Sorry. I truly feel for you.
We absolutely love VB and it feels bad to know bad things are happening to you.
Of all the times we have been there we have never used the grills and probably never will. It's more of a personal choice. I like to eat in the restaurants at VB and don't want to do any cooking. I do, however, think that we would be more likely to grill at HH.
Be happy. Enjoy a nice meal at Shutters or Sonya's. Play checkers in the green cabin room and enjoy a drink. Go down the slide at the pool-you'll love it. Wear DEET to protect yourselves from the no see ums and take in the campfire.
I hope your luck changes and that you give VB a second chance if you decide to go back in the future.