We tried to warn him................(thick headed family member)

[Longsx3]

But, it was your husband's choice to join the military, so therefore you can't complain.

I don't believe I was complaining, I was trying to point out how insensitive the poster was being.

I don't complain about my DH being in Iraq for 6 or more months or the fear of everytime I turn on the news and they mention bomb and Iraq in the same sentence the endless possibilities that run thru my head. I have prepared myself in every way possible for if the day ever comes that my DH's command knocks on my door. I have mentally thought out what I will say and do...I keep my house far cleaner now then when DH is hear cause I wouldn't want to embarass my DH by having his commander see a messy house. I have never promised DD that Daddy will come home because that is a promise I can not keep. What I do promise is that Daddy will do everything he can to stay safe but that Daddy has a job to do and for the time being Iraq is the place he does it. While we miss my DH, neither DD or I complain.

 

[transparant]

I don't believe I was complaining, I was trying to point out how insensitive the poster was being.

I don't complain about my DH being in Iraq for 6 or more months or the fear of everytime I turn on the news and they mention bomb and Iraq in the same sentence the endless possibilities that run thru my head. I have prepared myself in every way possible for if the day ever comes that my DH's command knocks on my door. I have mentally thought out what I will say and do...I keep my house far cleaner now then when DH is hear cause I wouldn't want to embarass my DH by having his commander see a messy house. I have never promised DD that Daddy will come home because that is a promise I can not keep. What I do promise is that Daddy will do everything he can to stay safe but that Daddy has a job to do and for the time being Iraq is the place he does it. While we miss my DH, neither DD or I complain.

God Bless you Longsx3 - military families are Hero's just the same. I admire and thank you for your strength and dedication. Your husband is one of many Hero's - we thank him for that.

 

[Disney Doll]

What makes me upset are people who sign up during times of war and actually think it is reasonable to say, "Oh, I want to join, but I don't want to actually be put in danger." Excuse me? You want the pay, the education benefits, the travel, but you think you shouldn't have to do what others have done and are doing? Personally, if someone is so blind that they think they can join the military and not expect to be sent to Iraq, they shouldn't be joining in the first place. Get a grip. Oh... they lied to me boohoo. You lied to yourself as well. flame away

Isn't "give me what I want but don't make have to do anything for it" the new credo of our country????

I owuld have to agree with you. Note to all teenagers...if you sign up for the military now, be well aware that you will be going to a war zone at some point soon.

OK...now they've all been warned!

 

[Disney Doll]

Yeah, well when an E-7 is telling you right to your face that things have changed and that you can see your spouse on the weekends, you take him for his word, since they are suppose to be NCO (or lack there of )

After you claim that you got lied to once by a recruiter.

Sorry, "Screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice, shame on me".

I tend to learn from my mistakes.

 

[Disney Doll]

I dont even know if I should even post on this. But I just love the crowd of "not in my backyard" --- people dont like that recruiters come to their twons/neighborhoods/schools. We as a nation dont want it to be our son, daughter or husband making the sacrifice, but then when terrorists hit on our soil, or hurricanes ravage our own people, we want the military to have the power, strength and resources to help us. Well, as a nation we could fix this problem of the inconvenience of recruiters in our neighborhoods by requiring civil service like some other countries do. Instead, we are lucky enough to live in a nation where we are allowed to choice but we have created a culture where it is okay to serveas long as someone else is doing it.

We have several holidays honoring veterans and those who have gone before us in service, but I think the better way to honor them is to find some way to serve

I think more people should find some way to provide some level of civil service in this country. And, that may mean signing up for the military for some. And anyone who signs up for the guard, reserves or active and thinks they will never be put in harms way is not thinking clearly. And the thing is that these men and women dont get the luxury that civilians do of chosing which action/war they stand behind or dont. If they are given orders, they go, whether they agree or not, because they are making the sacrifice because so many wont even consider it.

Do people get orders than then change, get extended or otherwise changed? Yes, but who hasnt worked in some sort of job where things change. This is the same thing. You sign up to serve the needs of the military and the nation, not your own needs.

As a military wife, I can tell you that it clearly is not all about our needs...and to the poster who said that we knew what we got into, yes we do.....but by our spouses chosing to serve in the face of a widely apathetic nation of people who chose not to, I can complain when my husband is not by my side at night, when I have to turn off the news to avoid additional worry and when the military tells me when and where I will move my family next. But, I think you'll find that most of us dont complain so much because we are proud of what our husbands do.

Thanks to you and thanks to your husband. My apologies for those who try and diminish your contributions to our nation. I am grateful.

 

[Disney Doll]

Not to mention the nice military funeral and a flag for their mom.

Well, if you have a child from a "disadvantaged" area, the military life might be just the thing to break the cycle.

I grew up in & now work in a large city which has it's share of problems. I often think that the young men and women who are gunned down in drug raids are in a war as well.

 

[Disney Doll]

But, it was your husband's choice to join the military, so therefore you can't complain.

You know the callousness of some of the comments on this thread are amazing to me. I am actually embarrassed that you people are Americans.

 

[Disney Doll]

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I don't believe I was complaining, I was trying to point out how insensitive the poster was being.

I don't complain about my DH being in Iraq for 6 or more months or the fear of everytime I turn on the news and they mention bomb and Iraq in the same sentence the endless possibilities that run thru my head. I have prepared myself in every way possible for if the day ever comes that my DH's command knocks on my door. I have mentally thought out what I will say and do...I keep my house far cleaner now then when DH is hear cause I wouldn't want to embarass my DH by having his commander see a messy house. I have never promised DD that Daddy will come home because that is a promise I can not keep. What I do promise is that Daddy will do everything he can to stay safe but that Daddy has a job to do and for the time being Iraq is the place he does it. While we miss my DH, neither DD or I complain.

Thank you. You have my utmost respect. Your DH is in my prayers.

 

[bettyann29]

Sorry that he is being sent to Iraq.. But honestly I dont see how anyone could think they might not be sent there with the current situation with Iraq.. My brother was in Desert Storm and thank goodness he made it home.. I feel for everyone who has family there right now..

 

[PA DISNEYLOVER]

My husband was in the military for 12 years. He got out and after 9/11 signed back up. When we went to the recruiter he was warned that we were in a time of war and there was a very high chance that he would go to Iraq. This was told to him no less then 3 times by the recruiter. My husband signed on the dotted line gladly.

I never think of my husband as stupid for re-enlisted. I think of him as brave and unselfish. He is 40 years old he easily could have used his age as an excuse to do nothing.

My husband landed in Iraq 3 days ago and I am DARN proud of him!!!

 

[lyeag]

You know the callousness of some of the comments on this thread are amazing to me. I am actually embarrassed that you people are Americans.

It is awful isn't it? I get that they don't support Bush, the war, whatever, but to be so nasty..... As someone who recieved a flag for her husband almost 13 years ago, I find it really disgusting someone would make such a comment.

My husband now is an Army officer. I am proud of him and his service. He went to Iraq as a volunteer. He didn't have to go- he was given a choice to do a one for one replacement. I very well could have gotten another flag. I cannot imagine someone making light of a loved one's death. Especially one who is serving his country.

 

[transparant]

My husband was in the military for 12 years. He got out and after 9/11 signed back up. When we went to the recruiter he was warned that we were in a time of war and there was a very high chance that he would go to Iraq. This was told to him no less then 3 times by the recruiter. My husband signed on the dotted line gladly.

I never think of my husband as stupid for re-enlisted. I think of him as brave and unselfish. He is 40 years old he easily could have used his age as an excuse to do nothing.

My husband landed in Iraq 3 days ago and I am DARN proud of him!!!

As you should be! I'm pretty darned proud of him as well! God bless you and your DH for all that you do. Don't forget - I'm a stone's throw away from you - if you need ANYTHING at all...I'm there.

 

[transparant]

It is awful isn't it? I get that they don't support Bush, the war, whatever, but to be so nasty..... As someone who recieved a flag for her husband almost 13 years ago, I find it really disgusting someone would make such a comment.

My husband now is an Army officer. I am proud of him and his service. He went to Iraq as a volunteer. He didn't have to go- he was given a choice to do a one for one replacement. I very well could have gotten another flag. I cannot imagine someone making light of a loved one's death. Especially one who is serving his country.

lyeag - you are right...it is awful and nasty. Both YOU and your DH are Hero's! Don't ever forget that.

 

[poohbear1029]

It is awful isn't it? I get that they don't support Bush, the war, whatever, but to be so nasty..... As someone who recieved a flag for her husband almost 13 years ago, I find it really disgusting someone would make such a comment.

My husband now is an Army officer. I am proud of him and his service. He went to Iraq as a volunteer. He didn't have to go- he was given a choice to do a one for one replacement. I very well could have gotten another flag. I cannot imagine someone making light of a loved one's death. Especially one who is serving his country.

Lyeag - hugs to you for all you have gone through and supporting both your late and current husbands!

 

[Jamesbyr]

Oh gosh, where is INAMINUTE when we need her? She parent of the noble recruiter (who carried a knife!???) who nonetheless was soiled when he laid down with ....

There are no simple answers to this one, are there. Look before you lie down, I guess.

 

[Longsx3]

To the original poster, I am sorry if I hijacked your thread and about your nephew going to Iraq...I wish that no one had to go but for now it is necessary. Hopefully your nephew will benefit greatly from his time in the Army, whether it be 4 or 20yrs one can benefit greatly from being in the military.

To all of those that support our Military Members, many thanks. It isn't about whether or not you agree with this war, or any war, or whether you support the President ,or whether you are Republican or Democrat is is about showing support for our Military Members who defend our Country whether they are at Home or Deployed.


To all of my fellow Military spouses I thank you and your spouse because without them life in the US wouldn't be the same for our fellow DIS members.

 

[Longsx3]

It is awful isn't it? I get that they don't support Bush, the war, whatever, but to be so nasty..... As someone who recieved a flag for her husband almost 13 years ago, I find it really disgusting someone would make such a comment.

My husband now is an Army officer. I am proud of him and his service. He went to Iraq as a volunteer. He didn't have to go- he was given a choice to do a one for one replacement. I very well could have gotten another flag. I cannot imagine someone making light of a loved one's death. Especially one who is serving his country.

Lyeag,

I am sorry for all that you have been through!

Please thank your DH for serving our country!

 

[always quiet]

I am respectfully asking this thread be closed. In a time when so many people disagree with the war and whether or not our sons and daughters, husbands and wives should be there, we all should be 100% supportive of them and their familes. They are giving of themselves completely so that we may feel safe in our homes and towns. Whether you like or dislike Pres. Bush, our men and women of the military should not ever feel disgraced or unappreciated for their sacrafices. It was never my intention for my original post become 7 pages of political debates. I simply stated that we all knew there was no way that my great nephew would not be sent overseas....I was frustrated with his father for believing this.

Thank you.

 

[KathyTX]

Closing this thread at the request of the original poster.