Untitled Hyena Chat thread part deux! - The Continuation

[tinkermell]

When the boys hurt one another (even just hurt their feelings), I make them say they're sorry. And if it's a physical hurt, they also need to give a "gentle touch" as they apologize, like rub the spot on the person they hurt. This is a practice at their old daycare/school, and we incorporated that into home life, too. (We learned a lot of our current parenting practices from that place!)

Occasionally the practice has unexpected consequences however, like the time DS7 was 3yo and excited to see Daddy, jumping up and down flapping his hands. He accidently popped Daddy in a sensitive place, which sent DH to his knees. I blurted out, "Oh no, honey, you've hurt your Daddy!" so he reached out a hand and started to touch DH where he'd been hurt.

DH managed to grab his hand before contact was made, and say, "It's OK, honey, you don't need to give gentle touch!"

OK! I can't resist........did you try to make him feel better too?

 

[tinkermell]

I just figured she would show up since Alex brought up poop

Well duh!!

 

[AZMickeyfans]

OK! I can't resist........did you try to make him feel better too?

Melody, me thinks this is a good sign for you

 

[Alex2kMommy]

She'd say to them, "Forgive me for I've never been a parent before, and I'm learning new things all the time."

Oh, wow. I so love this line! I need to remember that.

I like it because it says to the child, "Look, give me a break here." And it also is a nice reminder to yourself to do the same. It's true that we don't always have all the answers, and we're just doing the best we can.

Sounds like you are on the right track to me. Just remember who is the parent, and draw the black and white lines in areas that are the most important for you. Gray is a confusing color for kids if you ask me.

It's true, kids are looking for boundaries. They need to know what the boundaries of acceptable behavior are. One of my nephews has grown up pretty much without any, and his life has been profoundly affected by that, it's very sad.

 

[tinkermell]

Melody, me thinks this is a good sign for you

Well I am the oldest but I'm not quite dead yet!!

Thanks goodness!!

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Well I am the oldest but I'm not quite dead yet!!

Thanks goodness!!

LOL FAR FROM IT! And we love it!

Ladies I'm off to bed. Well, I'm off to watch the news then off to bed. Talk to you later!!!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Believe me...................that was your motherly tone!!!! Congrats!!! You have to have the look and tone of the voice to make it work.

Oh, and I also use to count to three. Man if they weren't stopping whatever it was by 3, watchout! Now I have been known to count to 2 1/2 before.........even 2 3/4.!!!

By the way.................You said Hi to Alison.

Where is she?

I remarked to Staley one time that Mikalah could already count to five, DS3 wasn't doing that yet. She laughed and said it's because when Mikalah is in trouble, Staley counts to five, then Mikalah is in Trouble! It's gotten to the point where Staley gives The Look, and Mikalah shouts, "One Two Fee Four Five!"

I said, "Aww, gee, I guess that's where I went wrong. I only count to three..."

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Night All!

 

[tinkermell]

I should have continued with..................but I do get tired before most of you. I also like to read.

So with that I will say Sayonara.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

OK! I can't resist........did you try to make him feel better too?

Melody, me thinks this is a good sign for you

GEESH, not in front of the children, Melody!

 

[tinkermell]

I remarked to Staley one time that Mikalah could already count to five, DS3 wasn't doing that yet. She laughed and said it's because when Mikalah is in trouble, Staley counts to five, then Mikalah is in Trouble! It's gotten to the point where Staley gives The Look, and Mikalah shouts, "One Two Fee Four Five!"

I said, "Aww, gee, I guess that's where I went wrong. I only count to three..."

One more post here.

How cute is that remark!! I love it!

Night!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

LOL FAR FROM IT! And we love it!

Ladies I'm off to bed. Well, I'm off to watch the news then off to bed. Talk to you later!!!

Good night, Shawna.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I should have continued with..................but I do get tired before most of you. I also like to read.

So with that I will say Sayonara.

Good night, Melody.

Guess I will head out myself. Good night, all!

 

[eatmypixiedust]

WHAT? You guys are all leaving?? Boo!!

 

[tinkermell]

Good Morning Hyenas, Grumpy and Albort!

I forgot to tell you that DD Kaitlyn applied for a Passport last week Tuesday, and we received it in the mail already yesterday.

That took only 9 days to get it back!

9 days!!!!!!

What happened to the 6-8 weeks they warn you about??

 

[tinkermell]

Well I did it!!

I purchased my airline ticket for the Ladies Trip!!!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

WHAT? You guys are all leaving?? Boo!!

Oops!

Sorry, pixster, I thought I was the rotten egg last night.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I forgot to tell you that DD Kaitlyn applied for a Passport last week Tuesday, and we received it in the mail already yesterday.

That took only 9 days to get it back! What happened to the 6-8 weeks they warn you about??

I don't know, it seems to me my brother's took awhile to get when he was flying to Cambodia. But he may have had issues in his background check... {cough cough!}

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Good morning, hyenas!
It was sunny first thing this morning, but now overcast. Not sure what that means for the day...

DS7 is out of today (school closed), so it's a little crazy around here. DH, trying to help me out I suppose, told DS7 that he could play Daddy's PSP. So now DS7 has been begging to do so every 15 minutes.

He was getting frustrated, whining, "Daddy said I could play, and you said you weren't in charge of saying when I could play, and I want..." Ohhh, hold on there, mister!

I clarified: "Honey, I said it's Daddy's PSP, and I can't give you permission to play it. But if he gives you permission, then I'm the one who can say when you can play it, and for how long. You are NOT going to play it all day long. If you behave well this morning and are nice to your brother, you may play PSP during your brother's nap."

Oh.