WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 14

[granmaz]

I've had a really crappy day.

I subbed 2 WW meetings this morning which was fine. I decided to hit Costco after the meetings to get my errands done and have the rest of the day clear.

I had planned to do some serious work on Mouse Manager this afternoon and get my new release ready for testing this weekend.

I got home from Costco, turned off the burglar alarm and hit the bathroom on the main floor of our unit.

The alarm suddenly went off. I probably hadn't punched in the PIN number correctly.

I try to open the bathroom door ... nothing. It won't open. I keep turning the doorknob, but the little thingie that clicks the door closed, isn't moving. The bathroom door wasn't locked. It was just closed.

The alarm is blaring, the phone goes, it's the alarm company. Of course I can't get to the phone.

My cell phone goes off because it's the back up number. My phone is outside the bathroom.

The alarm finally stopped after about 10 minutes and then about 5 minutes after that, the doorbell goes off, because the police are at my house.

I guess they checked all the doors and saw the place was locked and left.

During all this, I'm trying to get out of the bathroom. If I was outside the bathroom, it would have been easy enough to slip the lock with a credit card, but I'm stuck inside.

Oh, and Sukie is out for the day and would not be back until about 8 PM.

I frantically rummage through the medicine cabinets, and all I have are two pairs of scissors for trimming mustaches and beards, a pair of tweezers, and nail clippers that have a built-in nail file.

I have my wallet and try various cards, but again, because I'm inside the bathroom they don't do any good.

I finally, possibly over an hour later freed myself, using a combination of the scissors and nail file.

I also managed to really cut up about 3 fingers on one hand from having to apply pressure to the open scissors. So there was blood over the door, over the implements and over several credit cards! I guess I was too focused at the time to realize that I was cutting myself.

I did lapse into a rather male moment at one point and punched the door, then cradling my hand wondered what that was all about and where it came from.

So, I'm going to give up on the rest of the day and just play.

Oh my goodness Ian. You bashed the door!!! Seriously, it must have been a bit scary at times, so I am glad you could use the scissors etc effectively.

I love your Saturday musings, but this was special.

that is the issue, no one sees what I do because it all just flows and rather nicely with a Disney cruise thrown in for good measure every now and then too

I'm going on roommate strike. I kicked the children out of my bathroom which we share and they never help clean, and use my bath towel with their grimmy hands which totally grosses me out so from now on they can share a bathroom with their father. Who of course don't keep his bathroom clean, but I'm not using it so I don't care. Gave up the fight with him a long time ago

Also, I'm not doing their laundry anymore either.

They will figure it out.

I'm done and they are going to be upset for the "new" way things will be around here but oh well since I "never made any difference anyways" it shouldn't bother them

When they see it and show me they are sorry I hope we can reconcile and I'll go back to doing it again, but for now I think we have turned into roommates each person takes care of themselves.

And on that note, I was SOOOO happy after I cleaned my bathroom an hour ago, because I know the next time I use it it will STILL be clean

You have a plan there Nan. They should begin to see what you do. Don't let them still make it seem like it is all your fault or feel sorry for them!!!

I'm sure this is nothing new in the world, you'd just think that Paul and the kids would get it by now. My kids have lots of friends that don't have fun moms. Whatever, I'm planning my own fun from now on, and not including them in it. I think my point will get accross rather quickly.

Like I said I just haven't figured out what I need to make it work again. I'm so drained right now that I just can't see them ever being nice enough for me to want to do any of it for them again

On that lovely note, I'm going back in the house to watch another movie, alone

Well they don't want to 'get it' Nan! It is all too easy for them living with a wonderful wife/mom who has everything covered for them.

Things will improve for sure, and give or take some teenage angst times, things will be good!!!

You have a wonderful family.

There certainly are alot of compassionate friends here...

I'm trying Marilyn... but it's the family that judges the most...

actually... I was... most of the day... sort of a recovery from yesterday and last night...

Thanks Holly...

Sometimes it is our own perception of being 'judged' by others, and a lot to do with our wanting to prove ourselves, not only to them, but to the whole world. I am a big people pleaser, and it isn't a good thing to be, trust me, but it is a hard thing to kick. Like Nan, try pleasing yourself, having fun yourself etc, and leave these relatives to fend for themselves! You are soecial, like Nan, and need pampering!!!

 

[granmaz]

I love you lot!!!

 

[iankh]

Where is everyone? surely you can't all be asleep? Lazy bones!

I am going to be leaving soon for my Sunday morning WW meetings. I'll be glad when I have some time to myself this afternoon. Part of my plans for today do not include getting locked in any small rooms.

Still, I between yesterday and today, I should be able to afford another cocktail for me an my pals.

You know, sometimes I just need to take step back, and really appreciate the gifts I've been given. I'm so fortunate. I'm so lucky. I'm so blessed.

Not only do I make the universe a healthier place, a half a pound at a time, I can also contribute to getting my friends liquored up.

 

[gydell]

Deb...

I thank you so much for opening your heart so much... It's the days when you think that there is no hope that are the hardest. Last night I had a good cry. (what an oxymoron...) I realized that alot of what I am going through isn't my fault at all... I've gotten rolled up in with the rest of the people waiting and in a way, because of all of the work that has been done, and all the stress everyone is under... Michael has sort of forgotten who I am and he's forgotten that I was the one who was always supportive and caring. I'm not an overly demanding person, but I need to remind him that I deserve a little bit more respect than the others who work for him.

This project has changed so often because of the stupid bank crisis. This should have been finished last year.

Unfortunately, it is my family (not the QM) but the siblings who look down on me and have for as long as I can remember. I am sort of hoping that when this project is done, that I can prove that I have succeeded in something of substance - however I've already decided that I could cure cancer and they wouldn't be impressed. I shouldn't let them bother me and it is a good think that I moved away when I did.






I not only took note... I printed it out...

I haven't caught up since I was on vacation but it sounds like you are having a tough time. Just remember that you are special and nobody can take that away from you. Hope things get better for you!

 

[scottishwee35]

Hello Everyone

This is Eilean Donan Castle

now I put photoslides of BONNIE SCOTLAND

http://www.photoshow.com/watch/sH6dR9Nw

Have a fun....

Scottishwee35

 

[scottishwee35]

I still need catch up the news... will read it tonight....

Scottishwee35

 

[woody73]

Wow, Michigan has had the highest unemployment rate in the country for 12 months in a row! 1 out of every 7 people is unemployed. I'm so grateful for my job.

Amen, Holly!

Woody

 

[ibouncetoo]

Not only do I make the universe a healthier place, a half a pound at a time, I can also contribute to getting my friends liquored up.

Pass me a martini please!

Hello Everyone

This is Eilean Donan Castle

Wait....I see Adrian Paul! They did quite a few shots here for the Highlander TV series!



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[nskjerven]

Hey sweetie.. I hope you got my message (check your cell...)... I'm SO sorry that you are going through a tough time also... I wish I knew last night when you and I were messaging - I could have been there for you like you were for me...

I'm always here and my cell is almost always with me and you can call and vent 24/7...

Sending many

I did get your call and thanks for it I was in phone avoidance mode yesterday. BTW, I wasn't at melt down when we talked, so no problem, if I had been you'd have known it

Ohhh Ian... I don't know if I should laugh or cry... (but you did cheer me up...)

Might I suggest you stash an emergency kit in the bathroom with some meals ready to eat and a good book that will last you not only until Sukie comes home but also until he is able to stop laughing his A$$ off...

I also suggest you install a padded toilet seat...

So... where were Tallulah and Truman through all of this???

I still think there is a deab body in the house, and why haven't the cops called Sukie about it??? Maybe he did it Revenge is best served cold, it was time, hitting him with the car, then the cart. Poor Ian. I liked that guy. Oh well, we still have Sukie so that's ok

p.s. you mean there isn't aren't book(s) in the bathroom already???

Where is everyone? surely you can't all be asleep? Lazy bones!

I am going to be leaving soon for my Sunday morning WW meetings. I'll be glad when I have some time to myself this afternoon. Part of my plans for today do not include getting locked in any small rooms.

Still, I between yesterday and today, I should be able to afford another cocktail for me an my pals.

You know, sometimes I just need to take step back, and really appreciate the gifts I've been given. I'm so fortunate. I'm so lucky. I'm so blessed.

Not only do I make the universe a healthier place, a half a pound at a time, I can also contribute to getting my friends liquored up.

thank heavens for that (you know which one I'm talking about

 

[nskjerven]

Hello Everyone

This is Eilean Donan Castle

now I put photoslides of BONNIE SCOTLAND

http://www.photoshow.com/watch/sH6dR9Nw

Have a fun....

Scottishwee35

There is Nessy in that picture in the water, right Deborah???

 

[nskjerven]

You have a plan there Nan. They should begin to see what you do. Don't let them still make it seem like it is all your fault or feel sorry for them!!!

That of course is the hard part, I do feel bad that Molly has to share the bathroom with the boys, but she is just as messy as them so not my problem

Well they don't want to 'get it' Nan! It is all too easy for them living with a wonderful wife/mom who has everything covered for them.

I think Paul gets it, after a while that is. We have been arguing over the value of Boy Scouts from the beginning 3+ years now. He finally admitted that he just hates to hear Willie complain about it. Well duh, if it was easy then it would be EASY and he probably would not need what it offers

Things will improve for sure, and give or take some teenage angst times, things will be good!!!

You have a wonderful family.

Yes, most of the time I'm very proud of all of us. But it does take alot of effort. Nothing just happens. Well those cruises just happen, but hey you all understand that

Sometimes it is our own perception of being 'judged' by others, and a lot to do with our wanting to prove ourselves, not only to them, but to the whole world. I am a big people pleaser, and it isn't a good thing to be, trust me, but it is a hard thing to kick. Like Nan, try pleasing yourself, having fun yourself etc, and leave these relatives to fend for themselves! You are special, like Nan, and need pampering!!!

I think Michelle and I deserve an all expense paid trip to our tile loungers from the people that don't appriecate us don't worry you are all safe, you tell us you love us all the time

 

[iankh]

I am back from making the universe thinner.

I am also not locked in the bathroom.

We watched a movie we both loved last night that I got off of Netflix. It was comedy called "Adam and Steve." We loved it and thought it was really funny. Not though appropriate for kids or perhaps viewers whose sensibilities might be more sensitive.

 

[Tink rules]

I did get your call and thanks for it I was in phone avoidance mode yesterday. BTW, I wasn't at melt down when we talked, so no problem, if I had been you'd have known it




I still think there is a deab body in the house, and why haven't the cops called Sukie about it??? Maybe he did it Revenge is best served cold, it was time, hitting him with the car, then the cart. Poor Ian. I liked that guy. Oh well, we still have Sukie so that's ok

p.s. you mean there isn't aren't book(s) in the bathroom already???




thank heavens for that (you know which one I'm talking about

So... should we start planning the Ian Henzel Memorial Bash???

You bring the rum... Bubba will bring the Tequila... We can bail Sukie out for the afternoon... Planky can give the eulogy...

 

[nskjerven]

I am back from making the universe thinner.

I am also not locked in the bathroom.

We watched a movie we both loved last night that I got off of Netflix. It was comedy called "Adam and Steve." We loved it and thought it was really funny. Not though appropriate for kids or perhaps viewers whose sensibilities might be more sensitive.

like me because of my asthma?

 

[nskjerven]

So... should we start planning the Ian Henzel Memorial Bash???

You bring the rum... Bubba will bring the Tequila... We can bail Sukie out for the afternoon... Planky can give the eulogy...

are you sure it's in good taste to bail Sukie out? Oh what am I thinking, it wouldn't be a party with out him

 

[nskjerven]

okay, so here is the bad mom news of the day.

Wilson took 4th yesterday and of course I feel like it was partialy due to me not going.

First went to the kid he hates
Second went to the friend from Huntington Beach (so that is good)
Third went to a new GIRL new, in that she just started this season at the first race.
Wilson let her get a jump on him at the start, he was P3 on the grid and he never caught her.

Of course his driving is dependant on how he feels. And yesterday he felt like crap. Mostly because I wasn't there and we had our big blow out.

The other reason I'm sad was that my sister and mom went to the track too. It was the first and likely only time my biggest sister will go. And I never know how much more time I'll have with my mom.

Then the last bullet was a DISER friend also came.

It was a crappy day for me not to go, but I really didn't have it in me to go and not let them see that I was hurting so much over what was happening at home.

The house is very somber today. The kids are in their rooms working on what they should have done with in the last 4 weeks. Just basic cleaning up and putting stuff away.

I'm sad that next week is Molly's bday and I don't feel like celebrating it. I do 99% of the birthday stuff for the kids, Paul swoops in and signs the card. (like most dad's) but this year I just feel so under valued in that department that I can't get myself in a better place. I need to, I know, because your birthday "should" be the happiest day/week/month/year. I'm crying again, because I feel so bad. Dang it...

 

[iankh]

okay, so here is the bad mom news of the day.

Wilson took 4th yesterday and of course I feel like it was partialy due to me not going.

First went to the kid he hates
Second went to the friend from Huntington Beach (so that is good)
Third went to a new GIRL new, in that she just started this season at the first race.
Wilson let her get a jump on him at the start, he was P3 on the grid and he never caught her.

Of course his driving is dependant on how he feels. And yesterday he felt like crap. Mostly because I wasn't there and we had our big blow out.

The other reason I'm sad was that my sister and mom went to the track too. It was the first and likely only time my biggest sister will go. And I never know how much more time I'll have with my mom.

Then the last bullet was a DISER friend also came.

It was a crappy day for me not to go, but I really didn't have it in me to go and not let them see that I was hurting so much over what was happening at home.

The house is very somber today. The kids are in their rooms working on what they should have done with in the last 4 weeks. Just basic cleaning up and putting stuff away.

I'm sad that next week is Molly's bday and I don't feel like celebrating it. I do 99% of the birthday stuff for the kids, Paul swoops in and signs the card. (like most dad's) but this year I just feel so under valued in that department that I can't get myself in a better place. I need to, I know, because your birthday "should" be the happiest day/week/month/year. I'm crying again, because I feel so bad. Dang it...

OK, you are indeed a mom, but you're also a human being and are entitled to your feeling, both being taken care of an not being hurt. I admit that I don't know anything about parenting, but you have feelings too, that need to be acknowledged and indulged.

The wonderful about you Nan is how much you care. The equally wonderful thing about you is that you're not made of stone.

 

[BubbaGrump]

OK, you are indeed a mom, but you're also a human being and are entitled to your feeling, both being taken care of an not being hurt. I admit that I don't know anything about parenting, but you have feelings too, that need to be acknowledged and indulged.

The wonderful about you Nan is how much you care. The equally wonderful thing about you is that you're not made of stone.

Yaaaa!!! What he said!!!!

 

[Tink rules]

okay, so here is the bad mom news of the day.

Wilson took 4th yesterday and of course I feel like it was partialy due to me not going.

First went to the kid he hates
Second went to the friend from Huntington Beach (so that is good)
Third went to a new GIRL new, in that she just started this season at the first race.
Wilson let her get a jump on him at the start, he was P3 on the grid and he never caught her.

Of course his driving is dependant on how he feels. And yesterday he felt like crap. Mostly because I wasn't there and we had our big blow out.

The other reason I'm sad was that my sister and mom went to the track too. It was the first and likely only time my biggest sister will go. And I never know how much more time I'll have with my mom.

Then the last bullet was a DISER friend also came.

It was a crappy day for me not to go, but I really didn't have it in me to go and not let them see that I was hurting so much over what was happening at home.

The house is very somber today. The kids are in their rooms working on what they should have done with in the last 4 weeks. Just basic cleaning up and putting stuff away.

I'm sad that next week is Molly's bday and I don't feel like celebrating it. I do 99% of the birthday stuff for the kids, Paul swoops in and signs the card. (like most dad's) but this year I just feel so under valued in that department that I can't get myself in a better place. I need to, I know, because your birthday "should" be the happiest day/week/month/year. I'm crying again, because I feel so bad. Dang it...

OK, you are indeed a mom, but you're also a human being and are entitled to your feeling, both being taken care of an not being hurt. I admit that I don't know anything about parenting, but you have feelings too, that need to be acknowledged and indulged.

The wonderful about you Nan is how much you care. The equally wonderful thing about you is that you're not made of stone.

I don't often agree with Bubba... But he's right... listen to Ian...

I've decided that if you hold your breath long enough you will pass out.

Both of us have needed oxygen these past few days.

It can't be easy having so many depend on you, but the kids are growing each day with more life and confidence and they need to learn that mommy can't do it all and shouldn't...

You my dear are an incredible mom. Don't let anyone think otherwise...(even when you DO forget to pick up molly at school...)

You need to call some NAN time. Do some of the things that YOU like to do.

Leave them hot dogs that they can nuke and they won't starve... rearrange schedules for some NAN time... When they run out of clean undies... they'll find the washer...

& don't worry about Wil... he's got to learn that disappointment comes with life... and that things affect what you do... you've protected them in the bubble long enough.. let them out just a bit to get their feet under them...

& Mol's birthday... let Paul figure something out... she's got 1/2 his chromosomes...

& tell them that they'll be alot happier if they have a happy mom!!!

Many

 

[scottishwee35]

There is Nessy in that picture in the water, right Deborah???

CORRECT....

Scottishwee35