Wedding Gift for Nephew? How much?

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Originally Posted by disneymom3
This idea of giving enough to at least cover the per plate charge is totally ridiculous in my opinion. THEY are throwing a party and THEY are the ones who decided to spend so much money. No way would I give that much money.

I totally agree with the above! In my opinion, I would give what I could afford. For a nephew, I would think $200 is sufficient.

I also agree. If they only can afford a "punch and cake" reception then that's all they should have. GUESTS shouldn't be expected to pay.

 

[wide awake]

Where that cover your own dinner cost came into fashion I don't know...but how tacky !!! I can only imagine the twists and turns conversations take to cover that vital bit of wedding info ! I buy the same thing for every wedding I go to, "The Joy of Cooking", and the same gift for every baby shower, "Goodnight Moon" and "The Runaway Bunny". Usefull, practical, can be taken back, and goes w/ any decor...also easy for me. I take the old fashioned view that I'm being invited for my company, and that my host/hostess has thrown a celebration they can afford w/o expecting the guests to foot their share of the bill...that party is known as a potluck.

 

[funhouse8]

This is my first post. However, as I am getting married in July I figured I would chime in. My fiance and myself registered at Dilliards (a high end department store in Ohio). As we went through and selected the items of the registery, I was informed that the average wedding gift to any wedding is roughly a hundred dollars(this came from the registry lady who handles lots of weddings). I would never expect a 750 dollar gift from anyone. To me that is insane.

Also, while doing research.. Anyone over 16 is suppost to get their own invitation according to "proper wedding etiquette" Thus, if the invitation is addressed to the entire family including older children; One gift is to be expected roughly around $100. However, if the bride and groom addressed numerous invitations to you and your family; It would then be a $100 dollars per invitation, according to proper wedding etiquette.

Thus.. The most you should send... is $300.00 as your fifteen your old is not required to send a gift, as your gift would indeed cover him/her. This would be ideal if each child was 16 or older with there own invitation.

Now, if only one invitation is sent to the entire family including children over sixteen, then a $100 gift is the norm according to etiquette.

Thus, anywhere from $100-$300 would be the "proper wedding etiquette amount.

I hope that helps!!!..

Thanks this does make me feel better. We were all given one invitation dh,me,dd16,ds15 & DD20 infact my DD who is 20 was feeling bad they didn't invite her with a guest until the topic of wedding gifts came up with my older son. Then she wasn't feeling so bad after all.

Good luck to you on your up coming wedding! Have a Magical Day

 

[funhouse8]

I think $500 since it's your nephew and the whole family is going.

Well if fellow Long Islanders (Franklin sq here) think $500 is a good gift then this is proably what I'm going to give along with a few gifts I picked up for them at the Disney store. They are going to WDW on their honeymoon.