Very OT but need to vent or whatever

[Raenstoirm]

Everybody who has eloped has loved it. For the money the wedding will cost we could have an awesome honeymoon! Eloping at Dis is $4,000. I am thinking it is worth it!

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

IF you elope the weekend of August the 22nd, a lot of us will already be there to see you get married. Built in wedding guest who will get you Disneyfied gifts.

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Heck, we can even make you a wedding album.

 

[Raenstoirm]

Wouldn't that be awesome!August in Dis is a wee bit hot though. We are getting late September. I should seriously call dis weddings tonight! I gave myself an March 15 cutoff. if I cant figure out what i am doing by then, we are waiting till 2009!

 

[happycampers]

IF you elope the weekend of August the 22nd, a lot of us will already be there to see you get married. Built in wedding guest who will get you Disneyfied gifts.

Will the newest free dining promotion have started by then?

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Will the newest free dining promotion have started by then?

I"m guess not. From what I've read about everyone's guesses, they are pointing to an August 31st start date for the general US public.

 

[SalandJeff]

It's THEIR wedding....so whether it is in 4 months or 4 years or next week, it's their decision. The reasons are no one else's business. Maybe she is pregnant, maybe not. It may just be that that is when it works out best for her family, and he is willing to accommodate that. If you are truly a good friend, you will be supportive of your friend's decisions. Some of your comments about not splitting up the 3 of you and those types of statements really are not very realistic. If it works out that you become 4 good friends, so be it. He has to find his own life. Not wanting to sound judgmental, just trying to give you different viewpoints.

 

[TinkerKat]

I hate to sound mean, but YOU my dear sound like a nightmareish mother-in-law. Way too many opinions! And concerns that just cross the lines of friendship. Actually you could stand in as the Sister-in-law. I had a doozy of a time with my SIL and her needing constant "explainations" of mine and her brothers decision making! I especially loved when she found out I was pregnant with my 1st child and she asked me "How the f@!%
we were going to afford a baby! Yep, got that instead of a congrats.

Seems to me your friend is a "big boy" Hey he finally moved out of his mom's house! Keep in mind, if you love him. You have to be civil and smile. Because "wives" we wield a power to "cut out" crab grass!

You should sit back, be a supportive friend! I only have 1 daughter and if she wanted to get married in 6 months, I'd spin the fairytale wedding in record time! No worries there!
(I know Maggie and the gang would help)

 

[NemoMom07]

I met my husband from the internet. In three and a half months later we got married. We have been married 4 yrs this July. You know that old saying "when you know we met the right person" that was how it was for us. One day when he was visiting he said lets get married and we did it that day at the justice of peace. No big fancy wedding. No honeymoon (until a year later).

Today he is an owner/operatior of a trucking business and we have a beautiful little boy along with boys from previous relationships. He is a great guy. I regret not letting my family in, but they all were happy for us, but I never have missed the big wedding.

So it just depends on the couple how you want to do things i think.

 

[TiggerFamily]

I understand your feelings. My sister met her fiance in June and he proposed in Nov. My mother and I had only met him once (we all live near each other) before they set the date. This is a second marriage for both of them. They are getting married until Oct, I'm glad they are waiting until then. But I to think they are moving to fast but we have no say it's their lives. And I wish them the best, I think you need to do the same for Ryan.

 

[WDWPirate]

My DH and I did the Disney wedding (the intimate package where you have almost no guests) and it was WONDERFUL!! We were married at the Wedding Pavilion in 1996 and had a small reception on a balcony at the Grand Floridian. Every year we take our kids to see our "brick" that is right next to the Wedding Pavilion that has our names and wedding date. It has become a tradition.

My DH continued our Disney tradition on our 10th Anniversary by giving me a past, present and future anniversary ring in Cinderella's castle after we ate. He had called ahead and the Disney folks had a glass slipper engraved with our names and wedding date. The slipper sat in the middle of a bed of rose petals and the ring was on a tiny rose bud in the slipper. The waitress brought out a tray with a cover (like a dessert tray with lid) and asked me if I wanted to see what my husband had gotten me for my anniversary...I said yes and she took off the lid. I cried and cried!

Disney was our wedding, our honeymoon, almost all of our vacations, our 10th Anniversary and our kids favorite place in the world...ours too! It makes for great memories and tradition.

Just thought I would throw that in for the "elopement" vote!!

Good luck and best wishes!

 

[mommy2mrb]

Okay just my two cents.....met DH Oct 93, moved to FL from WA in Mar 94 (lots of phone calls) with the long distance relationship, got engaged x-mas 95, married Oct 97. we move quickly at the beginning and had a long time together before marriage, but I did plan it in three weeks when DH FINALLY picked the date, all over the phone (we were in CA, wedding in WA) only had 28 people so that helped.

Be there for your friend, but keep out of the details if possible, you don't want it to come back and bite you in the tushy.

Good luck!