Untitled Hyena Thread

[staley7580]

I can just picture you on the playground...

oh yeah... I am totally one of those kids.

Does anybody know if there is a soundtrack CD for Enchanted?

Most likely.


Okay... I went to the mall this morning, and I went into Torrid. Its a totally cute fat girl store. I LOVE IT! Its owned by hot topic, so the clothes kinda run that way, kwim? Anyhoo... I was looking at this really cute outfit, and it hit me. I am WAY to old to dress like that! When did that happen? All the clothes in there would just look ridiculous on me! So I moped my way across the mall to Layne Bryant....

 

[staley7580]

I don't know last night I got home from work and he was crying. He was upset that he doesn't get to see me that much (I understand that, but this week is looking to be the best ever, and we have a bunch of managers we are working with) Then he goes on that he wishes he has friends, so he could go do stuff with them (but he doesn't have time for me, how would he have time for friends ), and then he lets me know that maybe if I didn't focus so much on my weight (yes, I am fat, getting fatter, but it is not like I have even come up with anything to do, I still eat with him and maybe mention like once per day that I wish I could do something about it (it didn't help that my "friend" that was just here has lost 60 pounds) that I would care about him more . I dunno...when he gets like this he loses all logic, not sure if he is just not feeling well (this leads to him being whacked out), or just tired (he has had some early mornings), I just don't know

Okay... I am going to tell you something that I have never told anyone before, and Im only doing because it might help you out.. Get him to a DR. When my parents moved to Reno it ended up being a huge shock for my dad. In a way that no one expected. He started acting kind of weird, and my mom didnt tell anyone. He just got weirder and weirder. By Christmas of that year, he was emotional, (NOT LIKE HIM) and just not himself. KWIM? In February he went itno their savings and took out half the money... Ended up being about $50,000. He moved out of living with my mom, after 30years.. and well... You all know how it ended.

My point is, he had fought depression for years, and wouldnt take anti depressants. If he had, well.. maybe things would be better. I am NOT trying to freak you out, but have him see a DR. Really.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

He was upset that he doesn't get to see me that much. Then he goes on that he wishes he has friends, so he could go do stuff with them, and then he lets me know that maybe if I didn't focus so much on my weight that I would care about him more . I dunno...when he gets like this he loses all logic, not sure if he is just not feeling well (this leads to him being whacked out), or just tired (he has had some early mornings), I just don't know

Wow. Sounds to me like he's really tired! And I'm sure he does miss you. You guys have probably hardly seen one another with you working whenever he's not.

Now that he's got a new manager, your hours will be cut back, right? I think that will help. How soon will that be?

And if he's been working a lot of hours or really stressed, maybe he's just not being rational because he's overtired.

DH slept a lot last weekend, and said he feels the best he's felt in weeks! He's been under a lot of pressure at work since the beginning of the year, and working 60 -65 hours a week. He was getting really cranky the last few weeks, partly because of crap going on at work, and partly because he was so tired on top of that.

 

[dizzyami]

Okay... I am going to tell you something that I have never told anyone before, and Im only doing because it might help you out.. Get him to a DR. When my parents moved to Reno it ended up being a huge shock for my dad. In a way that no one expected. He started acting kind of weird, and my mom didnt tell anyone. He just got weirder and weirder. By Christmas of that year, he was emotional, (NOT LIKE HIM) and just not himself. KWIM? In February he went itno their savings and took out half the money... Ended up being about $50,000. He moved out of living with my mom, after 30years.. and well... You all know how it ended.

My point is, he had fought depression for years, and wouldnt take anti depressants. If he had, well.. maybe things would be better. I am NOT trying to freak you out, but have him see a DR. Really.

I know, I keep telling him that, but he won't listen. Maybe if I give him a couple of days to feel a bit better I can convince him it is a good idea.

 

[AZMickeyfans]

The thing is DH is still whacked in the head for some reason - and I don't know why. Things have been great, but now he is being weird again and not making any sense

Did you hit him?

Actually is he unhappy with his job again? I hope everything is ok.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Okay... I went to the mall this morning, and I went into Torrid. Its a totally cute fat girl store. I LOVE IT! Its owned by hot topic, so the clothes kinda run that way, kwim? Anyhoo... I was looking at this really cute outfit, and it hit me. I am WAY to old to dress like that! When did that happen? All the clothes in there would just look ridiculous on me! So I moped my way across the mall to Layne Bryant....

At the first sentence I was thinking, "I have no idea what Torrid or Hot Topic clothes look like, but I'm betting they're waaaay too young for me." And they're waaaaay too young for YOU???

 

[staley7580]

I know, I keep telling him that, but he won't listen. Maybe if I give him a couple of days to feel a bit better I can convince him it is a good idea.

I hope you can get him in, I know how hard it is to get my DH to see a dr. about anything, unless he thinks he is dying.

 

[dizzyami]

Wow. Sounds to me like he's really tired! And I'm sure he does miss you. You guys have probably hardly seen one another with you working whenever he's not.

Now that he's got a new manager, your hours will be cut back, right? I think that will help. How soon will that be?

And if he's been working a lot of hours or really stressed, maybe he's just not being rational because he's overtired.

DH slept a lot last weekend, and said he feels the best he's felt in weeks! He's been under a lot of pressure at work since the beginning of the year, and working 60 -65 hours a week. He was getting really cranky the last few weeks, partly because of crap going on at work, and partly because he was so tired on top of that.

It has been hard on him, he has worked a lot of 5:30am shifts (not his thing), and then when he gets home, I go in, and then he has the kids until they fall asleep (and that is usually pretty late). I probably am not the most sympathetic either, as I usually spend the mornings doing laundry/cleaning (and watching the kids or driving them everywhere), then go to work, then go home to hear about what a horrible day he has had . I am sure a lot of it is on me, and I just need to do better to support him.

The good news is we have a new girl who is absolutely amazing, and will probably pick up 3 or 4 of the closes. He has another guy who will probably pick up the bulk of the opens (5:30am), so hopefully with that combination we can both relax a bit

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Oh dizzy, I didnt read your post before I responded. Whoops.

I'm sorry, hopefully when his schedule calms down he will be back to normal. Do you think he is feeling guilty about moving the whole family up there? Is he regretting the decision?

 

[staley7580]

At the first sentence I was thinking, "I have no idea what Torrid or Hot Topic clothes look like, but I'm betting they're waaaay too young for me." And they're waaaaay too young for YOU???

Im telling you, I felt so freaking old in that store. Im looking around, and there are OBVIOUSLY women older then me there... I felt like saying, dont you think that would look STUPID on you? Some stuff is okay.. but most of it is all rocker looking. When I was 20, okay... but for a married 27yo with 2 kids??? NOT!

 

[AZMickeyfans]

It has been hard on him, he has worked a lot of 5:30am shifts (not his thing), and then when he gets home, I go in, and then he has the kids until they fall asleep (and that is usually pretty late). I probably am not the most sympathetic either, as I usually spend the mornings doing laundry/cleaning (and watching the kids or driving them everywhere), then go to work, then go home to hear about what a horrible day he has had . I am sure a lot of it is on me, and I just need to do better to support him.

The good news is we have a new girl who is absolutely amazing, and will probably pick up 3 or 4 of the closes. He has another guy who will probably pick up the bulk of the opens (5:30am), so hopefully with that combination we can both relax a bit

Is there a way you could stop working (if you want to that is) so that you could spend more time at home? Does he feel guilty that you are working to help him out.

I'm just throwing stuff out here. Not sure if it is stupid or not. disregard. I mean well but dont type it out well!

 

[eatmypixiedust]

DIZZY GO ON THE LADIES TRIP! It would help me save on shipping fees!

 

[dizzyami]

Did you hit him?

Actually is he unhappy with his job again? I hope everything is ok.

Shhhh...don't tell anyone

I hope you can get him in, I know how hard it is to get my DH to see a dr. about anything, unless he thinks he is dying.

I know, if it doesn't get better I will beat him down and drag him there (ok, please disregard response to Shawna)

Oh dizzy, I didnt read your post before I responded. Whoops.

I'm sorry, hopefully when his schedule calms down he will be back to normal. Do you think he is feeling guilty about moving the whole family up there? Is he regretting the decision?

I don't know. He was so miserable as a supervisor, and we so love it here, but I think part of it might be the change too. He dropped on me last night "I will never be anything better then a manager", and I reminded him that he could have gone anywhere he wanted, but chose a less stressful position. He also still has a goal of getting a teaching degree...I just don't know. He still mentions (most of the time) how happy he is, and how he is glad to not be in the same position, I swear we see his family more now then we ever did...

I am guessing it is probably 99% fatigue...if I can solve that, it might get a lot better. He is the type that even if he is minorly sick you had better run because he turns into something scary

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Im telling you, I felt so freaking old in that store. Im looking around, and there are OBVIOUSLY women older then me there... I felt like saying, dont you think that would look STUPID on you? Some stuff is okay.. but most of it is all rocker looking. When I was 20, okay... but for a married 27yo with 2 kids??? NOT!

I like Hot Topic. I shop there sometimes and it's where I get Hello Kitty necklaces. They also sell Domomkun (A.K.A. the burnt toast in my siggie).

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Hot Topic also sells BAMBI merchandise.

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Shhhh...don't tell anyone


I know, if it doesn't get better I will beat him down and drag him there (ok, please disregard response to Shawna)



I don't know. He was so miserable as a supervisor, and we so love it here, but I think part of it might be the change too. He dropped on me last night "I will never be anything better then a manager", and I reminded him that he could have gone anywhere he wanted, but chose a less stressful position. He also still has a goal of getting a teaching degree...I just don't know. He still mentions (most of the time) how happy he is, and how he is glad to not be in the same position, I swear we see his family more now then we ever did...

I am guessing it is probably 99% fatigue...if I can solve that, it might get a lot better. He is the type that even if he is minorly sick you had better run because he turns into something scary

he sounds like he needs a vacation. Just a vacation to relax at home and not go anywhere. Does he have any time soon he can take off?

 

[dizzyami]

Is there a way you could stop working (if you want to that is) so that you could spend more time at home? Does he feel guilty that you are working to help him out.

I'm just throwing stuff out here. Not sure if it is stupid or not. disregard. I mean well but dont type it out well!

I think it would definitley help, but not an option right now. I am closing 5-6 nights/week (he can't trust what he has right now). Once we get the rest promoted, it will be much better. I also think it is more he never gets time away from responsibilty (work/kids), so at least if I was home I would be watching the kids and it wouldn't be his problem

DIZZY GO ON THE LADIES TRIP! It would help me save on shipping fees!

 

[staley7580]

Hot Topic also sells BAMBI merchandise.

Yeah, but Torrid doesnt sell that stuff. Just the clothes.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

 

[dizzyami]

he sounds like he needs a vacation. Just a vacation to relax at home and not go anywhere. Does he have any time soon he can take off?

It is not the time off that is an issue (he gets 4 weeks/year), and he has 2 weeks carry over from last year, not to mention 5 personal days. It is just a matter of who would run the store if he took time off