Update on my soap opera life

[Lucky4me]

Serena, they ALWAYS try to come back.

Now, you do what YOU really want to do. Even if you don't want him back, doesn't this feel better than when he left?

 

[Serena]

It really doesn't. Now both families are going to expect me to let him back and I can't do that. So, now instead of support and sympathy, they are all going to be angry with me.

I really think he should have thought a little more before he left, especially if he's already changed his mind again. I gave him every chance to try and work things out, I was willing to try and he said no and even lied to me about it. When he left and while he's been gone I've realized a lot of things. One of which is I don't want to be married to him.

He's going through some mid life thing and I don't need or want the heartache.

 

[scarlett873]

stay strong sweetie!!!

sending some pixie dust in your direction!!!

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[Blondie]

Stand strong Laurie! {{{hugs}}}

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My dad did the same thing when I was 16. My mom took him back.
I suppose you are right about your family & dh. They are going to "expect" you to take him back because his fling is over.
You dh always wants the biggest slice of EVERYTHING!
{{{HUGS}}}

 

[FOJMO]

Just remember, when you feel like everyone else is mad at you for not taking him back --

THEY AREN'T MARRIED TO HIM -- YOU ARE!

And, maybe, just maybe, when he's living with his parents, they may get a closer view of how he really is. Of course, they will probably stick up for him because he's their family!

Bottom line is you do what's best for YOU! Don't let any guilt trip get to you. Stick to your guns -- you're the only one that can please YOU!

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

I admire your resolve...stick to it!!! Will it be hard for you to see him so often? He'll find a million reasons to be at your door.

 

[Cindy B]

Well, just hang in there...

You do what is right for you.. and go from there.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font face="Comic Sans MS"><font color=#006400>Serena,

Bottom line - it doesn't matter where he lives - he no longer has power over you. He just doesn't realize it yet.

So what if you have to deal with the families being mad at you - you still get to go to your own home & have peace, as long as you're doing the right thing.

We're here for you if it gets tough, and you know we're behind you.

Good luck, and stay strong, girl.

 

[Rajah]

No words of wisdom for you, Laurie. But I do have *hugs* and PD coming your way. *HUGS*

 

[CarolAnnC]

So sorry to hear of all your troubles. Hugs and hang in there. Only you can make the best decision for yourself.

 

[Teejay32]

The families shouldn't get mad at you for not taking him back because it makes no sense. It would be awfully nice if all was smoothed over and forgiven and things return to a happy normal...when does that ever happen though. It was much more than a little spat or a misunderstanding. I would gently remind them that it was his decision to leave and you were the one who had to get used to it, and *oops* that's just what you did.

 

[RUDisney]

Do you think that counseling will help?

If you wanted to work things out, that would be one thing, but maybe separation counseling would help both of you (mostly him) get on with your lives.

It sounds like he needs to take responsibility for his actions so HE can move on. Counseling may just help to get you further over the hump, too.

Sending hugs your way...

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. You have to do what is best for you and no one but you knows what that is so don't worry about his family or your family. Worry about you and your girls.

BTW, you <b>did</b> have the locks changed, right?

 

[TinkerPixie]

I agree with nativetxn, have the locks changed, tell both families that you are happy with the way things are now, and stay strong.

Be prepared for a lot of guilt trips from him, about not letting him come back, but dont let him get to you....... hang in there!

 

[jldriscoll]

YOu are one stronge woman LAurie!!! I like hearing all this "I don't need him talk!!!" What's the phrase?....."you go girl!!!"

 

[Boots]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{HUGS}}}} to you, Laurie.

 

[disfanatiks]

Stay strong, Laurie!!!

 

[Serena]

Thanks all.