wedding guest attire

[Michie]

Went to a wedding Saturday, had a wonderful time, the bride and groom just beautiful. But I noticed some of the guests, wore flip-flops. I can see if this was a beach wedding, but it wasn't They were just run of the mill, dirty flip flops One lady, not a teenager, had on just the most beautiful dress, but flip-flops

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I wore heels to every wedding I've been to except my own (I wore ballet flats to that one, since the groom was shorter than me). That's a personal preference. If I liked flats, I would wear them. But flip-flops???? That's very tacky.

 

[Darcy]

flats yes...flip flops no and i live in one of the most casual places in the US ie I wore shorts to a nice restraunt and was dressed like 98% of the other diners...

BUT i always dress for weddings as a sign of respect unless invitation states otherwise.

 

[gradtchr]

My MOH and I will both have on flip flops after the ceremony. We talked and both want comfort for the Wishes Cruise we are having after. I personally would not wear them to someone's wedding unless there was a reason. For example I have a dress that has a matching pair of flip flops but it's a matching set........

 

[Dopey Sharon]

BUT i always dress for weddings as a sign of respect unless invitation states otherwise.

Well, I would hope you would dress for the wedding! Unless it was held at a nudist colony! Sorry, I couldn't pass that one up!

Anyway, my niece got married last Saturday. She was Bridezilla in that EVERYTHING had to be just so. On the invitations was "Black Tie Optional". She wanted all the aunts to wear gowns and all the uncles to wear tuxedos. At the reception, SHE bought all nine bridesmaids flip flops to change into. She also wore them.

I would never wear flip flops to a wedding, unless it was a very casual beach one. But I really don't care what other people are wearing, as long as they are wearing something.

Oh, and BTW, I didn't wear a gown and my DH didn't wear a tux.

 

[Mary Anne]

I hate, hate, hate flip flops any where but at a pool or a beach. I see people wearing them in the office also. It kills me that the dress code makes a big thing about no jeans but flip flops are fine. (Not that I would wear either.)

Personally, it's a style that I hope goes the way of many that have gone before it.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

Last June, my son's graduation ceremony was held at a heritage theatre downtown. Some of the girls wore flip-flops with their graduation gowns! Ridiculous.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

That's bananas. I always wear a dress or dress pants w/ a blouse or nice top.

 

[aprilgail2]

To the actual wedding I wear anything, dont dress up for the church part but for the reception I get dressed....I normally try to NOT attend the church part anyway, I am not into religion and the actual ceremony bores me to tears.

 

[DawnCt1]

To the actual wedding I wear anything, dont dress up for the church part but for the reception I get dressed....I normally try to NOT attend the church part anyway, I am not into religion and the actual ceremony bores me to tears.

What do you do? Run home and change?? Most receptions in our area of the country follow the ceremony. I can't imagine wearing one thing to the ceremony and dressing up for the reception.

 

[stinkerbelle]

at my wedding, after my ceremony and pictures...I changed into white flip flops. (brand new - not dirty).

I could have cared less what people thought of me. They are my feet...I wanted to be comfortable for the reception. I had people come up and comment to me that they were cute and very "me"

it's not for everyone...

As a guest, I wouldn't wear flip flops to a wedding or ANYTHING in a church (jmo)...but even to the reception, I would leave my heels on all night (or dance barefoot if I was really liquored up. heheh)

but I'm the kind of person that keeps flip flops in her car year round - after wearing heels all day at work - I like to drive home in something comfortable.

 

[golfgal]

I have noticed the trend where flip-flops have become dress shoes. I don't get it either.

 

[swilphil]

Dirty, rubber flip flops would be bad, but there are such a wide variety of dressy flip flops out there. I have a pair that are leather with silk and jewel trim. I really consider them more to be sandals, but they are in the flip flop style. I wear them to church all the time. I actually don't think they are that comfy, so I wouldn't wear them to a wedding.

 

[pat fan]

I tend to agree with just about everyone here, but what about men's "sandals" ? They are in the flip-flop style, but leather. And what about men's leather sandals? We are going to a wedding next week in Va. and I know it's going to be hot, so that's what all my men will be wearing. The boys have the "flip-flop" style and my DH has the actual sandals. I of course will be doing the whole pantyhose/heels thing

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I have noticed the trend where flip-flops have become dress shoes. I don't get it either.

I try to avoid flip flops in general to church--but the trend in Florida--at least along the coast where I live is dressed up slides and flip flops. I do where slides.

I just can't wear heals. My rule--if it is made of "foam", then it is not dressy in the least. Other materials--depends on the outfit.

 

[Disney Doll]

I think
the idea here is more the type of flip-flops, perhaps?

There's a difference between a nice-looking flat backless sandal and a pair of rubber thongs you bought at the grocery store for $2.99.

If I was wearing a sundress to a wedding, and had a nice dressy pair of flat sandals that went perfectly with it, I wouldn't hesitate to wear them. I wouldn't be wearing my rubber pool-side flip-flops, however.

I also think that having a cute pair of flats to change into at a wedding is OK, again, as long as they are not the dirty rubber shoes I schlep around in. I wore flat ballerina-type shoes for my wedding because I wanted to be comfy and everyone was horrified!!!! They were white leather flat shoes with a cute little bow on the toe. Dressy and quite appropriate for a wedding, but because they weren't "heels", I was going against every bride "rule" there was. But I wasn't a young bride, so I didn't mind breaking a few rules.

 

[Keli]

Personally, I never wear flipflops because I haven't been able to handle having something between my toes. I'm looking for a pair that don't bother me though because everyone says they are so comfy.
My dd wears flip-flops to church all the time, especially at mid-week services. People dress much more casually to church now than they did when I was her age so she fits in with what others are wearing.
As for weddings, so far I've never seen Ashli leaving the house for a wedding dressed casually enough to wear flipflops.

 

[caitycaity]

i have worn flip flop style (but leather) shoes to weddings before. i don't think it's a big deal unless they are the rubber/plastic beach kind.

What do you do? Run home and change?? Most receptions in our area of the country follow the ceremony. I can't imagine wearing one thing to the ceremony and dressing up for the reception.

while i personally have never done this, it seems to be de rigeur at most every wedding i've been to in the dc area. most everyone will change between the ceremony and reception and there is time to do so. it also seems wierd to me, but most people do it here so...?

 

[DawnCt1]

while i personally have never done this, it seems to be de rigeur at most every wedding i've been to in the dc area. most everyone will change between the ceremony and reception and there is time to do so. it also seems wierd to me, but most people do it here so...?

In our area, the reception usually follows the ceremony and there is time to drive from the church to the reception, enjoy cocktails and appetizers while the wedding party goes for pictures. The reception is usually within 15 miles of the church (or less) so leaving and driving home would rarely be an option. I also do not understand what one would wear to the actual wedding that one wouldn't wear to the reception.

 

[caitycaity]

In our area, the reception usually follows the ceremony and there is time to drive from the church to the reception, enjoy cocktails and appetizers while the wedding party goes for pictures. The reception is usually within 15 miles of the church (or less) so leaving and driving home would rarely be an option. I also do not understand what one would wear to the actual wedding that one wouldn't wear to the reception.

i think part of the problem here is that people want to get married at their local house of worship, but don't like the reception venues nearby. most every wedding i've been to around here the ceremony took place at a house of worship and the reception took place elsewhere. in dc - elsewhere can mean ~20 miles and at least an hour drive.

also, many weddings here are fairly formal affairs. sonce there is so much time between the ceremony and reception, you might not feel comfortable wearing a little black dress or formal dress to a ceremony at 4pm. but the reception is at 7 so by then you feel more comfortable doing so. generally i just wear a nice pantsuit that can be dressed up/down.