Venting, advice, your thoughts.. anything.. (Slight religion)

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by DMickey28
Granted I deleted the OP however never in that did I state it was SOOOOOOOO important to him.

You know, I wrote this whole long paragraph out but decided it worthless to defend DFiance or myself when people are so bent up on reading into things, even when the plain truth is written out there. Oh well, the life of internet chat sites I guess....

Yes, you get the opinions of others. No, you didn't state that. It's my opinion. Such a big deal over an afternoon!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Talking Hands
...indicated it is a church youth group that is going. Because it is a youth group I would say no one in the group including the adults should be drinking.

Exactly! If that can't be respected, don't go.

 

[robinb]

Originally posted by DMickey28
Thank you for the responses and don't worry, DFiance doesn't have control issues or a drinking problem.

My goodness! I never thought your DBF had any kind of problems! I also didn't read those sentiments in other people's responses. I'm sorry you were upset .

BTW, what ever happened? Inquiring minds and all that .

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Aimeedyan
I don't see why anyone couldn't just wait a few hours to have a beer, I know that's not the point, but I can't imagine why you both wouldn't want to go and enjoy the game and meet some new people without a beer. THey're overpriced there anyways. Head out for drinks later.

Go, have a good time, and stop and have a beer on the way home if he needs one... I wouldn't give up a day at the ballpark over that.

Careful! She didn't say he "needs" one.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by MICKEY88
religion aside..it's a youth group I personally would be upset if I sent my child on a youth group outing and the adults were drinking....

I would be also. I'm trying to imagine a bunch of kids out with some adults from a church group. There is only one adult having an alcoholic beverage. It would stick in my mind if I saw it. Kind of like when a married person doesn't go for lunch with just one single person. If they did, it just wouldn't look appropriate or give a good impression.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by treesinger
And if he can't forgo ONE BEER for HIS DFi? Well, that lowers my esteem for him for certain. If I did that to my DW, she'd hang me out to dry by my ears.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by frustrated
As for the DFi, he needs to allow the OP to make some friends. Otherwise, there could be some control issues going on that she should be concerned with.

And the OP didn't jump on this! Seriously, I had a friend since childhood whose husband eventually managed to get rid of all friends she had. Sad!!

 

[DMickey28]

And the OP didn't jump on this! Seriously, I had a friend since childhood whose husband eventually managed to get rid of all friends she had. Sad!!

I just have to say that as much as this board is cool and fun to read it's really sad that you never really know the person.

I know who I am, I know my Fiance. I know he doesn't have any control issues or drinking problems. I know he is the most supportive person of any action I think of taking. He encourages me to follow any dream I may have, even if it changes week to week. His main priority is making sure I am happy. In turn I want to make sure he is happy. This is why I mentioned to my friend that DFiance didn't want to have a beer with the youth group and mentioned her offer of going seperatly from the group, as she offered. She rescined that offer, that's was a questionable spot for me and Fiance to be in. In no way, shape or form did I ever what her to think that the beer was more improtant because it never was. She stated she couldn't go without the group suddenly so we made plans to go with them. Never was the beer even brought up. I think mentioning it to her was the right thing to do, given DFIance and I don't have experience in this arena.

To the poster of the qoute above I just wanted to say a few things. Maybe this should be done in a PM or not I am not sure. I have read many posts by you and have always thought you where such a strong person. I envied how strong you always come across concerning your son and being a single mom, how you upped and moved from FL to VA. I can't imagine ever having to deal with the things that you did, but you always seemed such a strong person for it. I know you don't know me, I don't post often and I rarely ask questions or advice. I guess that's what it is about these boards that makes things decieving. I see you as such a positive person, even through sad or down or negative posts. I am sorry that you see me as you do...at least in the posts you have left for me.

 

[DMickey28]

Just for the record, late Saturday night I go sick. I was up all night and I was in bed all day yesterday. DFiance and I never made it to the game.

My friend, her husband, DFiance and I are meeting next weekend for a dinner and movie.

I apologize for all the craziness about this, and I am sorry that my words originally allowed for some of these negatives opinions to be formed. Often I have trouble putting things into words and could very well leave room for misunderstanding.

 

[Randi]

DMickey28,
WOW! Talk about a post taking off on a tanget! I read but didn't answer your original post, but I know how you feel being in a new place and not knowing anyone. You want friends, but have to move slow to make sure you all are compatible.
I am so sorry you were sick, but perhaps a night out with just the 4 of you will prove to be the best way to get to know one another in a social situation. I wish you the best.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by DMickey28
I am sorry that you see me as you do...at least in the posts you have left for me.

For some reason you've chosen to criticize my posts. I don't understand that at all. Just giving my opinion from my own experiences. I belonged to a single parents' group at my church for several years. Any time we got together we were reminded...no alcohol, this is a church function/group. At first it bugged many of the guys in the group. Either they could go along with it or not attend. After all, when it came to something like St. Patrick's and they had a dinner/dance, alcohol was there...all adults. I can see the point though...our group had many young kids. We would get together on the weekends at a local park with the kids. The point of the group was to get single parents AND the kids together for some fun and support. So no, I wouldn't think alcohol was appropriate either.

 

[robinb]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
For some reason you've chosen to criticize my posts. I don't understand that at all. Just giving my opinion from my own experiences.

I can't speak for the OP but from where I sit you were not just "giving your opinion". You were "beating the drum". You had 6 posts that were all on the same theme. It's no wonder the OP felt she was being attacked by you.

 

[MHopkins2]

Originally posted by robinb
I can't speak for the OP but from where I sit you were not just "giving your opinion". You were "beating the drum". You had 6 posts that were all on the same theme. It's no wonder the OP felt she was being attacked by you.

Couldn't agree more.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by robinb
My goodness! I never thought your DBF had any kind of problems! I also didn't read those sentiments in other people's responses. I'm sorry you were upset .

Wow, Robin! You've changed your tune from this comment. Six posts on the same thing. Hmmm...I better recount yet again.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by robinb
I can't speak for the OP but from where I sit you were not just "giving your opinion". You were "beating the drum". You had 6 posts that were all on the same theme. It's no wonder the OP felt she was being attacked by you.

Ah, well. Your interpretation is incorrect.

 

[robinb]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
Wow, Robin! You've changed your tune from this comment. Six posts on the same thing. Hmmm...I better recount yet again.

You're right. I was wrong about that comment. I missed the 2 digs you got in the previous 5 minues while I was typing my reply and then, of course, there were the next 3 digs after that.

 

[DMickey28]

I am glad I am not alone and losing my marbles.

I do know that I am very sensitive but I think some of that "beating the drum" was not necessary. I was honest in the fact that I do not know a lot about youth/church groups and was asking an honest answer.

My, I almost went into this AGAIN!! It's so frustrating for me when my thoughts, words and comments are taking so out of context and read into by synical people. I feel the need to keep standing up and repeating myself in hope that they will see the meaning in my words instead of their own.

BTW~ I know I am a poor speller sometimes, please don't pick on me for it.