we all have choices in our lives. In this situation one of many choices is who you go on and with what outlook you go into a change. As been said before; it's different. Different does not equal, nor does it even better, just different. Going on this persons sentiment? I dare state it is not factual or even close to it. Heck, don't take my word for it. Take the many reports we've just seen on here already of parents that are here right now with their kids on the ***. Could not be more different an experience as what you are basing your fears on now. One parent, not even having tried a system, versus many having tried it and finding it's working for them. Odds are very good that this one person is not the one to base your expectations on. To say the least.
Yes, Disney has changed things. They have more focus on not just talking the talk, but walking the walk. Both in the positive sense of the word (as in wanting to be accessible to all where possible and realistic) but also in the "negative" (as in sorting out the clutter that got in the way with the old system). Yes there is a learning curb. And even with that most are positive. Already, not even 48 hours into a new system. Think about how that could work out once your trip comes along. Think about the results of Disney being more strict in a way with how the accomodate which needs. That will have a positive effect also, whether it being from reducing anyone that does not need to use said accomodating (even if it is just one individual, demand and supply and all.......) or it being a better predictability of actual wait times elsewhere or in line once all systems are integrated and digitalized. That will improve accomodating.
You have a HUGE bonus! You are with multiple adults. You can hit a park, do the GR visit you have become used to. Dd can than do something she loves, whether icecream, shopping, whatever and can be safe with one or more adults. If
DAS is an accomodation that is found valid, one of the other adults can run to her favorite ride, get a return time. WITHOUT her being there. She can do all she loves and likes besides that specific ride that have no or less wait or are planable like show times that are set in advance. Once her time comes up; surprise hun, we're going to your favorite ride now!
Sometimes it can get difficult, but remember; any situation feels so much worse when looking at it through negative perspective. From a positive perspective it does not magically make all problems disappear, but it does make the sentiments we have about it easier on us. Use that knowledge in your favor with this. Give the new system a chance and give your family the best start for the best possible experience.
Dad? He's his worst own enemy. Having others deal with his own issues is not helping him. It might look like it, might be helpfull short term but long term he's learning to not deal with his deamons. Just as with raising a kid. If they don't want to it dinner, short term you can get them to eat cookies and have them go to bed with a full tummy. Unfortunately it also teaches them dinner is not important and the long term battle of educating kids why veggies etc are also important pays off (even if it can take years with veggies and some kids

). Same with dad. It's not Disney, not you, nobody but HE himself cheating himself out of the best possible experience by being so stubborn as to not use a mobility aid when needed.
I know it can be torture for a loved one when that happens. But you know, long term you are the biggest help and support by not "indulging" in him being his own worst enemy. Honestly. It's very tough love, but it's the biggest gift loved ones can give. Tough honesty when it really gets difficult. It's his right to decide not to want to use an aid, but it's also his consequence to deal with and not yours (or disneys) to then "make better". Horrible to watch as a loved one, but he needs to go through that struggle in order to one day be able to look himself in the eye and realise he was a fool for not using that aid instead of thinking he was a fool/weak whatever for "giving" in.
WDW still can and does make expections on the max. 6 people. Having said that, there also are some changes to that compared to the GAC. We can all predict they wont split up a family with 5 or 6 young kids for instance, common sense. How they'll treat bigger parties with the "above" being adults? Can't help you out there. Use fastpass+ to your advantage there. Will be a big help for DD already, so great tool. Even now in the trial phase it is pretty predictable when people are invited to try out. Certain resorts, having tickets prepurchaged and attached to reservation. Once it is fully implemented it will be even easier with no need to keep the limitations of the trial in mind with choices of resort and tickets.
Combine the fastpass+ to shows that have set times. Set times are predictable and thus great for DD but also for the group size as you can stay together while entering. Sitting together isn't an issue either if DD needs no special seating and dad can transfer onto a regular seat. Just make sure you don't wait until last minute to arrive to get 8 seats together. If special seating is needed and they do need to split up; arrive early. This way odds are good those that are splitted off can sit right behind, in front of or behind of that section and thus more or less still sitting together but perhaps not all 8 next to eachother but in 2 rows of 4 behind eachother.
Planning does SO unbelievably much. I can only sit for 30 minutes, 3 times a day (powerchair user). Then there are other issues that result in a standard line (and certain show set ups etc. etc. ) not being safe which limit much more than just the sitting. Whether old or new system, I can ride. No 100% guarantee, but nobody can give that. Esp. not when needing the accessible vehicle like I do. But WDW does an exceptional job in accomodating me within a very very limited range of "motion" they have to work with in my case. And no, no FOTL.
The system is changed, different. However that definately does not mean worse, less or negative. The ultimate base still is being accessible for any and all within possibility and reason. It can be done and yes be a positive experience.
