WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 8

[gaylean93]

Deb, Nan, Monica, Michelle, and anyone else who needs them: and hugs are being sent your way.

It has been a really rough Monday, I forgot I had a huge project due today until this morning and I only had 4 hrs after school to finish it. I was supposed to pick Karli up from school but my moms friend did it so I could do my project. My mom is on her way home and I can't wait to be back at my home. Only 1 more week and this semester will be done! Then I will do the christmas cards and get them sent, get my tree, go to Dollywood with Matt. I feel bad though as my sister is begging to go to Dollywood but I want it to just be Matt and I, so thats what I told her. She took it well, maybe one day when she is out of school I will take her. So I now know why I don't have kids yet, these past few days have been soooo stressful.

You still have plenty of time for kids but I will say that other people's kids used to stress me out but mine are different some how. They do stress me out but I at least like them It is a lot of work. I was 25 when I had Ethan and I could have easily been 30 when I started

 

[TammyAlphabet]

Hello all (and Nan).

Back from another busy day. I'm about to have dinner.

I had some bad news. The health insurance will not pay part of Sukie's bill or I should say might not. They have sent off questionnaire to the ENT and we had to fill some out as well. This is because his condition existed before he was on my insurance.

Still, they paid a very big portion of the bill, but that leaves us with A LOT to pay ourselves.

Talking about reining in our horns ... I have to think seriously about our vacation plans, or at least the cruise in September. The bill is still much higher than the cruise, but the money may just have to go towards paying part of the bill.

We'll have to wait and see what happens. I'm not griping because they still paid part of it, though surgery is so expensive that even the "left overs" are rather hefty.

To say the least I'm a bit disappointed but those are the breaks.

Now I'm trying to figure out if we can swing WDW. I have the DVC points, so I have to think about our airfare for a couple of trips and the cost of a couple of APs.

Well, if you used an in-network provider, it is possible that they cannot charge you for the difference between what the insurance paid plus your copay or deductible, and what the charges were. I once got a bill from the hospital for an ambulance ride for my DH and DD after a car accident that was around 8 or 9K. After I alerted them that there was insurance and they filed the claim, the charge fell by half and the insurance picked up almost all, I just had the copay to pay, like 20 percent. Since the insurance did pay for some, why would it just be part? Sounds weird to me. But I am not an insurance expert by any means.

 

[gaylean93]

Whah, whah, whah.

It's 33F here in Chicago. Sounds like you're having a heat wave.

Why here in Chicago, we'd be splashing in a pool and throwing shrimps on the barbie, or Barbies on the shrimp if was as hot as 36F.

You weren't saying that a few weeks ago when it was a strange 70F

 

[gaylean93]

Hi Gay,

First of all - congrats on passing the 4 tests
The last time I had to take a typing test they gave me (I think) 10-15 minutes to practice the piece before I was tested so hopefully it'll be the same for you.

Thanks that makes me feel better. The secretary in the office said she was typing between 30 and 40 with the tests online and when she went to take her test she did 51. That would be heaven sent

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Ok, I am dense, I didn't get this one.

I want to offer my condolences to Nan and to Monica's Will and Mick, I am so sorry.

They finally got the stone for my husband's grave set up last week. I went over there on Friday and put some pretty Christmas flowers in the vases. I cried and cried. I was glad to have the stone up, I felt like it was disrespectful to not have one there. But, at the same time, it was very final. I don't know how to describe it. The holidays would be very tough if we were staying home.

Sorry to be "Debbie Downer". I try to keep up with the thread but things just heat up as I am going to bed. There are too many threads in the morning, I don't have time to read them all.

Please don't ever feel that you always have to be cheerful and positive on here. We all have our moments where we are sad, mad, scared anything but happy and we share it here. Heck, I was just on my soapbox about smoking for about ten pages. We all have our own issues and it's good to come here for support and love because everyone cares.

Feel free to express your true feelings with us. We will try to understand and relate. I know it's hard. How very sad that feeling is that it's all so final. It's hard when it hits you.

It hit me hard just the other day when I realized that all that I have left of my mom is old memories. I'll never have anything new with her. That made me extremely sad. I'm crying again. Even though it's so obvious and apparent to everyone else, it hit me like a ton of bricks for the very first time. Mom passed a year and four months ago, but I experience something new about her death all the time.

 

[gaylean93]

Ok, I am dense, I didn't get this one.

I want to offer my condolences to Nan and to Monica's Will and Mick, I am so sorry.

They finally got the stone for my husband's grave set up last week. I went over there on Friday and put some pretty Christmas flowers in the vases. I cried and cried. I was glad to have the stone up, I felt like it was disrespectful to not have one there. But, at the same time, it was very final. I don't know how to describe it. The holidays would be very tough if we were staying home.

Sorry to be "Debbie Downer". I try to keep up with the thread but things just heat up as I am going to bed. There are too many threads in the morning, I don't have time to read them all.

I'm sure the holidays are tough I can see how having the stone up would seem final for you. You are not "Debbie Downer". We all vent here but you really have a reason to feel sad and come here for support. I can't keep up most times either, which seems weird because there aren't a lot of people around anymore.

 

[gaylean93]

I just met Deanna, Tom's girlfriend.....OMG she is georgous. Hopefully she will let me take pics of her on Christmas. I didn't think it was a good idea to say, hi....can I take your picture because I want to post it on the boards to share with all my friends. Sure! She's very sweet and shy. I hope I get to know her better.


Life is certainly hectic with a 17 year old underfoot. He just left with Deanna and it's the first time I had five minutes to myself. Together we spent the day on the phone calling PennDot, Verizon wireless, our Progressive agent and the lawyer. Then he went upstairs and I got my proof of residency paperwork together and the school guardianship and registration papers to get him back into school tomorrow. He couldn't start today because we have to notorize it all tonight. We're going when John gets home.


I can't even imagine how much more hectic it would be if he was 7 instead of 17.....oh wait a minute, he did live with us and his mother and brother when he was 7. How quickly one forgets.

Now I want to see a picture. Can't you sneak one past her

 

[mishoe01]

Ok, I am dense, I didn't get this one.

I want to offer my condolences to Nan and to Monica's Will and Mick, I am so sorry.

They finally got the stone for my husband's grave set up last week. I went over there on Friday and put some pretty Christmas flowers in the vases. I cried and cried. I was glad to have the stone up, I felt like it was disrespectful to not have one there. But, at the same time, it was very final. I don't know how to describe it. The holidays would be very tough if we were staying home.

Sorry to be "Debbie Downer". I try to keep up with the thread but things just heat up as I am going to bed. There are too many threads in the morning, I don't have time to read them all.

No Debbie Downer in my book. check in w/ us anytime you can.

 

[gaylean93]

Please don't ever feel that you always have to be cheerful and positive on here. We all have our moments where we are sad, mad, scared anything but happy and we share it here. Heck, I was just on my soapbox about smoking for about ten pages. We all have our own issues and it's good to come here for support and love because everyone cares.

Feel free to express your true feelings with us. We will try to understand and relate. I know it's hard. How very sad that feeling is that it's all so final. It's hard when it hits you.

It hit me hard just the other day when I realized that all that I have left of my mom is old memories. I'll never have anything new with her. That made me extremely sad. I'm crying again. Even though it's so obvious and apparent to everyone else, it hit me like a ton of bricks for the very first time. Mom passed a year and four months ago, but I experience something new about her death all the time.

I wonder if losing a parent is harder than you think it will be. My grandma died nine years ago and my mom always cries on her birthday and mother's day but she didn't make the time to see her on those days when she was alive. I'm just wondering because sometimes I wonder how I will live without Jon or the kids but it doesn't seem like it will be as hard when my parents go. I don't think my mom thought it would be as hard either.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

I wonder if losing a parent is harder than you think it will be. My grandma died nine years ago and my mom always cries on her birthday and mother's day but she didn't make the time to see her on those days when she was alive. I'm just wondering because sometimes I wonder how I will live without Jon or the kids but it doesn't seem like it will be as hard when my parents go. I don't think my mom thought it would be as hard either.

The funny thing is that me and my mom always disagreed and we agreed to do so.....we had this love/hate thing going on....absolutely love you but hate to be with you for too long. I miss this. More so that I ever could have imagined. When she died, I was relieved for her not to have to suffer anymore, it had been so long. NOW it's hitting me. Now I miss so many things about her that were good that I appreciate. I took it for granted while she was alive.


When John is no longer with me I will be twice as much devistated. He is my whole life. I don't have any of my own kids so I can't say anything about that relationship. I do love John's daughter and grandsons.....his son is a pain in the butt....I don't think I would miss him. If I lose my friend Brian, the one with the cancer, it will devistate me too. I still miss my grandmother everyday and I lost her 17 years ago, but we were very close. I guess all relationships are different and you never know how you're going to react until after the fact. It's very strange.

 

[iankh]

Well, if you used an in-network provider, it is possible that they cannot charge you for the difference between what the insurance paid plus your copay or deductible, and what the charges were. I once got a bill from the hospital for an ambulance ride for my DH and DD after a car accident that was around 8 or 9K. After I alerted them that there was insurance and they filed the claim, the charge fell by half and the insurance picked up almost all, I just had the copay to pay, like 20 percent. Since the insurance did pay for some, why would it just be part? Sounds weird to me. But I am not an insurance expert by any means.

Tammy,

Thanks. Everything Sukie had done was in-network, and some of the procedures even had prior approval. They did pay a very huge chunk of it, but when we are talking about medical bills, the parts that the insurance is currently sitting on can still be a very sizable proportion, much larger than we could easily absorb.

I really wish I wasn't such a dolt and understood these things better, but I find it all so confusing.

I am overwhelmed by the endless stream of paper that seems to arrive and trying to tie it back to paid claims.

I told Sukie that we're just going to start waiting for delinquent notices to show up and then pay them. At least the dust will have settled.

I have such a hard time understanding all the paper and the multiple billers. I'm staggered by the inefficiency. I'm sure that all of this is probably a major contributor to the inflated costs.

 

[gaylean93]

The funny thing is that me and my mom always disagreed and we agreed to do so.....we had this love/hate thing going on....absolutely love you but hate to be with you for too long. I miss this. More so that I ever could have imagined. When she died, I was relieved for her not to have to suffer anymore, it had been so long. NOW it's hitting me. Now I miss so many things about her that were good that I appreciate. I took it for granted while she was alive.


When John is no longer with me I will be twice as much devistated. He is my whole life. I don't have any of my own kids so I can't say anything about that relationship. I do love John's daughter and grandsons.....his son is a pain in the butt....I don't think I would miss him. If I lose my friend Brian, the one with the cancer, it will devistate me too. I still miss my grandmother everyday and I lost her 17 years ago, but we were very close. I guess all relationships are different and you never know how you're going to react until after the fact. It's very strange.

Well it sounds like you have the same feelings my mom does. I guess I should call my mom I think kids always take their parents for granted, unfortunately. After I had Ethan, I looked at my mom and said "I didn't know you loved me this much." I think it made her a little sad that she had never shown me she loved me that much but I know I won't be sad when Brooke says it to me. I tell them both all the time that they will NEVER love anyone as much as I love them until they have a baby of their own. I guess they will love their mates but it is different because you aren't as worried about your mates. I mean I don't worry if Jon will make it to work everyday but I cry sometimes when I think of Ethan getting his driver's license and that is at least 8 years away (10 if it were up to me).

 

[iankh]

You weren't saying that a few weeks ago when it was a strange 70F

Smart **s. But even more surprising is that you pay attention to what I say.

 

[gaylean93]

Ian, I saw an interview with Brad Pitt and they asked him when him and Angelina were going to get married and he said they would get married when everyone could get married I don't love the guy because of the whole Jeniffer Aniston thing but I appreciated that statement.

 

[gaylean93]

Smart **s. But even more surprising is that you pay attention to what I say.

I pay attention to what you and most people say. I just don't always know how to comment every time. Plus, I worry that people don't get that I am joking a lot of the time. I think you are very funny.

 

[HollyTyler]

I don't know where I'm at but I saw Jan comment on this so I decided to start here All I have to say is that society makes people feel guilty about not contributing financially to the household. I know a few women that can manage everything in the house and at work and still be happy but I think it stresses most of us out. I know when I was stressed out like that, I wasn't a good wife, house cleaner, cook or any thing I needed to be. Don't feel bad, especially because it sounds like Paul agrees that you are better at home. Again, I'm not saying it is wrong for women to work. I'm just saying it is wrong for me to work full time because I don't handle all that stress well. Everyone is different and people just need to stop judging other people for the choices they make.

I hear ya! I don't handle it well either. My house is never clean, we don't have much time together, we often just get home on time for a quick dinner before bed, etc. Not a fun way of life.

 

[HollyTyler]

Ok, I am dense, I didn't get this one.

I want to offer my condolences to Nan and to Monica's Will and Mick, I am so sorry.

They finally got the stone for my husband's grave set up last week. I went over there on Friday and put some pretty Christmas flowers in the vases. I cried and cried. I was glad to have the stone up, I felt like it was disrespectful to not have one there. But, at the same time, it was very final. I don't know how to describe it. The holidays would be very tough if we were staying home.

Sorry to be "Debbie Downer". I try to keep up with the thread but things just heat up as I am going to bed. There are too many threads in the morning, I don't have time to read them all.

Tammy, I often think about you and wonder how in the world you handle all of this.

 

[HollyTyler]

Thanks that makes me feel better. The secretary in the office said she was typing between 30 and 40 with the tests online and when she went to take her test she did 51. That would be heaven sent

Wow, she was able to pass the test at 51?!

 

[gaylean93]

I hear ya! I don't handle it well either. My house is never clean, we don't have much time together, we often just get home on time for a quick dinner before bed, etc. Not a fun way of life.

I'm sorry I'm glad I didn't sound judgmental. I was just trying to help a friend make a hard decision, which probably seems easy to you But it's hard when you have to make it. P.S. my house still isn't clean I guess it's clean but more cluttered now that the kids are around.

 

[gaylean93]

Wow, she was able to pass the test at 51?!

Yes we only need to type 45, which I am having trouble with. I type fast as can be on here because it is in my head but I can't type from a paper.