Walking up the aisle

[happybratpack]

Has anyone skipped this part? I'm just not enthused about it at all, I don't know why. We're having a small wedding with maybe 20 people, I don't really want to do the whole here-comes-the-bride thing if that makes sense. If you didn't then what did you do? Just start at the front I guess? Was it weird??

I'm having one of those obsessing over everything days.

 

[PrincessMonkey]

You don't have to cue the music and have the pomp and circumstance of "Here-comes-the-bride!" Ultimately, it's really up to you. You do have to get next to your groom somehow...

Eliminating the procession of bridesmaids/groomsmen and the flower girl may be less intimidating for you. Then it appears like you are walking in more casually.

If you're outside, you could take another form of transportation to bring you most of the way to the altar... like a carriage or a small car, or if you're indoors, you can be carried like the Queen of Sheba, etc. I've seen all of those, believe it or not... but they tend to bring more attention to the bride than you may want.

I think the best bet is to cut the music and/or the procession for your entrance or just play non-traditional music that doesn't resemble a tune for a wedding ceremony.

PrincessMonkey

 

[lurkyloo]

What if you and your groom walked up the aisle together? I've seen that, and it's nice. I like the idea that you're arriving together because you're making the commitment together.

 

[rosebud4]

I didn't want to do the walking up the aisle either at my wedding which also was small. I had the minister play "What a wonderful world" and my soon to be husband and I walked together to the minister. It's your wedding, do what is comfortable for you!

 

[Leanne1977]

I'm really glad you posted this thread as I must say this is the part I am dreading.

Its only myself, the groom, our two boys and my future inlaws but the thought of it just scares the pants off me! I hate being the centre of attention and it would be my luck that I fall flat on my face.

 

[pghloveswdw512]

I wish we were walking up the aisle together! I have tried so hard to make our ceremony about the two of us instead of just me, but I know my dad would be devastated if he couldn't walk me. DF wouldn't go for it either. He wants to keep some of the traditional stuff.

I love the idea though!

 

[leelip1982]

I'm glad you posted this as well. I am terrified at this part as well.
Nice to know I'm not the only one.

 

[happybratpack]

Thanks for all the responses on this, I really appreciate the insight!

Larry has two children, I was thinking maybe each walk with one of us to the front? Would that be weird? Just a thought.

 

[lurkyloo]

Oh no, not weird - I think that would be really cute!

 

[Leanne1977]

Thanks for all the responses on this, I really appreciate the insight!

Larry has two children, I was thinking maybe each walk with one of us to the front? Would that be weird? Just a thought.

I think thats a lovely idea and similar to my plans too. My youngest wants to walk down scattering some petals and my eldest will be holding the rings but he is also walking me down the aisle. He is only 9 but he really wants to do it, bless him. My dad won't be there so this seems perfect to me.

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

I'm walking up with my DF as well. We made the decision together to get married, so we felt this was fitting. I also knew this would make me feel more comfortable than walking alone or with my Dad (I love my Dad, but he knows how to make things like this awkward and I don't think he really minds anyway).

I think walking up with the children is a cute idea.....that just gave me an idea for my vow renewal that I am already planning

 

[ChocoKat]

I have been thinking about this too. I think what we will do is: I will walk by myself about three quarters of the way or less, DH will walk from the altar to me, take my hand and then we will walk together the rest of the way.

I won't have any attendants, etc and it sounded like a compromise between the traditional way and something different.

 

[hawky7]

Hey there!

We got married in Vegas almost 9 years ago, and whats funny, is I LOVE to be the center of attention...( hey at least I can admit it right) But actually walking up the aisle freaked the crap out of me. So since it was just me and my hubby and two friends... we decided to walk up together me and my DH. It was perfect, I never felt nervous, and if I had to do it all over again, I'd do it the same way. Something about walking up that aisle, even without guests for us, is a little bit terrifying!!! But knowing that the person you are going to spend the rest of your life is right there to hold you up when you feel like you are freaking out about walking down that aisle, was a big thing for me.

Do what feels good to you, it'll be perfect!!!