Very sad dilemma

[Lizzy Lemon]

We have a married couple who are both doctors at the surgery we go to and DH is their postman. Yesterday it was reported their 15 year old daughter was knocked down on a road crossing by a lorry and tragically died shortly after in hospital. I would like to offer my condolences to them. I have seen them both as a patient but of course they would not remember me but I was wondering whether it would be an intrusion into their private lives if I was to ask DH to post them a card. What would you do?

 

[carolfoy]

I would definately post a card, My mum and dad had such comfort from cards receive after my sister was killed, even the ones where they had to stop and really think about who the people were.
People tend to deal with grief in one of two ways, either they want to talk constantly about their lost one even to complete strangers (as in my dad) or they shut off completely and go into themselves (like my mum) either way a small nugget of comfort is offered from sometimes complete strangers who take the time out to say 'I understand'

 

[jen_uk]

I think it would be nice to send a card and let them know that you are thinking of them.

 

[natalielongstaff]

i would send them a card,im sure they would appreciate it

 

[shellbell]

I would also send them a card, its very sad news.

 

[wideeyes]

I too would send them a card.

 

[Booknut]

I would also send a card. Very sad news.

 

[Cyrano]

I'd send a card

 

[AnitaCB]

How sad - I would send a card so they knew others were thinking of them at such a terrible time.

 

[Nubbedy]

I would send a card. A friend of mine's relative died tragically, and in that case, the parents took great comfort in the cards they received, and in knowing how many people were thinking of them at their sad time.

Sara.

 

[jns]

I would send a card. A friend of mine's relative died tragically, and in that case, the parents took great comfort in the cards they received, and in knowing how many people were thinking of them at their sad time.

Sara.

totaly agree
sent them a really nice card

 

[gilld]

Like the others have said, I would also send a card. You can always put from "the postman" underneath your names to explain who you are.

 

[wils]

How sad

I agree a card is a nice thought in such a situation

 

[Laurafoster]

I agree, when my sister died suddenly we received lots of cards and it really helped us at the time. Even now, several years later if i have a bad day and am feeling a bit down, reading some of the lovely comments people made in those cards really helps!

 

[Queenie]

Yes send them a card, I still have all the cards we received when my dad died suddenly 15 years ago. I can't bear to part with them as they mean so much to me.

 

[Merylj]

That`s so very, very sad. I`d do as others have suggested and send a card and say who you are.

 

[Lizzy Lemon]

Thanks for all those comments, I really wanted to get a card but just felt it might be a bit intrusive to send it to their home. DH said he'd taken a lot of cards to the house today and the younger sister was in the garden with the family dog. Just can't imagine how they must be feeling.

 

[ely3857]

I agree, they may not pay much attention now but long term they will be very gratefull for the kind words from others.



Jodie