Was this too mean? UD: It's official, he doesn't get it.

[AmandaSparks730]

OMG, I saw that grilled cheese thing!

Me? I would've commented "aww, that sucks" or "LOL!"

GCB? (I am calling him that. Grilled Cheese Boy.) "I'll cook for you!!"

Um. If it's your BFF/BF/GF just playing around with you? Cool. You know them well enough to know that they're kidding, and they'll share their M&M's with you.

CGB? Not so much. Ugh, creeper. I had this boy in 9th grade who kept talking to me during PE. I didn't really know him, but he was kind of a loner, didn't have many friends...when my friends were in band/chorus (because they alternated PE/music) he would always hang with me, talking to me, asking if he could sit with my friends and I at lunch...of course I tolerated it, but he knew the boundary. It was made quite clear after my friend Jake said "oh, just leave her alone!" to him during PE (it was a bit mean, but he was being really annoying that day). Ah, well. He never did it again after.

However, this new kid last year asked my BFF to his Junior Prom...she barely knew him...and he asked for her phone number (she gave him her older brother's) and gave her his number...and he KEPT ASKING her! She said "no, I'm going away for soccer that weekend" (true story, she wasn't making that up to avoid him) and he KEPT ASKING! Ugh, he was creepy.

Sonya, avoid this boy like the plague!

 

[MickeyisBeast]

Whoa, Grilled Cheese Boy (haha funny) sounds like a stalker... I'd stay as far as way as possible...

 

[inlalaland]

I'm going through almost the exact same thing!
This kid who went to my middle school all of a sudden "likes" me, no scratch that, "loves" me. We go to the same high school now, but I haven't seen him yet thankfully. But anyway, basically my situation is the same as your's where he won't leave me alone, non-stop FB messages, I've flat out told him to leave me alone, but he DOESN'T GET IT!! When I'm out with my friends, he calls and texts non stop. One day he called me 11 times, no joke. He told my friend how much he was in love with me, and how he thought it was "love at first sight", and crap and finally SHE herself had to tell him to leave me alone. But nope, still won't. My other friend and I are going biking today and he somehow found out and invited himself and won't stop texting me with, "When are you going?? Where should I meet you??" WTH?? Ugh!

Sorry to hijack your thread Sonya! I'm just letting you know that you aren't alone and I could probably use some of this advice too lol!

 

[rnrlover]

OMIGOSH I can totally relate to this.ok. so this guy is a creeper. Theres a guy on my swim team exactly like this. I almost thought it was him until the firefighter thing. wow. anyhow, I think, you should flat out ignore him. If hes talking to you, ignore him. At this point it seems like you've been nice, but you have to get a little mean. Talk to a school administrator or one of your parents and ask them to confront him. Usually having a group of friends around you deters these kinds of people. this guy sounds plain creepy. have a code word with your friend to let them know if you have to leave because of him, or to start a conversation, QUICKLY! this guy is a creepy stalker person.

 

[StitchfansJr]

OMG, I saw that grilled cheese thing!

Me? I would've commented "aww, that sucks" or "LOL!"

GCB? (I am calling him that. Grilled Cheese Boy.) "I'll cook for you!!"

Um. If it's your BFF/BF/GF just playing around with you? Cool. You know them well enough to know that they're kidding, and they'll share their M&M's with you.

CGB? Not so much. Ugh, creeper. I had this boy in 9th grade who kept talking to me during PE. I didn't really know him, but he was kind of a loner, didn't have many friends...when my friends were in band/chorus (because they alternated PE/music) he would always hang with me, talking to me, asking if he could sit with my friends and I at lunch...of course I tolerated it, but he knew the boundary. It was made quite clear after my friend Jake said "oh, just leave her alone!" to him during PE (it was a bit mean, but he was being really annoying that day). Ah, well. He never did it again after.

However, this new kid last year asked my BFF to his Junior Prom...she barely knew him...and he asked for her phone number (she gave him her older brother's) and gave her his number...and he KEPT ASKING her! She said "no, I'm going away for soccer that weekend" (true story, she wasn't making that up to avoid him) and he KEPT ASKING! Ugh, he was creepy.

Sonya, avoid this boy like the plague!

I did, too.
sadly, he's in my lunch period and I have to walk by his lunch table every day because his is close to my table with my friends. fml.

 

[My Wild Love]

It's kinda funny how all of us can relate to having a creeper at one point in time.

For realz though, stay away from him. If he tries to talk to you again in the future still stay away because in my experience he probably hasn't changed.

 

[rnrlover]

^agreed

 

[::Snow_White::]

Ack, Sonya.

I really have no idea, but good luck! He sounds creepy.

 

[Captain Brain]

Maybe he's just socially awkward or watches too much tv. Or he's a creeper...

Hmm...both options are likely.

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

It seems to me like he's just trying to be a sweet talker and doesn't really know how creepy he's making himself come off.
The best bet is to just ignore him. I know that it'll make you feel mean (because I've been there before) but as long as you in no way respond to him for a while, he'll eventually move on.

And honestly, REAL sweet talkers are way more dangerous. Haha for real.

 

[imabrat]

I'm happy to say I haven't heard from him all day. Of course, that may be from deleteing him off Facebook, but I dunno. This is the message I sent him after the latest poem and one in a million IMs, it's harsh but my patience was running very low. Being nice wasn't working, and I didn't use profanities like I was planning to. (Kudos to you if you can guess the saying. )

STOP! JUST STOP ALREADY! I'm not interested, and I'm not going to be interested anytime soon. Okay? Stop sending poems, they're only making me want to laugh - they're not changing my mind. They're nice and all, but they are to the WRONG PERSON! Leave me alone!

 

[AliceinHalloweentown]

Good for you Sonya! Sometimes you've got to get a little mean to get your point across!

And in reality, good for him, too. Being that obsessive is not healthy, especially for a girl he had no chance with.

 

[life of the party]

good job sonya
you tried being nice, you tried hinting.
this was the last resort , i hope you dont feel bad about it at all

 

[imabrat]

good job sonya
you tried being nice, you tried hinting.
this was the last resort , i hope you dont feel bad about it at all

Yeah, actually I kinda did feel bad. But then I thought "he went TWO YEARS without saying anything, silently watching me pretty much" and that didn't make me feel so bad anymore. I told him exactly why I couldn't have a boyfriend - yes I am selfish. Ya think someone would see the words "sucky home life" and back off, but apparently no?

 

[Fatphil32]

Apparently you have a new stalker.. But he's pretty sexy.

 

[imabrat]

Apparently you have a new stalker.. But he's pretty sexy.

Hm, really. I think the important questions here are 1) Can he make good pepper steak? 2) Can he one-up those poems?

 

[Fatphil32]

Hm, really. I think the important questions here are 1) Can he make good pepper steak? 2) Can he one-up those poems?

1. He's freaking amazing at cooking
2. Hell no

 

[imabrat]

1. He's freaking amazing at cooking
2. Hell no

1. Awesome. Obv, I'm lacking in the cooking dept.
2. Well damn. I was really looking forward to some great poems!

 

[Fatphil32]

I forgot I'm already in love with Katie.. Sorry Sonya. :-(

 

[imabrat]

Crap! I certainly lost out on such a catch there. Does this mean I have to go back to Grilled Cheese Boy? :-(