Wedding - DH won't get suit

[NeverlandClub23]

My nephew is getting married in a few weeks. DH does not own a suit or even a sport jacket. He refuses to get one or wear one at the wedding. Guess there isnt much I can do about it but it annoys me. Thanks for letting me vent.

I was wondering why exactly does it annoy you?

Unless I'm with someone who's dressiest clothes are sweatpants that look like jeans and he refuses to wear anything but those, I'm not overly concerned with what he is or isn't wearing. Most people (around here anyways) don't wear suits/tuxes unless it's an extremely fancy wedding at night or they're part of the wedding party. Some people do but it's not the norm.

Maybe he's annoyed you're not wearing a low cut, cleavage showing dress with a slit cut up the side to the wedding .

 

[LilyWDW]

No offense, but every man should own at least one suit and/or sport coat. If they don't, what would they wear to funerals, weddings etc??

A shirt and tie?

If he's not comfortable in a suit, who cares. Unless it is an extremely formal wedding, I rarely see men in full suits. Not a big deal, they still look well put together.

I don't see the point in spending money on something he may wear once or twice. It's a waste in my opinion.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

DH wears a suit everyday....it's 90 degrees here with very high humidity. Yeah, there are days he's uncomfortable I am sure, but he's used to it......he would not show up to work in khakis and a polo because he's warm, nor would he do that at a wedding or funeral.....it just would not be appropriate......

That's great for him... if he has the kind of job that requires that, then that's what he should do. If he chooses to wear that to a wedding or funeral, then that's great too.

The OP's husband is choosing not to. He should be allowed to make that decision for himself.

I was wondering why exactly does it annoy you?

Unless I'm with someone who's dressiest clothes are sweatpants that look like jeans and he refuses to wear anything but those, I'm not overly concerned with what he is or isn't wearing. Most people (around here anyways) don't wear suits/tuxes unless it's an extremely fancy wedding at night or they're part of the wedding party. Some people do but it's not the norm.

Maybe he's annoyed you're not wearing a low cut, cleavage showing dress with a slit cut up the side to the wedding .

 

[Luvchefmic]

I could probably live with it if he didn't have a suit for a wedding, but what if you need to go to a funeral? I'd want him to have a suit for that. So in general, I guess I just think an adult male should own some type of suit or jacket. Part of being a grown up to me.

I used psychology on my DH..the trucker jeans t-shirt guy...told him if he dropped I would then have to buy him a suit anyway...guess who has a suit

 

[Cruisin]

Life is short, so why sweat the small stuff.

And whether or not to own or wear a suit is definitely small stuff.

 

[IDoDis]

OP, what is the venue for the wedding and reception? Does it involve a sit-down meal or a buffet? Our wedding reception was outdoors at a bed & breakfast ranch, so people didn't need to wear suits. Of course in NM, that is pretty acceptable. However, if the reception were at a hotel with a sit-down meal, than a shirt and tie would be an absolute necessity. It doesn't have to be a long-sleeved shirt. A short-sleeved button down with a tie is fine. You can buy a shirt, tie, and pair of black dress pants at Wal-Mart for $30 (each item is $9.99).

If it's dressy, he should dress appropriately or stay home.

 

[luvmy3]

DH wears a suit everyday....it's 90 degrees here with very high humidity. Yeah, there are days he's uncomfortable I am sure, but he's used to it......he would not show up to work in khakis and a polo because he's warm, nor would he do that at a wedding or funeral.....it just would not be appropriate......

A man not having a suit to wear doesn't mean all he has is khakis and polos. Dress pants, dress shirt, tie or not would be fine for a funeral, and most weddings I have been to the men end up with their jackets off, tie off and shirt untucked by the end of the night anyway.


OP, I agree with the others that said it depends on what type of venue it is. He could get away with dress pants, dress shirt and a tie, or tell him to suck it up, put on a jacket and he can take it off as soon as the dancing starts

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I have a BIL like that. He came to my other BIL's wedding in JEANS.

That being said a pair of dress slacks, dress shirt and tie should be sufficient.

 

[cheermom1]

While my dh and my dad are not suit people my dh will wear one if he has too. My dad on the other hand, let just say that I told him that IF he wanted to walk me down the isle he had to wear it!! LOL

I do agree about where this is going to held and if the wedding is dressy. I'd ask before hand and take it form there. good luck

 

[NHdisneylover]

I have been married 14 years. I remember what I wore (both in the wedding and leaving the reception) or course and what DH wore (including which tie/vest sets at the wedding and at the reception and what he wore to leave the reception). I also remember what the bride's maids dresses, groomsmens tuxes and the flower girl's dress looked like. ie--I remember the things I picked out. Beyond that i can only tell you what the moms wore because I looked at a photo yesterday after reading the mother of the bride dress thread It never occurred to me to take note of what my guests were wearing. Okay, yes, if someone showed up in a dirty tank top and torn jeans I would have noticed, but as long as he is dressing "nicely" and clean and well put together, why does it matter

 

[Disney Ella]

I just went to my nephew's wedding this past weekend in PA. DH wore a suit, but he was definitely in the minority. A lot of men wore shirts with ties and some wore polo shirts. It's been at least 10 years since I've been to a wedding and they seem to have gotten more casual for everyone. My sister was the groom's mother and she was dressed up, but the mother of the bride wore capri pants.

 

[TinklednPants]

I don't think I've ever seen a guy show up to a wedding that was NOT in a suit. A young boy perhaps, but not a grown man.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

No offense, but every man should own at least one suit and/or sport coat. If they don't, what would they wear to funerals, weddings etc??

There is nothing wrong with a dress shirt and tie minus the jacket. I see that look a lot at weddings and funerals and I am not the least bit offended by it. DH has 1 nice suit and frankly, I'm tired of seeing him wear it to every occasion that comes up. For the last wedding, I actually requested that he not wear it. He does not need suits for work, so I see no need to keep purchasing them. Of course, I always need a new outfit for each occasion so I shop enough for the both of us.

 

[ICF]

Just came from an outdoor wedding last Saturday. It was 90 and humid out....

I think the only guys with jackets were the ones in the wedding, except for perhaps 1 person. Most all guys (myself included) wore a shirt a tie, which was plenty uncomfortable by itself.

The world went on and truly people SHOULD be there to look at the bride / groom and not scan the crowd to see who isnt dressed to their standards.

Maybe it's an east coast thing, but generally to weddings / funerals I've worn a shirt / tie and dress pants and not an actual suit. I've never stood out for that appearal. I think the only exception, might have been my grandfathers funeral 5 years ago, in which I was a pallbearer and wore a full suit.

 

[Nancyg56]

My DH wears a suit and tie or a sport coat and dress shirt and tie to weddings, funerals Holiday Masses, wakes etc. He was raised like I was and we dress for these occasions. My DSIL does not own a suit, refuses to buy a suit, would never wear a suit. He wears dress shirt with a tie and dress pants. I think he looks fine. I think that this is a small thing to fret over.

 

[MIGrandma]

I think it is getting to be more and more normal for men not to wear suits to weddings and funerals. DH has a nice suit, and has worn it several times. But he doesn't often wear it to weddings or funerals. About the only time he would wear it is if he is one of the pallbearers in the funeral. Usually he wears dress pants and a dress shirt and tie, or if it's an afternoon wedding khaki slacks and a polo shirt is fine. Especially in the summer when it is so hot and humid. Why should a man be forced to put on a jacket?

 

[Disneyrsh]

ok

 

[mjkacmom]

If the wedding is in the NY metro area, he is going to stand out not wearing a suit. IMHO, every grown man should own one, for weddings, funerals, and job interviews. DH wears them for work, so he's always covered.

 

[Tinkermommy]

Unless it was a Black Tie wedding and it said so on the invite, I would not hassle DH about wearing a suit. Most weddings and funerals I have been to a dress shirt and tie is fine.

As long as people are well groomed and not dresses inappropriately I don't really care. Taking time to be there for the event is what counts.

 

[Mkrop]

I can not imagine a man not wearing a suit to a wedding or funeral. The minumum would be a shirt and tie.