Vent about Nordstrom!

[Liberty Belle]

It did come across as that , while you may not have meant it. It sounds like those of us who enjoy playing with beauty products are vain and don't know what real beauty is.

Of course this might be only in reaction to what was previously said by our Dis self declared high maintenance Queen and not a across the board thought.

Back to original discussion lol, hit the MAC store, great customer service. I am never happy shopping at a dept store Mac counter, I always seem to have a much happier experience at the actual Mac store.

Next time, speak up quicker, it isn't rude to speak up especially when you do it with a smile, even if you have to use a bit louder voice.

Yes, that. Besides, I don't think liking nice things makes you high maintenance.

 

[Cinderella94]

I think the point is the definition of "high maintenance." I mentioned on the other thread that I'm a bit of a food snob - I don't eat fake butter or "instants." But if I were invited to someone's house and they served me instant mashed potatoes with margarine and fried chicken (I also don't eat things with bones, but that's an entirely different story!), I would eat it and be grateful. "High maintenance" to me would be refusing the meal and making the host fix you something else.

There's nothing wrong with liking nice things and buying nice things if you can afford it. There is something wrong with thinking you are better than someone else because you like nice things.

This is exactly what I was trying to say before with my Oprah example, but I think it got overlooked.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

This is exactly what I was trying to say before with my Oprah example, but I think it got overlooked.

I read it!

 

[Cinderella94]

I read it!

Thanks! I didn't mean that you overlooked it, just that the people who it was intended for had overlooked it.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I think the point is the definition of "high maintenance." I mentioned on the other thread that I'm a bit of a food snob - I don't eat fake butter or "instants." But if I were invited to someone's house and they served me instant mashed potatoes with margarine and fried chicken (I also don't eat things with bones, but that's an entirely different story!), I would eat it and be grateful. "High maintenance" to me would be refusing the meal and making the host fix you something else.

There's nothing wrong with liking nice things and buying nice things if you can afford it. There is something wrong with thinking you are better than someone else because you like nice things.

Exactly. Or even not having friends who would serve instant potatoes or talking about how gauche they are because they eat instant potatoes. Or even eat at a "lower quality" restaurant than you'd ever eat at and talking about them because they actually think of it as a nicer restaurant.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

As for "high maintenance" there's a saying I always say to my daughter: there's a difference between being spoiled and being spoiled rotten. She is spoiled, NOT spoiled rotten. The other saying I have is "What do we get when we whine?" She knows the answer "Nothing!"

As for Nordstrom, I'm generalizing here obviously, but if this is the type of store you chose to shop in, expect to be treated like less than. I've never been in a high end store (and admittedly I don't shop in them often) where you're treated like anything other than "less than" unless you are parading around in Manolo's, dripping in diamonds and furs and generally parading your income. To see the look on their faces when I come strolling in in my sneakers and jeans: . Suddenly, someone else seems important. I chose not to be made to feel "less than". I take my business elsewhere.

 

[katesorad]

Those from Southern California who have ever shopped at Fashion Valley Mall in San Diego know exactly what I was talking about..

 

[eliza61]

This is exactly what I was trying to say before with my Oprah example, but I think it got overlooked.

Nope I gottcha, justs didn't have a chance to respond. thanks for the clarification.

I do think these boards are a bit rough on examples of wealth though. for example when people say they dropped 10K on a disney vacation for the most part I find they are immediately told how silly (not the word I want to use) for paying that kind of money when they could have easily gone for less.... that sort of thing happens regularly here.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Those from Southern California who have ever shopped at Fashion Valley Mall in San Diego know exactly what I was talking about..

Amen, sister.

 

[eliza61]

As for "high maintenance" there's a saying I always say to my daughter: there's a difference between being spoiled and being spoiled rotten. She is spoiled, NOT spoiled rotten. The other saying I have is "What do we get when we whine?" She knows the answer "Nothing!"

As for Nordstrom, I'm generalizing here obviously, but if this is the type of store you chose to shop in, expect to be treated like less than. I've never been in a high end store (and admittedly I don't shop in them often) where you're treated like anything other than "less than" unless you are parading around in Manolo's, dripping in diamonds and furs and generally parading your income. To see the look on their faces when I come strolling in in my sneakers and jeans: . Suddenly, someone else seems important. I chose not to be made to feel "less than". I take my business elsewhere.

really? I find hte exact opposite, which is why I like those stores. first, I hate dirty stores. I love stores that for the most part the clothes are arranged nicely, sweaters folded etc. I hate walking into the kohls or JCpennys near my house during a sale, clothes every where, fitting rooms with graffitti on the walls, dirt all over the place. sorry I simply can't buy a pair of slacks that look like they have been stuffed in the back of some ones closet.

Second, I hate the help in the Boscov's, kohls and walmarts. if one more young girl totally ignores me and continues talking to her girlfriend at the register while chewing gum I swear I'm going to scream....
I hate having to hunt down sales help (do they even have those in Kohls) and lugging my stuff to a register simply to ask a question drives me batty.

I'm the poster who got blasted because I brought a winter coat and they gave me a cheap plastic hanger. Yep, totally admit, I spend 400 bucks on a nice winter coat, I want it hung up on a nice hanger with a plastic bag over it. I love shopping talbots, clean stores, attentive sales help that dress nicely and smile and say 'how are you'? when I walk into the store. I love how they wrap my clothes after folding them nicely, not just shove them in a bag.

I totally get that i'm probably paying more for that experience along with the better quality clothes. I'm totally fine with that.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

I think the point is the definition of "high maintenance." I mentioned on the other thread that I'm a bit of a food snob - I don't eat fake butter or "instants." But if I were invited to someone's house and they served me instant mashed potatoes with margarine and fried chicken (I also don't eat things with bones, but that's an entirely different story!), I would eat it and be grateful. "High maintenance" to me would be refusing the meal and making the host fix you something else.

There's nothing wrong with liking nice things and buying nice things if you can afford it. There is something wrong with thinking you are better than someone else because you like nice things.

Agreed. I've never thought I was per say better than anyone , maybe more knowledgeable about things, but not better. It seems that sometimes here on the Dis people seem a bit eager to think or assume the worst from someones statements.

 

[tlbwriter]

Not necessarily in my eyes. I think of high maintenance as someone who has expensive taste. Ivana Trump too me is high maintenance. I don't think Melinda Gates is.

Well, I'd certainly use Melinda Gates as my role model before I'd use Ivana Trump.

I think the point is the definition of "high maintenance." I mentioned on the other thread that I'm a bit of a food snob - I don't eat fake butter or "instants." But if I were invited to someone's house and they served me instant mashed potatoes with margarine and fried chicken (I also don't eat things with bones, but that's an entirely different story!), I would eat it and be grateful. "High maintenance" to me would be refusing the meal and making the host fix you something else.

Yes, this is it. Liking nice things is not high maintenance. Demanding them from others is. There's a difference between being pampered and being spoiled.

 

[SaraJayne]

Well, I'd certainly use Melinda Gates as my role model before I'd use Ivana Trump.



Yes, this is it. Liking nice things is not high maintenance. Demanding them from others is. There's a difference between being pampered and being spoiled.

Yes. It's all about the attitude.

 

[wvjules]

Well, I'd certainly use Melinda Gates as my role model before I'd use Ivana Trump.



Yes, this is it. Liking nice things is not high maintenance. Demanding them from others is. There's a difference between being pampered and being spoiled.

Who called either one of them a role model?

 

[tlbwriter]

Who called either one of them a role model?

No one. Does that mean I'm not allowed to bring it up on my own? If someone proudly proclaims that she is high maintenance, and mentions a woman who is and a woman who isn't, is it wrong for me to say I think one of the two women mentioned is a better role model than the other one? And if so, why?

 

[wvjules]

No one. Does that mean I'm not allowed to bring it up on my own? If someone proudly proclaims that she is high maintenance, and mentions a woman who is and a woman who isn't, is it wrong for me to say I think one of the two women mentioned is a better role model than the other one? And if so, why?

Of course it doesn't mean you aren't allowed to bring it up or discuss it. I read it as you saying that the PP looked up to them as role models and was wondering where you got that from since I hadn't seen either of them referred to as a role model anywhere on this thread, or any other.

 

[tlbwriter]

Of course it doesn't mean you aren't allowed to bring it up or discuss it. I read it as you saying that the PP looked up to them as role models and was wondering where you got that from since I hadn't seen either of them referred to as a role model anywhere on this thread, or any other.

Okay. Your post seemed to suggest it was a giant leap of logic to go from "I am like this famous person" to "I'd rather be like that other famous person you mentioned, thanks."

 

[Lassie Lynne]

I am sorry that you had such a bad experience. Nordstrom really does try and pride itself on customer service and it sounds like they let you down. I would contact the store and let them know the short-coming of the sales rep.

 

[MistressMerryweather]

I would not feel proud labeling myself this way, and I most definitely wouldn't take it as a compliment if someone else labeled me this way. High maintenance is mostly associated with "attitude" of some kind, and not in a good way. In a whiney, "I have to get my own way" all the time, attitude.

1. high maintenance
Requiring a lot of attention. When describing a person, high-maintenance usually means that the individual is emotionally needy or prone to over-dramatizing a situation to gain attention.

2. high maintenance
A person who has expensive taste (re. clothing, restaurants, etc.).
This person is never comfortable because he/she is constantly concerned about his/her appearance.
This person feels they are better than most people and usually judge others based on outward appearances.

3. high maintenance
1. Requiring much time and many products to keep their appearance at the current level. 2. And/or requiring much attention from others in relationships, romantic or otherwise.

4. high maintenance
having expensive taste and multiple costly needs frequently.

5. high maintenance
Often a divorced woman with a fake tan, big processed hair (usually blonde) and lots of bling. Very insecure about her looks and requires constant reassurance of her physical beauty. Spends lots of time and money on clothes, shoes, accessories, hair, makeup and beauty treatments. Needs expensive homes, cars, clothes and vacations. Never pays for anything when in the presence of men.

6. high maintenance
<i>adv.</i> One who takes pleasure in the finer things of life. Typically a person who believes that the price of an item is an indicator of quality. Stereotpyes: takes forever (two hours plus) to get ready for a picnic, knows the Chanel cosmetics counter manager on a first name basis, only gets their hair done by stylists who charge over $100/hour.


AND MY FAVORITE AND I BELIEVE MOST ACCURATE...
7. high maintenance
A very stuck up person who is very demanding and extremely needy

Perhaps the pp should switch their avatar from Tatiana to...

 

[Nicolepa]

As for Nordstrom, I'm generalizing here obviously, but if this is the type of store you chose to shop in, expect to be treated like less than. I've never been in a high end store (and admittedly I don't shop in them often) where you're treated like anything other than "less than" unless you are parading around in Manolo's, dripping in diamonds and furs and generally parading your income. To see the look on their faces when I come strolling in in my sneakers and jeans: . Suddenly, someone else seems important. I chose not to be made to feel "less than". I take my business elsewhere.

I had this happen last summer. I'd lost some weight (after having baby #3) and needed a couple of new outfits. I went to Nordstroms, because, well, I wanted to try some high end jeans and that's really the only option out here. So I went in the nicest pair of jeans and a decent shirt. NO ONE would help me. I got home and my dh says, "Well, you weren't dressed for Nordstroms." I reminded him that the whole reason I was going to Nordy's was because I didn't have anything nice to wear and hadn't gotten anything nice in 3 years. How am I supposed to get help, if I don't have the clothes needed to buy there?

Oh and I was wearing a 2 ct diamond, Mikimoto Pearl earrings and an Omega Watch, it's not like I was totally in shambles!