Ugh: Match Making Vent

[hereyago]

My friends that I have known since elementary school are coming "home" for a reunion in a few months.

My one friend,love her to bits. But she is trying to match make something between me and our male friend(I am not sure why, he lives several hours away and I have a "friend"-nothing serious, but I'm good).

Our male friend just divorced not long ago and he is still reeling from it. Match maker was like, Well I remember ya'll used to like each other in high school-um no, he is not my type and I didn't date high school boys, he liked me though, which was awkward because he dated our other friend.


She told him he can stay with me-without asking me. Um nope. I don't have enough room, my mom who lives with me is chock full of crazy which he knows but still and I don't allow men to spend the night-even though there would be nothing romantic going on because I have a DD13 and I am just weird that way-an ironically enough I don't allow them because I saw how "busy" her mom used to be and how many "uncles" she would have over night.

So I told her he can't stay with me. I think she thinks we would end up together, married and live happily ever after, she has always been a hopeless romantic, even though her choices have sucked eggs. And she match make our other friend with a guy and he ended up tearing our friendship apart, so not a good track record,lol.

Why do people feel a need to match make?

 

[HM]

Sorry about your friends good intentions being ridiculous. Who offers someone elses house for an overnight? Hopefully he sees through her and want's nothing to do with the situation either. Have you spoken to him about it?
I've never had someone try to match me up with someone, so can't answer you last question.

 

[hereyago]

I have talked to him and he actually thought it was a good idea for him to stay here,lol. His finances aren't good so he didn't want to pay for a hotel, I was like, but you do know gas is how much right now, it may change from when they come, but still it is about a 6 hour or so drive, so it's not going to be a "cheap" trip for 2 days.


my friend, bless her heart thinks everyone should be married so you don't die alone-so what better to have 2 friends get together, lol.

I did have a talk with her because she honestly wants to mother him and wanted me to find a hotel for him-a grown man can use priceline I think-and thought it would be neat if I had him over and cook him breakfast so he wouldn't have to have it by himself. Ok, breakfast makes me want to barf ever since high school, so I had to let her know that he is grown and to stop wanting to volunteer me for things because if I wanted to volunteer or suggest things on this reunion, I have a big enough mouth to say so.

I think she got the point, boundaries were needed.

 

[chiefmickeymouse]

weird situation, I can't imagine a friend offering up my house to someone I knew in high school. I think you need to have a talk with the matchmaker!

 

[hereyago]

It is odd. But I do think she still has the high school mentality of all of us being really close back then and we were, but that was in 1986.