Was this too mean? UD: It's official, he doesn't get it.

[imabrat]

I don't know if I was too mean or not mean enough, I'm not used to this. I'm the dorky girl no one ever pays attention to. Anyway, a boy from school asked me out today on facebook. I don't really know him, I think the last time I talked to him face to face was last September before a football game. He's in my former English class (I was only there for 2 days and I got switched out), but the whole time he was kinda making googly eyes at me.

This is what he sent;

Hey sonya how are you? Heres something that should brighten your day.....
The way you make me feel everyday is more than words can say. The happiness you bring to me is more than you could ever see. Happiness comes and goes, but me liking you grows and grows. The twinkle I have in my eye comes from you and only I know why. The reason is that I like you. If you be my star. I'll be your sky. I'll live to let you shine.

And this is what I replied with;

hey! awwwwwwww, that is the sweetest thing anyone has ever wrote or said about me! thank you sososo much! i don't know if you're looking for a relationship out of this, but i hope you weren't because it wouldn't work out. my life is sooooooo crazy right now between school (honors and votech), my health, and my overall home life. it's so crazy, and a relationship added into it would only end horribly. i don't want to put anyone through that because as perfect as it sounds, i know it wouldn't work out right and we'd only end up hurt. i'm sorry, but i'm still willing to be friends if that's okay with you?

It's true, besides that I can't really see him as a boyfriend. He's more like a "brother" figure to me, yanno. Was that too mean or not mean enough? Right now, a relationship for me would only end up horribly. Was that okay? I'm am SO confused, hahah. I never really deal with boys.

 

[Smiley.Socks]

I don't think it was.
If he liked you, he would understand. I think.
You explained everything about why you can't deal with it right now.
I don't think you should worry too much Sonya.

 

[OneTreeHill]

I don't think that was mean.
You were just telling him the truth, and you didn't say it rudely.

 

[andy.b]

I didn't think it was mean. But...ten Schrutebucks to that guy if he came up with that poem on his own.

 

[PigletGurl]

I think i've read that poem somewhere before. It seems familiar. But no, you weren't mean. At least, its better than to lead him on right?

 

[cindys_castle2011]

That wasn't mean at all. And definitely not, not mean enough. I would never be mean to a guy who practically just told me I make their world go round.

You handled it really well, and if he's mature he'll understand and make sure the friendship carry on.

 

[PurpleDucky]

i wouldn't go out with him anyways because he asked you out through facebook.

 

[Sparx]

i wouldn't go out with him anyways because he asked you out through facebook.

 

[imabrat]

i wouldn't go out with him anyways because he asked you out through facebook.

Good point. I haven't talked to him face to face since September last year, around Homecoming. I haven't talked to him otherwise until today when he told me he "wanted to cook for me" after I put on my status "I burnt my grilled cheese. "

 

[Sparx]

Good point. I haven't talked to him face to face since September last year, around Homecoming. I haven't talked to him otherwise until today when he told me he "wanted to cook for me" after I put on my status "I burnt my grilled cheese. "

that is the most awkward status comment ever.

 

[Ppufi]

No, you were perfect.

 

[imabrat]

that is the most awkward status comment ever.

No kidding. I wrote "severely burnt my grilled cheese. so it's just soup and chips for today. i hate cooking." and the wrote under it "I can cook for you". I was kinda weirded out so I said, "aw thank you, that's so sweet!"

 

[PigletGurl]

No kidding. I wrote "severely burnt my grilled cheese. so it's just soup and chips for today. i hate cooking." and the wrote under it "I can cook for you". I was kinda weirded out so I said, "aw thank you, that's so sweet!"

haha

if that happened to me i would either write back 'lol' 'rofl' or 'lmao'.

 

[imabrat]

Uh-oh. Don't think I was mean enough. His latest message;

Yeah, its ok. I kinda was but its ok. Maybe later on in the year? When everything gets settled. I liked you in 8th grade when we were in Martinelis class but I wasnt sure what you would have said. When I found out you were sick I was crushed. Your beautiful and smart. I'll ttyl sonya.

He keeps trying to "chat" me on Facebook but I'm keeping it simple and non-intrusive. I hate this; I'm not ready for boys and relationships at all!

 

[My Wild Love]

Nah, you weren't mean at all. He honestly seems like one of those boys that you have to be mean to, otherwise your point will never be clear.

 

[Shelton123]

No kidding. I wrote "severely burnt my grilled cheese. so it's just soup and chips for today. i hate cooking." and the wrote under it "I can cook for you". I was kinda weirded out so I said, "aw thank you, that's so sweet!"

I would be too.

I would be brutally honest, but since it's me, you did the right thing

I agree with My Wild Love (I'm sorry I don't know your real name) that he really seems like one of those guys you just have to be mean to

 

[imabrat]

Normally I would be brutally honest (and have been. I even laughed in one guys face which I'm not proud of) but I felt bad. He's not exactly, ahem, known for his "dating repetoire".

 

[life of the party]

He seems wierd.
I mean he never really talked to you, but has ALWAYS had a huge crush on you.
idk, it seems kind of creepy that he has liked you for years and you never really noticed him.

i think you did pretty well with your response, but if he is persistent with talking to you & you dont want him to, you may just have to be mean :/

 

[BabyPiglet]

Good point. I haven't talked to him face to face since September last year, around Homecoming. I haven't talked to him otherwise until today when he told me he "wanted to cook for me" after I put on my status "I burnt my grilled cheese. "

Lol, I saw that! I thought that was the most awkward facebook come on ever! When I saw this thread, I swear I thought 'I wonder if she's talking about grilled cheese boy?'

Anyway, he seems like one of those clingy, 'can't take a hint' kind of guys. I think your response was great, but if he keeps persisting, you might just have to get stern.

 

[imabrat]

Lol, I saw that! I thought that was the most awkward facebook come on ever! When I saw this thread, I swear I thought 'I wonder if she's talking about grilled cheese boy?'

Anyway, he seems like one of those clingy, 'can't take a hint' kind of guys. I think your response was great, but if he keeps persisting, you might just have to get stern.

Yep, it was grilled cheese boy. LOL! Now I won't be able to think of anything but referring to him as "grilled cheese boy". AHAHA!
My BFF kinda "interrogated" him and found out all these things - stuff he had planned for us when we got together! He wants to cook for me, take me to dinner, take me to the movies, "protect" me, etc, etc.