to say that when we go in July, we have already told dd and friend that we will "hangout" at the Hangout but eat at Mike's Seafood. And then I said "have fun and be safe". Just a comment. I really thought she would say something about loving the food at Mike's and agreeing about the food at The Hangout. We all love Gulf Shores and compare trips all the time, making suggestions or talking what we found to be fun or whatever.

She's mad! She won't even speak to me! Its the craziest thing. If I had known she was so sensitive about the food at The Hangout, I certainly would have never said anything.

Oh, well, maybe I won't have to see anymore posts about every step she has taken down there. "on the beach" "at the pool" "at Lulu's" "walking down the street" etc. etc. etc.

Haven't you ever heard 'if you don't have anything nice to say....'?

I think your comment was rude and it would have annoyed me.

 

[luvmy3]

I think your friend needs to grow up, getting upset or offended because someone doesn't share your opinion about a restaurant's food, is like when a 5 year old is mad at their friend for not liking the same color as them.

 

[XTinabell]

The whole thing sounds so childish too me. She's mad at YOU because you said the same thing her husband said? Ok..whatever..if a friend gets mad that easily and without even trying to talk to you about it..it's not a friend worth having. IMHO.