wedding gift registry question/vent

[brandylouwho]

Ok, I know there have been a ton of venting threads about parties, registries, etc but I just got a notice today that was strange (to me). It is regarding a wedding that I am standing up in in October. The couple has been very clear (annoying) about letting us know about their gift wishes--a save the date magnet w/ a note to give Home depot cards or cash since they have to fly or ship all presents back to a different home state, a shower invite w/ registry info (which is OK to me since it didn't come from the bride), a wedding invite w/ registry info ,and now this thing.

Today I get a little card (looked sort of like a small invite) regarding their Macy's gift registry. It wasn't hand written and actually appeared to come from Macy's not the bride. Does Macy's do this? Did she jsut give them her invite list or something? I don't know how to ask her because I don't thik I can hide what I thought of it. I just thought how strange. Actually I thought "how greedy are you , jeez!"

I don't like it one bit and the devil in me wants to give them a good old fashioned gift that wasn't on any of these registries just because I am that way.

 

[EpcotSweetHrts0512]

Hi! We registered at Macy's and they do give you little cards with your registry info on it, etc. We didn't use them, but I thought they were to enclose in bridal shower invites or something. I can't believe they have given so many "hints" about what they want... that's just rude! We didn't put any registry info on anything... I think a lot of people called to ask my mom though.

 

[megthewonderful]

A save the date magnet that included their wishes for cash or Home Depot gift cards? Wow. People are getting greedy. They should be grateful for any gifts they receive. If they are being married far from home, most people know to have gifts shipped directly to the couple and not bring them to the wedding.
It seems quite rude to me, but nothing surprises me these days!

 

[LadyShea]

Tacky and rude! Registries originated for the convenience of the couple's friends and family, so they would know china and crystal patterns etc. then expanded to all preferences, again as a courtesy for the friends and family, to make it easier for them to choose a gift the couple might like.

It was never meant to be what it seems to be today. One should call the bride's mother or maid of honor or other to find out where the couple is registered if interested in choosing off the registry, not have the "want list" thrust upon them every time they turn around.

Like the OP, I would be inclined to choose a gift not on the registry at all.

 

[Bren's Mom]

Tacky, tacky, tacky! Regsitry info is fine in a shower invite. Period. NOT in a wedding invite, save the date card, etc.

And the registry is meant to be for the convenience of the gift-GIVER. If it's irritating you OP (as it would me) I'd go ahead and choose something from my heart NOT on the registry.

 

[budbeerlady]

Sounds like its time to buy a nice picture frame for the bride to be.

Stuff like that drives me nuts! I like to ask the mother, friend, etc what they enjoy or are looking for.

I didnt put it out there that I was registered anywhere, my Mother in Law let people know who asked her that I was registered at a local shop and I recieved all 12 place settings of my China. It is worth far more to me than some towels or a vacumn from Kohls!

 

[Vijoge]

Sounds like its time to buy a nice picture frame for the bride to be.

Sounds to me like it's time to buy the happy couple an etiquette book!

 

[Mallory]

They are going to upset a lot of people and end up with a lot of junk that's not on their registry!