Wedding Gift WWYD

[happily single]

I work in a very small office, and as such all employees were invited to the wedding of an employee here. Unfortunately I wam unable to attend due to my dd moving into her college that day (out of state). I was planning on sending along a gift from their registry and verbally explained the reason for my not attending.

I was just approached by my boss who informed me the company will be providing a group gift to the employee and his future wife in the form of a check.

Would you still send a gift? I am pretty sure I will still send a gift as the registry was extremely reasonable and that's just my nature. I am just curious if you would still also send along a gift if you are included in a group gift

 

[kimblebee]

I'd say it depends how close you are to the coworker. If you know them more then hey, how's it going chat in the coffee room, sure, send your own gift.

 

[pryncess527]

It would depend on my relationship with the co-worker.

I don't usually give money as a wedding gift (nor is it common in my region), so unless I was not particularly close to the co-worker, I'd be inclined to buy a small gift from the registry. I always have those sent to the couple's registry address before the wedding, so would do that whether I attended or not.

 

[King Schultz]

Are you contributing to the 'group gift'?

 

[powellrj]

Since the registry is reasonable, I would go ahead and send a gift and explain to her why you can't attend. That is really nice of your boss.

 

[fly girl]

It all depends on if youre contributing to the workplace gift, and how close you are with this coworker.

If you're not contributing (just the company) I'd definitely send a separate nice gift.

Also, if you are close with this peer (and contributing) a tiny little added gift never hurts.

So basically I would probably give more than the group gift, but how much would be determined my those factors.

 

[verleniahall]

Agree with some of the PP's - are you giving to the "work gift" how much are they expecting each person to give?

I would also do a small gift and explain why wyou won't be ther e

 

[brooke789]

I must be reading it wrong. It sounded to me like the company was giving the money for the check in lieu of people buying their own gifts...

 

[pryncess527]

I must be reading it wrong. It sounded to me like the company was giving the money for the check in lieu of people buying their own gifts...

That is how I interpreted it too. In my last office, people contributed to a General Fund that was used to cover these types of things, so while people may have given to the fund, they don't contribute specifically to a gift.

 

[King Schultz]

I must be reading it wrong. It sounded to me like the company was giving the money for the check in lieu of people buying their own gifts...

That's why I asked about it. . . I was curious if there was a reason for the boss doing this aside from being a nice guy/gal.

Has there been issues before with people one-upping each other in situations like this? Hard feelings? Is there a reason he/she might not want people buying individual gifts?

I'm probably over-thinking it but was just curious.

To be honest, it seems a bit odd for the boss to 'announce' what the gift will be rather than asking.

 

[aprilgail]

I don't think I would give an additional gift- giving anything other than cash/check at a wedding would be very odd- the registry is for the shower and wedding is cash/check not a physical gift- at least for around this area so I would not give anything else.

 

[MrsDuck]

I probably wouldn't be giving an additional gift if I contributed to the group one.