Update: Dating a non Disney fan

[Mickey76]

Hey everyone,

I mentioned a few weeks ago that I was having some difficulty dating someone who is not a Disney fan. My girlfriend and I sat down and had a long conversation about this topic. amongst other things. She was still pretty adamant about not going to Disney World until after we were married. I thought about it for quite some period of time. I realized that we wanted something different in the relationship, at least at this time. I don't want to get married any time soon....at least not to her. Through our discussions I realized there were a lot of differences at how we view ourselves, each other, and the rest of the world. I always knew Disney was important to me, but never so much that it would be a contributing factor to a relationship. I thought that I might be acting a little selfish, and I guess, in a way I am. However, something this important to me should be accpted and I was left feeling that it was not. We talked over the weekend and she left my house a few hours ago. I'm now a single man again. I'm a little bummed, but I feel that this is the right move. There were other contributing factors other than just the Disney factor and right now I feel that making myself happy is the most important thing. After all, if I'm not happy, how can I make someone else happy? Anyway, thanks for listening. Talk to you soon.

Mickey76

 

[Tuffcookie]

Mickey76, I remember your post! I admire you for being honest with yourself and your girl friend. There is something better waiting..." Just around the river bend"!

TC

 

[CamColt]

Awww, Mickey. Sorry about the breakup, but just know everything happens for a reason.
Best of luck to you.

 

[SplshMtn99]

I didn't see your other post... so I don't even know if this is relavant... but she should have at least TRIED DisneyWorld before she said NO & gave up on a relationship.

Too bad!

 

[Princess_Aurora]

I know just the thing to cheer you up...A TRIP TO DISNEY WORLD! I hear it's a great place to meet other singles...and at least you wouldn't have to worry about meeting someone who's NOT a Disney fan

 

[Mickey76]

Thanks for all of the support everyone. The more that I think about the whole situation, the better I'm feeling about the result. I really wish I could go to Disney World right now, but that won't happen. Ideally, I'd like to meet a fellow Disney fan, but for now, I'm taking some time to myself. In the future, I hope someone starts a website for Disney fans who are single looking to meet other fans.

Mickey76

 

[Lars624]

I'm awfully sorry that things turned out this way for you Mickey. I hope that you find a fellow Disney fan someday! Hang in there...the right girl for you is out there somewhere!!!

 

[Mickey76]

Thanks Lars, I hope so, too.

Mickey76

 

[jamsmom]

{{{HUGS}}} I am so sorry. I know that someday down the road, you will be glad to have discovered that now and not years down the road.

I am hoping my next special someone likes Disney, too. Good luck

 

[GeorgeG]

Sorry things didn't work out for you, neighbor.

Serious relationships should not hinge on something like Disney (it does pain me a bit to say that), but there is no real relationship when one will not even try something for the other.

It's not like Disney is something illegal or immoral. If she was not willing to try a short vacation before getting married, there really wasn't much hope for things down the road. Sounds like everything was all about her.

Keep your chin up. There are a lot of great girls out there, and like Princess Aurora said, WDW is not a bad place to meet them.

 

[Serena]

best wishes Mickey76.

 

[Buckalew]

Yes, best wishes to you. I remember that post. I thought you needed to do the heart to heart talk and clear all this up and not assume anything. While relationships can and will overlook a lot of things there are things that are important to us that we should consider. Disney sounds more important to you than the average vacationer out there. Nothing wrong with that... I think you are smart to face it now and not be miserable about it later. (both of you)

 

[disykat]

Next time you meet someone though, make sure they understand that your love of Disney is totally separate from your previous relationships. In your previous post it sounded like your former girlfriend had a great deal of difficulty knowing that you got engaged at WDW in the past and associated that with it very strongly. There were a lot more issues there than just being anti-Disney.

 

[wvjules]

Love of Disney is a contributing factor in a relationship!?!?!?! I don't think something so trivial would be a deal breaker for me. There are other places to vacation and also solo trips.

 

[Steve H.]

I really hope there was more to this breakup than just the love (or lack of love, in her case) of Disney? If that was the deal killer in your relationship, then I think you should really reassess your priorities.

 

[LarryE]

I lost a fiancee because she didn't like disney, her loss though

 

[dianeschlicht]

Sounds like it was a "tip of the iceberg" thing. Maybe you will find someone at a DIS meet or right at WDW!

 

[Carebear7]

I'm sorry things didn't work out with you and your girlfriend. Some of the hardest decisions in life are the best..I second that "Disney Singles Website". It's a great idea! Best of Luck to you

 

[Rajah]

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but it sounds like the breakup is for the best. Seems her anti-Disney sentiment was really just a symptom of many more problems and y'all were viewing the relationship from different angles.

Good luck to you in future relationships!!

 

[Kallison]

If something bugs you in a relationship it will increase TENFOLD when you get married. I was so in love with DH I would have lived on the moon if he asked me, and I certainly would have been able to tolerate somewhere he really wanted to vacation at. I think you made the right choice.