uggh....vent about hubby!....UPDATE

[taraprather]

So I call my husband this morning (he's working) and ask what he wants to do tonight. He immediatly changes the subject and says "whos steve"...i said, i dunno, who's steve? He said he got a message on his voice mail saying something like
"oh tara, i miss you and can't wait to hold you in my arms" along with a bunch of other sexual stuff.
I said, well did you call the number and he said no. I ask why he would say something to me first before calling. He got all mad about it. I said do you really think i'd be stupid enough to give them YOUR cell number if I was screwing around on you!? he hung up on me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I've tried calling him back and of course he won't answer my calls. I don't understand this. We are married, he's suppose to trust me and not some random guy trying to get a rise out of him. I've been trying to call him so he can call the number on 3 way while I talk and find out who the heck it is. Not to mention it's a columbus number which is 1 hour away from here!!!! I'm curious who it is myself as they knew my name.
Sorry just had to vent, I'm TICKED OFF!!!!

 

[poptoone]

Can't say I blame him, I'd be ticked too!

 

[Fire14]

Not to mention it's a columbus number which is 1 hour away from here!!!! I'm curious who it is myself as they knew my name.

I have a Columbus number and I live north of Columbus. I'd be upset with my Dh for jumping gun without hearing my side. Heck I'd call the girl back and say something along lines of you called wrong number.

 

[froglady]

I'd be ticked too...at hubby. If I got a call from some woman saying similar things, I would assume it was a wrong number, or sure as heck try to find out who SHE is before confronting my husband!

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[Microcell]

I have to say, it would be jarring to get a message on my phone from a woman using my Dh's name and talking like that.

This was work related, but still annoyed me- a woman called the house last friday and asked for my Dh, and I said he was not there, and she said, "Oh, so he dosen't always have his cell phone, huh?" to which I reponded, "no you called his house." Of course the doofus was at work and told her to call him back and gave her our home phone instead of his cell, but it still annoyed me that she was so disrespectful.

I would be livid if she had started incinuating that there was a relationship.

It may be a prank, but he is justified in his worry. I would respect that and reassure him that you have no idea what is going on but want to get to the bottom of it.

 

[mudnuri]

I'd have to think that there is more to the story........

Is your DH always jealous- or does he have a reason to be? Has this happened in the past?

I would think- if your relationship is as solid and stable as you say- he would not have jumped down your throat...

If someone left that message on DBF's cell- or on mine- neither of us would freak about it - but then again, neither of us has given one another the reason to think anything about it.

Brandy

 

[VSL]

I can understand your DH's reaction (although it's not very nice for you).

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

Whoever the prankster is will feel pretty bad when he admits it to your husband and your husband swacks him pretty hard!

 

[LisaNJ25]

Just a thought but are the cell phones under your name? I know with mine they are and if hubby makes a call my name comes up on caller ID's. Maybe he called a wrong number at one point and someone is playing a prank.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Tell your husband to call the number!

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Wait a minute and let's reverse roles.

Are you saying if you got a phone call from a woman, who mentions you Dh by name, and says all the things that the guy said about you, you would not be initially suspicious? You would not confront your DH about it?

 

[taraprather]

Both of our cell phones are under his name. I guess I can understanding him getting mad but at me??????? I wouldn't have been so upset if he would have brought it up and ask me about it, but jumped straight to conclusions which really irked me. He is usually VERY trusting, and not a jealous guy at all. I have never gave him any reason to not trust me (we've been together for 6 years!) I'm wondering if it's his co-worker. She has a HUGE crush on my husband and it wouldn't surprise me one bit if she put one of her guy friends up to calling him and saying that so she can try and get him. I keep trying to get a hold of my husband so we can call the number on 3 way so we can get to the bottom of this. Of course, he won't answer his phone.
Thanks for all the responses, at least I now know that my husbands reaction is normal!

 

[Serena]

I think it would be really easy to over react to that kind of phone call. But getting angry at him won't help.
I'd just make sure he knows it's someone's idea of a practical joke and you would never do that to him.

 

[lovesmurfs]

You can use reverse lookup on www.whitepages.com to see if it's a listed number. If it's a cell, it doesn't usually have the info, but usually if it's a land line, it's listed.

I'd just wait until DH comes home -- he has to sometime -- and stop trying to call -- it could make you look guilty even if you're not.

At least he told you about it.....?

 

[momof2inPA]

How long have you been married. It all seems a bit silly, really.

 

[taraprather]

Our 1 year anniversary is on the 17th of this month. We've been together/living together for 6 years.

 

[sunny_]

I really hope you find the prankster! And I hope dh would at least talk to you and answer his phone! Let us know how it goes!

 

[ericamanda01]

I think you both are right to be upset. He is rightfully upset by what he heard and your upset by the lie that upset him. Once you can talk to him and get things straighten out then I would focus on who to blame. But for now, I would stop calling him at work it might futher fuel his anger. Good luck, I hope you can find out who is pulling such a childish prank.

 

[Buckalew11]

Wow. What a way to find out you are having some sort of affair, huh, Tara?

I see both sides of this, really but I'd be on the war path until I found out who did it and then I am sure we'd see my temper out of control.
Good luck in settling all this. If it some sort of joke, I pity that "friend".

 

[Serena]

I agree to stop calling him at work. he's got a job to do. This has to wait until you can be in front of each other.