VENT: Bad choices

[Queen2PrincessG]

We went to Disney on Ice. DD really enjoyed it. There was a very young appearing mom there with her son, who appeared to be about 2 years old. This kid screamed the entire show because he did not want to be there. She then placed him in his stroller so she could watch the show. What did he do? Started to SCREAM LOUDER! and started bucking in the stroller. They had to be 5 rows away and I could hear the kid over the show.

He screamed for 30 minutes off and on she never left.

 

[Christine]

That's awful.

I'm sure it's tough, paying $$$$ like that for a show that you think your kid will enjoy, only to have them have a tantrum. I'm sure it's also tough when you want to go shopping and your kid doesn't and you don't want to leave. But the right thing to do, as a parent, is to actually think of someone besides yourself and leave, even if it ruins your day.

I live near a big outlet mall that is a "destination" for most people. There are bus trips here but, most times, people will drive an hour or two to come shopping. It never fails that when I'm in the Gap Outlet especially, there is a family shopping with their young children. It is 10:00 a.m. and the kids are already screaming. They don't want to be there. Last weekend, I was in the store a full 30 minutes and this one kid screamed his head off the ENTIRE time. The parent never thought to take him out of the store so that others would not have to deal with that. It was awful. But it's especially bad in a paid show.

I know those things are held in arenas; however, I don't think it's out of bounds for one of the staff to ask her to take herself and her child up to the concourse level until he can be more quiet.

 

[happygirl]

I'm sorry it bothered you, I'm really blessed just to tone out fussy kids, maybe she was afraid of giving into his fits if she did leave.

 

[marmalade]

As a mother myself with kids who are far from perfect I would have just tuned the kid out. You said the mother appeared young, was the father there or anyone else or was she alone? Maybe she didn' know what to do? Kids do not come with instruction manuals and it takes time to learn how to be a mom.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

As a mother myself with kids who are far from perfect I would have just tuned the kid out. You said the mother appeared young, was the father there or anyone else or was she alone? Maybe she didn' know what to do? Kids do not come with instruction manuals and it takes time to learn how to be a mom.

No she was alone. She never even tried taking him out though. No, children don't come with manuals but thats just common sense. Like I said we were far enough away that i could tune it out but at some points he became extremely loud.

 

[Hannathy]

That is horrible and I don't care how young she is she knows he was disturbing others. She was very selfish and self centered. A grown up snowflake! This is going to happen more and more as this entitled you can do no wrong cause you are special generation grows up. I would have found and usher and have them tell her to take him out. or refund my money . Your show was being disrupted and teaching her child a lesson was not what you paid to see.

If everyone sat there and listened to it for a half an hour without getting an employee I am really surprised ! I certainly wouldn't have. Those tickets are not cheap and I didn't pay for a screaming child.

I can not tune out a crying child it bothers me immensely and most importantly I shouldn't have to at a performance I PAID to get into!!!

 

[luvsJack]

Maybe she wasn't sure what to do. You said she was young. Some people say to ignore outbursts from your child and not to give in and leave; some say remove them immediatly. When you are a young mom, you may not know which is best.

Anytime you go to a show that is primarly for children, you are going to have at least one crying and in a crowd, its hard to tell just why someone doesn't pick up the kid and leave.

Did she perhaps have other children with her and felt it wasn't fair to make them leave?

Maybe there was a grandma sitting right there beside her that told her "no, you should make him sit here" or some other not so great adivce.

Maybe she was just mortified and didn't quite know how to handle the situation?

 

[happygirl]

Maybe she wasn't sure what to do. You said she was young. Some people say to ignore outbursts from your child and not to give in and leave; some say remove them immediatly. When you are a young mom, you may not know which is best.

Anytime you go to a show that is primarly for children, you are going to have at least one crying and in a crowd, its hard to tell just why someone doesn't pick up the kid and leave.

Did she perhaps have other children with her and felt it wasn't fair to make them leave?

Maybe there was a grandma sitting right there beside her that told her "no, you should make him sit here" or some other not so great adivce.

Maybe she was just mortified and didn't quite know how to handle the situation?

Why is it bad advice not to take the child out> Why give into fits that only leads to worse problems down the road

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

For the most part I can tune kids out as well, but the other night I took my kids to see The Lion King (broadway.) There was a man next to us with 2 kids about 2 and 4, I'd guess. And while they didn't cry, they talked the entire show. It was so distracting and the tickets aren't cheap. So while I understand it can be tough when you have little kids, especially on your own, I don't think it's right to ruin the experience for others around you.

 

[luvsJack]

Why is it bad advice not to take the child out> Why give into fits that only leads to worse problems down the road

hmmmm. should have said "similar" advice.

 

[MushyMushy]

Why is it bad advice not to take the child out> Why give into fits that only leads to worse problems down the road

Because why should everyone in the child's vicinity have to pay for this child's tantrum? They shouldn't have to put up with that. Taking the kid out of the area does NOT have to be a reward.

I'm appalled at people who allow their kids to continue meltdowns in public places, especially restaurants or shows where other patrons are held hostage to the screamer.

 

[happygirl]

Because why should everyone in the child's vicinity have to pay for this child's tantrum? They shouldn't have to put up with that. Taking the kid out of the area does NOT have to be a reward.

I'm appalled at people who allow their kids to continue meltdowns in public places, especially restaurants or shows where other patrons are held hostage to the screamer.

Are you serious, IT"S a kids program with kids there they are going to be loud and crazy anyway.

I wouldn't for one second give into my child. If they are throwing a fit OP said they child wanted to leave, so by leaving you are giving in to the child and REWARDING them by giving in.

 

[Hannathy]

Are you serious, IT"S a kids program with kids there they are going to be loud and crazy anyway.

I wouldn't for one second give into my child. If they are throwing a fit OP said they child wanted to leave, so by leaving you are giving in to the child and REWARDING them by giving in.

so you are being as rude as your child! It is not your living room or even your car YOU do not have the right to disrupt what I paid a price to see unless you want to refund my money so I can see it when there aren't rude disruptive people in the place. Teach your child where it doesn't disturb me.

Like I said I would get the usher to tell you to take your child out or I would be getting my money back. And faced with an entire section asking for their money back I believe you would be leaving with your child. Your child isn't the only child in the place, far from it. You behave in public spaces or you leave-why is that so hard for people to understand?

 

[happygirl]

so you are being as rude as your child! It is not your living room or even your car YOU do not have the right to disrupt what I paid a price to see unless you want to refund my money so I can see it when there aren't rude disruptive people in the place. Teach your child where it doesn't disturb me.

Like I said I would get the usher to tell you to take your child out or I would be getting my money back. And faced with an entire section asking for their money back I believe you would be leaving with your child. Your child isn't the only child in the place, far from it. You behave in public spaces or you leave-why is that so hard for people to understand?

I wouldn't leave now if wasn't a kid friendly place then yes I would leave.

 

[AristocatFan]

But it is not rewarding to the child if you remove them from the situation, calm them down and give them a firm talking to about appropriate behavior in public places! These kind of things irk me too. Tell the child the kind of behavior that is expected and the consequences for not. If you have to remove them the whole show so be it, but don't make where ever you take them fun!

 

[happygirl]

so you are being as rude as your child! It is not your living room or even your car YOU do not have the right to disrupt what I paid a price to see unless you want to refund my money so I can see it when there aren't rude disruptive people in the place. Teach your child where it doesn't disturb me.

Like I said I would get the usher to tell you to take your child out or I would be getting my money back. And faced with an entire section asking for their money back I believe you would be leaving with your child. Your child isn't the only child in the place, far from it. You behave in public spaces or you leave-why is that so hard for people to understand?

I bet not one person asked for there money back. Why is so hard for people to block kids out? What is the difference between a toddler crying and screaming or a child yelling and screaming that they are excited and happy? Should a person ask for that child to be escorted out and be giving money back, no that is crazy, as is getting upset over a toddler throwing a fit.

 

[DISshopkeeper]

No way would I allow a child of mine to disrupt other people's enjoyment of a show of ANY TYPE. That's a lesson they need to learn.

For the most part I can tune kids out as well, but the other night I took my kids to see The Lion King (broadway.) There was a man next to us with 2 kids about 2 and 4, I'd guess. And while they didn't cry, they talked the entire show. It was so distracting and the tickets aren't cheap. So while I understand it can be tough when you have little kids, especially on your own, I don't think it's right to ruin the experience for others around you.

For THIS I would have definitely gone for management. If kids cannot understand and cooperate with theater etiquette they should NOT be there. Broadway is NOT for children who cannot comply.

 

[DISshopkeeper]

I bet not one person asked for there money back. Why is so hard for people to block kids out?

Because they shouldn't HAVE to. Parents are supposed to KNOW WHAT TO DO. And it's NOT the time to teach a lesson. It's time to TAKE THEM OUT. That's what a responsible adult should do.

 

[happygirl]

Because they shouldn't HAVE to. Parents are supposed to KNOW WHAT TO DO. And it's NOT the time to teach a lesson. It's time to TAKE THEM OUT. That's what a responsible adult should do.

Would you also get mad at Kids who were screaming and yelling because they were excited at the event?

If you go to an event that targets kids you are going to have learn to accept all kinda of behavior end of story. Now you had said something about Broadway that is a different story to me I don't consider that to be a kid friendly event.

Oh by the way I'm quiet responsible

 

[disneyjunkie]

Are you serious, IT"S a kids program with kids there they are going to be loud and crazy anyway.

I wouldn't for one second give into my child. If they are throwing a fit OP said they child wanted to leave, so by leaving you are giving in to the child and REWARDING them by giving in.

When we attend a kid's program, we expect certain things.

Kids will yell, cheer, clap, sing, dance, laugh, talk.... all that is to be expected.

What we don't expect is for a parent to remain seated with a screaming/crying
kid. Why subject everyone around you to your child's fit?