Warning - Vent ... Shower / Wedding Registries

[RealMickeysGirl]

Anyhow, I'm looking at the registry and I'm
Some of the things they're asking for -
Duvet covers (would like 2) for $99.99 each
Bar Stool $79.99
Bath Towels $14.99 each
Down Comforter $199.99
Hamper $49.99
Vanity Bench $59.99
Bath Rug $59.99
Trash Can $99.99
5 qt Sautee Pan $179.99
Digital Camera $249.99
Printer Dock for Digital Camera $127.99

I'd be getting them a gift certificate to one of the places they are registered in the amount I could afford. JMO

 

[kpm76]

I am shocked that they added a digital camera on the list.

My best friend just got married and she and her DH registered for a digital camera and the whole wedding party went in on it and it was a really nice thing for us to give her. I know it seems extravagent but sometimes those big items are nice for a group to go in on.

One other thing to remember is that most places that offer registeries also offer discounts to the bride and groom after their wedding should they not get everything on their registry. There are things we registered for we had no intention of getting but we knew we'd get a nice percentage off at the end because it was on our registry. I knew a couple that registered for a washer and dryer for that very reason...LOL....

 

[Sleepy]

My best friend just got married and she and her DH registered for a digital camera and the whole wedding party went in on it and it was a really nice thing for us to give her. I know it seems extravagent but sometimes those big items are nice for a group to go in on.

One other thing to remember is that most places that offer registeries also offer discounts to the bride and groom after their wedding should they not get everything on their registry. There are things we registered for we had no intention of getting but we knew we'd get a nice percentage off at the end because it was on our registry. I knew a couple that registered for a washer and dryer for that very reason...LOL....

There is nothing wrong with that, but when the entire list contains only the most expensive items, it sort of sends the wrong message to those giving the gifts. Price range variety is important.

 

[disneynutt1225]

In my family, they always purchase off the registry. If it's a big ticket item, sometimes groups will get together and purchase it. This doesn't necessarily mean that every item on the registry is given, but I'd say 99% of the time the bride and groom receive the gifts they actually want vs what people think they should have.

I think the fact that people live together before they get married shouldn't necessarily be factored into the equation, though. Both of my cousin's lived with their fiance's before marriage, and when it came to the registry they basically "upgraded" all their stuff that they already had. That's also what we did for our registry.

Don't feel obligated to buy off the registry, but if you're not going to do that, a gift card to the places they are registered at would be a good idea (at a price you can afford, of course), IMHO.

Oh, and if I receive slinky lingerie at my shower, I'm going to be mortified. That tradition went by the wayside a loooooong time ago in my family.

 

[C.Ann]

It's probably stainless steel. They're cool-looking (link) and I would love to have one but I have a mental block paying that much for a trashcan..

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I'm sure it is a stainless steel one.. My son-in-law was looking for one recently and when he saw the price he about passed out.. LOL Needless to say, unless he finds one much cheaper, there will be NO stainless steel trash can when we move..

 

[kpm76]

There is nothing wrong with that, but when the entire list contains only the most expensive items, it sort of sends the wrong message to those giving the gifts. Price range variety is important.

ITA!! A variety is price range is essential.

 

[disneynutt1225]

ITA!! A variety is price range is essential.

Definitely.

 

[reddixie]

Where I come from you buy off the registry. As for cost well I don't know who here hasn't paid 89.00 or more for one that's right one plate from Lennox. I know that I would prefer the camera to a place setting for one in China. I am the only person who uses China. I use it reg. not just special occasions because I love China. I am the exception most of my friends registered for China and never use it. It is much more expensive than most of this list. I also think you should register in several price ranges.

 

[tw1nsmom]

When I got married, target wasn't in our area. I would have loved registering there. We registered at Macy's and a kitchen store. I made sure that there were plenty of $20 items along with the higher priced ones. I knew nobody would buy the All-Clad pots and pans, but we thought it might keep someone from buying us an inexpensive set that we really didn't need (if they had bought us one we would have graciously thanked them). Actually, in our area/family, people almost always give money for the wedding present. I had a smallish shower, and I received some of my registry items there.

 

[jbdreamer]

You know you don't have to buy what they registered for, it's a suggestion. If you don't like the list, give them money instead. But don't get offended because they registered for things they wanted. So they like nice things, forgive them. I didn't know couples were suppose to register for only cheap things.

I think a camera is a great thing to register for, it'd be great for the Honeymoon. There is nothing wrong with people going in together to buy it.

I registered for lots of things I wanted but knew I would never buy for myself, including a $150 pedestal mirror and a $70 clothes hamper (and I got that one!).

 

[rt2dz]

When you register, you should register for what you want or need. Not what for others might want to give you; that defeats the point of a registry. Gift givers can buy you whatever they want regardless of the registry. The registry is there to let people know what it is you need & want.

DH and I did not live together until a couple of months prior to our wedding (and then only because of lease issues) & we were engaged for 18 months. I already owned a house & had plenty of the more basics. DH had also been living on his own since 18 & had plenty--we've been married almost 7 years now and for the first time in need of towels since BEFORE we were married. Yup, we didn't register for any or recieve any.

We did register for some very pricey items. Some we received, some we didn't. We received a $1500 grill as a group gift from his office. Others never even gave us so much as a card (greeting type), even though they helped themselves quite generously at the open bar at our wedding. Regardless of what anyone gave--on registry or not--and regardless of the price, we were thankful that someone took the time & energy to pick something out for us. Any gift made us feel special, because we know they thought of us. Gifts should come from the heart. And if you are going to be so judgemental of the couple--don't give a gift or go to the wedding. Obviously you're not that close (emotionally).

If you can't afford what is on the registry (or don't like their tastes), then buy a gift card to where they are registered or pick something out not on the registry (just be sure to include a gift receipt--they may already have it). You should never buy beyond your means--I'm sure the couple wouldn't want that. It costs more to invite a guest at most weddings than the gift they give, so you are usually not invited for a gift.

 

[lulugirl]

Isn't the whole point of a registry to choose items you want? If you disapprove of the $100 trashcan don't buy it!
I would just purchase a giftcard in the amount you are comfortable spending.

 

[bicker]

I think what is distorted is the fact that one would suggest an outrageously priced item like a $99 trashcan when I doubt the couple themselves would be willing to ever pay that much for one. Decent trashcans can be found for much cheaper.

Different people prioritize expenses differently. I wouldn't impose my personal preferences in that regard on my friends and family. YMMV.

Appreciation is recognizing the guest thought of you enough to get you something. Even if it is not exactly what you really wanted.

Of course, but that's a completely different issue. Folks who have bridal registries shouldn't be discourteous to folks who choose to make their own selections outside of that on the registry. No question.

 

[Castlebound]

I always buy off the registry. I think that unless you know the couple really well that it is kind of rude not to buy off the registry. If everything in my price range is already purchased I get the a gift card from one of the stores that they are registered at. For a cousin's wedding I got most of the bathroom decor stuff that they registered for. Now I personal thought that the pattern was UGLY and not something that I would pick. The thing is that it wasn't about me or what I liked, it was about them and their tastes and wants. I have always thought of gifts as things that people get you that you normally would not or could not get yourself. If you were planning on spending $100 and they really want that $99 trashcan what does it matter that it is something that you would never get yourself?

 

[Laura]

LOL I went to a wedding where the bride had the opposite problem: she didn't register for big-ticket items at all. One of the things she registered for was a 3-pack of plastic hangers for $.97 or something (it was less than a dollar). I was like, "you couldn't have just picked those up yourself and bought them while you were in the store?" It was weird. It didn't even go with anything else she wanted, like shoe organizers or something like that. It was very random. This girl was pretty cheap, though. I don't think she thought people would spend that much on her because she didn't spend much on herself in the first place.

We registered for lots of different things, and we needed a lot. Some bigger ticket (vacuum cleaner) and some smaller ticket (measuring spoons). Stuff like spatulas and hand towels are individually cheap and can be bought in bunches up to the person's spending limit. My mom's cousin and her kids got me towels, which was nice, but A) they weren't the ones I registered for and B) I couldn't return them anywhere because they were no longer made! My boss and one of my bridesmaids got me the correct towels. I love them.

I'mover the $60 bath rug. That's gotta be some rug!

 

[jbdreamer]

LOL I went to a wedding where the bride had the opposite problem: she didn't register for big-ticket items at all. One of the things she registered for was a 3-pack of plastic hangers for $.97 or something (it was less than a dollar). I was like, "you couldn't have just picked those up yourself and bought them while you were in the store?" It was weird. This girl was pretty cheap, though. I don't think she thought people would spend that much on her because she didn't spend much on herself in the first place.

My Aunt did this too! But she registered for contact solution and toothpaste.

 

[UnderTheMistletoe]

We just had our wedding in December... at Disney. We found that the only registry that the stuff is just about done with was Crate&Barrel. One person purchased somethign from Target and we got a smatering from Bed, Bath, and Beyond.

We went to the wedding from hell- believe me, it's a post in and of to itself- last August. I was so furious that when we went to the registries, they were registered at Bed, Bath, & Beyond, Williams Sonoma, and Kaufmanns. There was nothing less than $250 on that registry! And she was marrying into the military! Wake up and smell the coffee, love, he's not going to be able to afford you.

I totally know the feeling, becuase I was shocked and then just angry. Especially becuase we had to pay so much to get to the wedding and for DH to be in the bridal party (which he dropped out of the night before the wedding).

 

[bicker]

I am shocked that they added a digital camera on the list.

Digital Cameras are a really good wedding gift. I sure wish I had one on our first few visits to WDW together. I don't think I could even find our photos from those trips now, and who knows what condition they're in?

Price range variety is important.

Definitely. That's probably why those bath towels were on the list. It's interesting: Bath towels are the only gift we got that we still have and remember having gotten as a wedding gift.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I don't have an issue with some high dollar things, because people do go in together and get it as a group (plus, things like pots/pans are just pricey!) but I think a wide range is necessary.

I was invited to a shower of an old childhood friend. I went to Dillards, the only registry they had, to check it out. The cheapest item was a $79.99 dollar SHOWER CURTAIN.

I got frustrated and left - didn't even attend the shower. I was so turned off by it! What's wrong with adding some inexpensive items, too?

 

[Sleepy]

So they like nice things, forgive them. I didn't know couples were suppose to register for only cheap things.

Cheap/inexpensive and NICE can be in the same catagory. Nobody said only register cheap stuff. They said INCLUDE cheap stuff.