Wedding Gift Question

[Scurvy]

Being that you don't socialize with this couple, nor are they your friends, I would not feel obligated to send a gift.

I would just send them a nice card.

Same here.

 

[Freyja]

I would send them a card.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

I'm also from NJ, and would send $100 (and would have given $200 if I had actually attended).

Have fun in WDW!!!

Wow! You would send $100 to a couple you hardly know because they sent you an invite? You are either extremely generous or very well-off.

 

[krcit]

Being that you don't socialize with this couple, nor are they your friends, I would not feel obligated to send a gift.

I would just send them a nice card.

On rereading that you hardly know them, I would just send my regrets

 

[NikkiLovesWDW!]

I'm in NJ also!

I agree with the posters who said they wouldn't send a gift. I got married last summer and we didn't get one gift from people who RSVPed "no," with the exception of 1 first cousin from Florida who couldn't make the trip.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

I'm in NJ also!

I agree with the posters who said they wouldn't send a gift. I got married last summer and we didn't get one gift from people who RSVPed "no," with the exception of 1 first cousin from Florida who couldn't make the trip.

My relationship with the bride and groom determines whether or not I send a gift. So family and close friends will always get something regardless of whether or not I attend the wedding.

If I barely know the people getting married, I wouldn't feel obligated to send a gift (and would instead wonder why I was invited in the first place ).

 

[pixiewings71]

OP if I could afford it I would probably find a nice picture frame and send it to them, they could then have a nice new frame for their wedding photo. I also like the suggestion of a restuarant gift card, I think that would be highly appreciated as well.
That said, if you aren't close to them simply respond with a "no" and don't send anything. That's what I would do.

 

[Art 1]

$50.

 

[kacaju]

We actually have never hung out with them or gone out with them.

Well, for what it is worth...I live in NJ and if I got an invitation like that I would decline and not think of it agin. No gift...maybe a card closer to the wedding if I remembered.

 

[Minnie]

My thoughts exactly.

There is no obligation to send a gift.

ITA

 

[PaulaSue]

I'd agree....

It sounds like the OP really doesnt know this couple, based on her description of their relationship I dont think I'd really even call them "friends" at this time.

An invite (IMO) doesnt mean you have to send a gift. If that were the case, I'd have invited everyone I ever knew to my wedding!! Now if you were actually going to go, then you would need a gift but in this case I'd save the money and use it to have more fun at Disney!!

Seems like a gift grab to me.

Ditto

 

[emma'smom]

I wouldn't send something with a blatant amount of $$ attached to it-- that way you don't get into "how much" and looking like you sent too little.

I get that you'll see this couple around and want to do a little something....but I would find something small and meaningful and explain why it's so meaningful in an attached note. That personal connection will make it unique and special more than a gift card would:

"Sending you a copy of one of my favorite cookbooks, we've had many a happy meal as a family around recipes from this books. May your family enjoy making your own warm memories!"

"Enclosed is a small sculpture similar to one that we received at our wedding. The saying "Health, Happiness, and the Time to Enjoy Them" reminds me daily of what's most important! May you have plenty of "time to enjoy" in you new life together!"

 

[Liberty Belle]

Since they sound like they're an older (vs early 20's) couple getting married, and since you say you would like to be friends with them, why not RSVP that you'd love to come, but unfortunately will be out of town and that when you get back and they get settled in, you'd love to take them out to dinner.

? Or is that tacky?

 

[dani0622]

thanks for everyone's feedback. you guys are always great.

I think taking them out to dinner would be really nice!

 

[luvmy3]

I'm also from NJ, and would send $100 (and would have given $200 if I had actually attended).

Have fun in WDW!!!

Dear Nennie,

I know you don't know me very well but you are cordially invited to attend my upcoming wedding. I do not live in NJ but I do vacation there quite often


Your DIS friend,
luvmy3


All joking aside, you are very generous.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I wouldn't bother buying a gift. You aren't going to the wedding and barely know the couple.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I'm also from NJ, and would send $100 (and would have given $200 if I had actually attended).

Have fun in WDW!!!

I'm going to be getting married 10 times this year. You are invited to each wedding.

Please make checks payable to "Cash" (that's my name, like Bono or Cher), and send them to...

 

[scrapquitler]

Hi all!

My BF and I just got a wedding invitation in the mail for a couple we barely know. Unfortunately, the wedding will be held while we are away in WDW in February. We would have gone if it wasn't though.

My question is, how much of a gift do you give when you don't go and really don't know the couple all that well? We were actually surprised to get an invite!

Background: I know the groom as he dated my best friend in college for about 2 years. I just became acquainted with him again last Fall because his fiance's son played football for the team my BF coached. MY BF only knows them as the parents of one of his players.

I would feel no obligation to send a gift in this case. I'd send a card. If I were feeling generous and good about these people, I might send a SMALL token gift: a picture frame, a bottle of wine, something of that sort ($15-$20 range, TOPS). But most likely, just a card.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Since you don't know them that well I would respond "no" to the RSVP card and leave it at that. I see no reason to send a gift to someone just because they wrote my name on an invitation.

If I was close to the couple or planning to attend the wedding I would send a check in the amount of however much I could afford to send. I'm not going to put myself into a financial hardship just to "cover the plate."