Wedding gift?

[disneylover23]

Hi we have a wedding to attend in 2 weeks. He is my mothers cousins son ... we haven’t seen them in years . The wedding is at a beach resort. What is an appropriate gift amount to give? I haven’t been to a wedding in probably 10 years.
Thanks in advance !

 

[kymom99]

You are going to get numbers all over the place. I would send $30-$50 but you will have people telling you $300.

 

[disneylover23]

You are going to get numbers all over the place. I would send $30-$50 but you will have people telling you $300.

Thank you! I figured I would get a vast $ differential but I’d like to hear it all.

 

[Searc]

I'd send $50, because you are not close.

 

[LuckyMamaInDE]

What part of the country are you (and they) from?

 

[disneylover23]

What part of the country are you (and they) from?

Northeast. New Jersey specifically

 

[speedyfishy]

Northeast. New Jersey specifically

Because of this I’d do at least $200 for a couple, but if it was me I’d give $300 even though you aren’t close to ensure I covered my plate

 

[TwoMisfits]

If you are going, I'd do between $100-$200, depending on what you can afford. Myself, it would be $100, b/c that's a pretty distant relationship and money is still a big factor for us (aka, it's limited)...

If you are not (it seems you are from your post, but I wasn't 100% sure), I'd do between $50-$100, depending on what you can afford.

 

[mjkacmom]

Northeast. New Jersey specifically

$300.

 

[MrsPete]

As a Southerner, I never give money. I'd pick something from their registry.

 

[piccolopat]

I don't know why people invite people that they haven't seen in years. I would likely decline an invitation like this and then send a smaller gift, perhaps $50. If I was attending a wedding in northern New Jersey, I would give $200-300 depending on how close I was to the couple.

 

[mjkacmom]

As a Southerner, I never give money. I'd pick something from their registry.

It sounds like the OP is here in Jersey, we don’t give actual wedding gifts here.

 

[disneylover23]

Thanks for all the input we are in New Jersey. The wedding is in south jersey at a small beach venue. Ceremony on beach reception after in restaurant attached

 

[Disneyfan754321]

We give 50 cause they are not close. Are they registered somewhere? Worth asking you could still get out cheaper yet. We went in with other people on a target gift, target gives you an option for that on there registry

 

[`OhanaHare]

Something from their registry or 50-100$

 

[goofygurly]

$50 and a lovely card. But that also depends on how well you know the couple.

 

[KayKayJS]

Having planned a wedding in this decade (and ours was on a budget) I would not go if I couldn’t give at least $50 per person.

I usually get a personalized gift as well as to not be impersonal.

 

[disneylover23]

Thanks for all the input everyone! I was thinking old school since back in the day it was expected to “pay for your plate” however I’ve read that is thankfully no longer a thing.

I’m thinking we might be ok to give between $100-150 I don’t want to be cheap but I also,feel like I don’t really know them so I don’t feel the need to give more if that makes sense
In hindsight we should have declined the invite and just sent a small gift

 

[okeydokey]

It sounds like the OP is here in Jersey, we don’t give actual wedding gifts here.

Some people in Jersey do, my family does.

 

[okeydokey]

Thanks for all the input everyone! I was thinking old school since back in the day it was expected to “pay for your plate” however I’ve read that is thankfully no longer a thing.

I’m thinking we might be ok to give between $100-150 I don’t want to be cheap but I also,feel like I don’t really know them so I don’t feel the need to give more if that makes sense
In hindsight we should have declined the invite and just sent a small gift

I think you are fine with 100.