Unbelievable!! Soccer Coaches Remarks

[mommy4]

Ok, so last night as I was sitting watching my son's soccer practice, I happened to hear the coach from the little girls team practicing behind us say "If you don't run faster, I'm going to stick my foot up your butt to run faster". Now, keep in mind this was a little girls' team (6-7 year olds). I could not believe what I was hearing. Next, he said "Do you want someone to rip the heads off your barbies?"
By this time, several other parents from my son's team were noticing this too and we were all looking over at him. However, none of the parents on the little girls' team were doing anything!! They were just sitting there! If my daughter was on that time I would have immediately pulled her off the field!
I believe a few moms said something to him at the end, but really, why so long?
I am completely disturbed by this man. I immediately emailed the director of this league and I plan to call later today.
Can you believe this?

 

[tikkipoo]

Yes. Totally believable. After 6 years of sports with my daughter, I can absolutely see this happening. Some coaches are just freaks.

 

[mommy4]

Yes. Totally believable. After 6 years of sports with my daughter, I can absolutely see this happening. Some coaches are just freaks.

I am just beside myself about this! It is driving me crazy and I'm so worried I am going to have to listen to this again tomorrow!!

 

[DisneyFed]

Oh yeah,

I can believe it...which is why I choose to coach myself---I got abused pretty good in Little League and to this day I HATE/DESPISE Baseball...

Too bad, b/c according to the parents of the other kids, I was pretty good...the coach told my parents he was "just trying to raise my game"...oh he raised it all right, so much I just quit..

No worries though, I went to College on a soccer scholarship instead

 

[Ashlander]

Those comments are unacceptable. What happened to positive coaching? Is the coach a parent? I definitely would have pulled the coach aside or removed my daughter. There is no need to put kids down...and if you do so at that young of an age, kids are not going to want to continue to play.

 

[Macduffy]

oh... I was just sick reading that. That is horrible! Like you I would have taken my child off the field immediately and if DH was there he would have said something to him even if it wasn't our team! I hope you do call but more importantly I hope they actually DO something about it.

 

[tmarquez]

I don't know. I can see how those things are not really appropriate abd not something a parent wants to hear.

But I have a DD(6) who plays soccer and she would think that was pretty funny...especially coming from her soccer coach.

 

[Pirate1+Princess4]

I don't know. I can see how those things are not really appropriate abd not something a parent wants to hear.

But I have a DD(6) who plays soccer and she would think that was pretty funny...especially coming from her soccer coach.

Yet many 6 year olds are QUITE sensitive to the words of adults and few understand sarcasm. For a lot of girls, their Barbie dolls are their prized possessions.

I have 4 girls who just turned 7. I could see 1 melting completely into tears, 1 folding in on herself and not talking, 1 thinking SHE could talk that way, and 1 could go either way with thinking he's mean or funny. I could see them being afraid of the coach. Their Tball coach was funny, without deriding the kids. He was encouraging and supportive.

Little girls of that age do not need to raise their game.

 

[Lakeside Pirate]

I can believe that he's saying it because I see it every once in awhile at my DD and DS's soccer games. It's pretty shameful that some of the coaches get so wrapped up in it and forget that the goal is for the kids to have fun, learn something and hopefully want to play the sport again the next season.

I've coached my DS's team for the last year and it is a true joy but you have to keep it all in perspective that they are kids having fun, especially the kids that are having a hard time connecting on what you are asking them to do at that age.

 

[TheMightyOb]

THis was my 1st year assistant coaching (my 8yr old DD's team). I think it was the 3rd game of the season, the head coach couldnt make it. So it was just me. I do not know what happened to those girls, but it was a fiasco. I think they all mainlined RedBUll before the game, they were out of control. Woudln't listen or anything, and were getting slaughtered on the field because they wouldn't pay attention. It was very very frustrating for me...the only way I managed to get through to them was at halftime when the other team started to cheer together. I told my girls thats what a team sounds like, and acts like. That is why they are wining. IT seemed to work, we stilll ost but the 2nd half went way way better.

Threatening kids is dumb. IT wont work.

I would file a complaint.

 

[Steve's Girl]

That is why I have chosen to coach my girls teams. I may not be a soccer pro, but at least they will be encouraged while on the field.

 

[annagirl]

Ugh. That's one of the reasons I really dislike sports. Almost every coach I had as a kid was a jerk. It's like it validates their existence when the kids do well and beat their egos when they don't. It's never about the kids - always about the coach.

 

[Pakey]

I was president of a youth soccer league with over 100 teams and you would not believe the things I dealt with. These are volunteer organizations from the bottom to the top (this is recreational soccer so only referees are reimbursed for their time) and many times, parents would have to be begged to coach and there is no screening done. If we got a volunteer, we counted ourselves fortunate.

The worst situation in my 12 years on the board was the parent who pulled a gun on a referree when he didn't like the call. It was an U-8 game where scores are not even kept.

 

[mommy4]

The director just wrote me and said that he will address the issue with the coach. I just pray that the man is either gone or really tame tomorrow night. I'm not sure I can sit there again and let this happen right behind me.

To the poster who said maybe he was joking, it was definetly not a joke. He said things several times, not just in passing. He even made one girl run a lap for messing something up. He is a parent volunteer, but seriously these are 6 & 7 year old girls!

 

[princessmom29]

Absolutely unacceptable. My daughter does cheer, and if her coach spoke the her like that it would be the end of her as a coach or us on that team!!

 

[Beavers5]

If you weren't so far away, I'd assume it was the same man who coached DS's flag football coach. I actually overheard him yelling at a kid and he said, "Quit goofing off, what do you think this is some kind of game"

 

[blackforest]

One of the other team's coach last year (6-7 y.o.) was REALLY into yelling at the girls. Not what she said but how she said it. There were a few girls on the team that were friends with DD6. The day we played that team, when the girls were going through the line to shake hands, DD (NOT a shrinking violet) said to the coach, "You know, your not very nice to them!". I wasn't sure whether to hide or cheer ! LOL!

 

[SLK1]

Youth sports has become despicable. Coaches are out to relive their youth, and while I am all about passion, these nuts are just unbelievable anymore. And, the level of competitiveness sucks the fun right out of the sport. It's really sad, and makes you not want to get involved at all.

 

[locolala]

When I was 8, my riding coach told me she was going to go buy me a wonder bra. When I was 10, I fell off and broke my wrist. I had to get back on my horse and finish my course before she let my mom take me to the hospital, my mom was fine with that. When I was 14, I rode in state finals on an ankle that was broken in two places, I wasn't given the option to not ride. I'm now a healthy, well adjusted adult. The things kids say to eachother can be just as bad. I'm not justifying what the coach did, but I don't think it's going to seriously affect your daughter for the rest of her life.

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

I experienced some rough coaches during my kids' baseball games. But, also had some really great ones. The teams with the rough coaches did win more, which I suppose makes them continue acting that way (granted, this is a very small cross-section and sampling of all kids' games played around the world so probably statistically irrelevant!)? Kind of sad that it comes to that. I have the "play for the fun of it" theory when it comes to kids' sports, so losing games wasn't a big deal to me or my kiddos, but it really, really, really matters to some peeps, I guess.