Hi, i know this is OT because they rejected my idea of having a destination wedding in WDW (lol), but I wanted opinions on what we should do regarding my sisters newly announced wedding plans.
So, a little background first - this is the third wedding my sister has planned. The first didn't work out and they cancelled it about 2 months before. We had already bought our bridesmaid dresses, she had her dress, cake, reception paid for, flowers, photographer, the works.
Almost a year to the day lf the first (almost) wedding, she did get married...to someone else. Her 5 year old was in the wedding. I am almost positive she used the same silk flowers from the first time (I know, it doesn't really matter...) She had two more kids with husband, and they divorced about 4-5 years later. She has now been with a man for about 4 years, they bought a house together about 3 years ago, and live together with her three kids and his son.
They just got engaged last week. I am really happy for them...he's really a nice guy. But she says that they want to take their time to plan a wedding, and only invite siblings, parents, and neices and nephews to it. Ok...ill go to a 3rd wedding for her (well, I guess technically a 2nd). I just got a text saying it is going to be In Oct of 2015.
Not to be incredibly selfish, but that is the absolute WORST, and by worst, I mean nearly impossible to manage, time of year for me, Dh, and the kids to go out of town. We simply do NOT travel during the fall..DH coaches football, DS 14 will be a sophomore in high school and will be full swing into the high school season by then, and DD and younger DS also play football and cheerleading. I am a board member for their league. We are literally busy every single day of the week from late July until the end of the season, which often isn't until just before thanksgiving if anyone's team makes the playoffs. We literally do nothing except work, school, homework, and football/cheer at that time of year. We all love it or we wouldn't do it, so I'm not complaining about it, just stressing how serious the commitment is to us as a family.
Don't get me wrong...if this was her first wedding, we would make it work. If there was a funeral, we would make it work. Emergency...same thing. But a second (nearly third!!!) wedding? Do we really have to go to this? We live 5 hours away, so its at minimum a weekend trip. Cost-wise, it will be $500 min just to travel back and forth, hotel, food, etc, plus wedding gift. The wedding is a Sat night, so we will spend all day sat driving, then all day Sunday driving back. The kids will have school friday and monday. We live the farthest away.
I feel like I'm being really selfish, but cmon!!! This is the 3rd weddings she has planned, and her average SO time is about 5 years. Would it be ok if just I went to the wedding (I could fly out) and the rest of the family stayed home?
So, a little background first - this is the third wedding my sister has planned. The first didn't work out and they cancelled it about 2 months before. We had already bought our bridesmaid dresses, she had her dress, cake, reception paid for, flowers, photographer, the works.
Almost a year to the day lf the first (almost) wedding, she did get married...to someone else. Her 5 year old was in the wedding. I am almost positive she used the same silk flowers from the first time (I know, it doesn't really matter...) She had two more kids with husband, and they divorced about 4-5 years later. She has now been with a man for about 4 years, they bought a house together about 3 years ago, and live together with her three kids and his son.
They just got engaged last week. I am really happy for them...he's really a nice guy. But she says that they want to take their time to plan a wedding, and only invite siblings, parents, and neices and nephews to it. Ok...ill go to a 3rd wedding for her (well, I guess technically a 2nd). I just got a text saying it is going to be In Oct of 2015.
Not to be incredibly selfish, but that is the absolute WORST, and by worst, I mean nearly impossible to manage, time of year for me, Dh, and the kids to go out of town. We simply do NOT travel during the fall..DH coaches football, DS 14 will be a sophomore in high school and will be full swing into the high school season by then, and DD and younger DS also play football and cheerleading. I am a board member for their league. We are literally busy every single day of the week from late July until the end of the season, which often isn't until just before thanksgiving if anyone's team makes the playoffs. We literally do nothing except work, school, homework, and football/cheer at that time of year. We all love it or we wouldn't do it, so I'm not complaining about it, just stressing how serious the commitment is to us as a family.
Don't get me wrong...if this was her first wedding, we would make it work. If there was a funeral, we would make it work. Emergency...same thing. But a second (nearly third!!!) wedding? Do we really have to go to this? We live 5 hours away, so its at minimum a weekend trip. Cost-wise, it will be $500 min just to travel back and forth, hotel, food, etc, plus wedding gift. The wedding is a Sat night, so we will spend all day sat driving, then all day Sunday driving back. The kids will have school friday and monday. We live the farthest away.
I feel like I'm being really selfish, but cmon!!! This is the 3rd weddings she has planned, and her average SO time is about 5 years. Would it be ok if just I went to the wedding (I could fly out) and the rest of the family stayed home?
