Update

[missesdisney]

Hi all - have been sporadically around (though still active in my swaps) for the past few weeks and wanted to update everyone. My dad passed away last night after being in the hospital about 3 weeks. We took him in because he was acting loopy and he's had heart and lung issues a long time (lifetime smoker) and we'd seen similar behavior before when his C02 was high. It wasn't that and it took them a few days to figure out what it was outside of some minor issues. They determined a few days later that he had lung cancer and they were pretty sure it had spread to his liver. He was out of it and fighting the nurses and such for about 5 days before coming back to us and then was in the hospital about another week having tests and getting oxygen under control before he was supposed to go to rehab 2 weeks ago. They were going to take him to rehab on a Wed night and the nurse noticed he wasn't breathing so well so they kept him. When I went the next morning, he was in respiratory distress and after a series of people came in they sent the critical pulmonary specialist, who happens to be my neighbor. He said he needed to put him on a respirator and that he was concerned about how he would do getting off of it. We decided with my dad that we wanted to do this and give him the opportunity to get better and spend whatever time he has with us. He was on the respirator 11 days and this weekend started getting worse and weaning was no longer a viable option. He got worse again Sunday and yesterday and we decided to take him off the respirator and he died about 10 minutes later.

So far I am ok - not sure why - a bit of relief that he didn't suffer and didn't have to sit in a nursing home facing horrible suffering from the lung cancer.

We told my son (who will be 8 on Sunday) exactly what was going on when we put him on the respirator and he has been a real trouper. He's just an amazing kid and last night he came up to check on me and said he was going to be strong for me. He's just amazing.

Maria

 

[logan&tylersmama]

so sorry to hear about your dad - my thoughts are with your family during this difficult time
jennifer

 

[jennyL]

I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[DisneyIsTerrific]

Oh Maria, I'm so sorry. Lots of to you. I went through something similar with my dad 10 years ago. I still really miss him, but the hurts has lessened and I'm able to remember him now seeing the happy times we had and not just in those last few weeks in the hospital. to you and your family.

 

[ddavis860]

So sorry for your loss...

Kids are so amazing, glad your little one understands how hard this is, and wants to help you. What a great kid!

 

[Arizona Rita]

Maria, prayers and thoughts go to you and your family.

 

[AlexWyattMommy]

Maria, prayers for you and your family.

 

[aroyer]

So sorry for your loss, your family is in my prayers! What an amazing little one, such a sweetheart!

 

[nikkistevej]

I'm so sorry for your loss- I lost my Dad at the end of October last year- it's been rough. Stay strong!!!

 

[JandJ]

I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time. It sounds cliche, but having experienced the loss of both of my parents (we just had the 1 year anniversary of losing daddy) I promise you that time does help

 

[Kim1964]

I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your family.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

Hey Maria, sadly now we are in the same club. Not one we want to be in but we are here together. MIL passed on the 29th and it's been a tough row but we are getting through. I too take comfort in the fact that she is no longer suffering and is in a much better place now.
Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you through this, and for your DS too. So far our kids have been doing well, they are resilient.

 

[party of 3]

Maria,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. You son sounds so sweet.

 

[rlovew]

Sorry to hear about it. We are here anytime you need us.

Rebecca

 

[PrincessNancy96]

Maria,

I am so sorry for your loss... My family's thoughts and prayers are with your family!!!

If you need anything, please let one of us know!!!

 

[bearbear]

Maria,
If there is anything I can do please let me know. I'm not that far from you. Please don't hesitate to ask.
Sorry for you loss.
Cindy

 

[JESW]

I am so very sorry to hear your news. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Jill

 

[MomOf2DisneyKids]

I'm so sorry, Maria. You and your family are in my prayers!!!

 

[New England Eeyore]

So sorry to hear that, Maria. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Michellepooh]

So sorry to hear of your loss, Maria.