Turning 30...why is this hard???

[Sandy22]

I think seeing my best friends turn 30 was more traumatizing than turning 30 myself! I'm the last birthday in a calendar year amongst my group of friends and we've all know each other since high school. All of sudden I was hanging out with a bunch of 30 year olds! By the time my birthday rolls around, I'm resigned to the fact that we're all getting older.

I'm 32 now and kinda dreading 35 - I'll no longer be in my early 30's. My DS who's 13 thinks 30 is about 70!

 

[bgirldeb]

I turn 30 in november AND DS #1 starts Kindergarten next week

I like the way of looking at it that my life is just beginning .

 

[Mamu]

As I think about it now I wonder why 30 was so difficult. Probably the hardest year. Now add thirty to thirty, I think this year may be Very Difficult.

Lets talk depression! Your baby turning "30"

 

[shortbun]

I'm turning 52 in September. 30th was by FAR my hardest. I lay face down on the living room rug and cried at about 1 in the morning. Of course, I was intoxicated but I was really mad that I HAD to grow up. No worries though, I still haven't quite attained the level of maturity that many aquire by 25 and no ones cares. Relax, enjoy it, eat cake first and know that time passes slowly one day at a time for everyone!!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[bigbabyblues]

No advice, my DH is getting ready to turn 30 too.....I just hit 29 last week, so I'll be there this time next year. Just celebrate it and go on, be glad for another day, another year, don't think of anything negative I guess!

I'm sorry you're having a hard time!

 

[sweet angel]

I'm strange...
My huge problem was with 29. I looked at it as the "last year in my 20s" -- I'd never be in my 20s again. It was horrible. It was like everything was ending.

30 was fine -- it was like the beginning of a fresh, new decade.

Now I'm staring down the barrel of 40 (I have 6 months and 2 days left) and I'm thinking 40 is going to be tough.

 

[minkydog]

I had a big problem with turning 29, but when I turned 30 a realized that while I looked old for a gal in her 20's, I really looked good for a gal in her 30's!

It will be okay. Everyone gets older and some of us get better. Be good to yourself. It's okay to have a self-indulgent moment or two. Then you get over it and life goes on.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Here you go.....

My Next 30 Years
Sung by: Tim McGraw

I think I’ll take a moment, celebrate my age...
The ending of an era, and the turning of a page...
Now it’s time to focus in on where I go from here...
Lord have mercy on my next thirty years...



Hey my next thirty years I’m gonna have some fun...
Try to forget about all the crazy things I’ve done...
Maybe now I’ve conquered all my adolescent fears...
And I’ll do it better in my next thirty years...



My next thirty years I’m gonna settle all the scores...
Cry a little less, laugh a little more...
Find a world of happiness without the hate and fear...
Figure out just what I’m doing here...
In my next thirty years...



Oh my next thirty years, I’m gonna watch my weight...
Eat a few more salads and not stay up so late...
Drink a little lemonade and not so many beers...
Maybe I’ll remember my next thirty years...



My next thirty years will be the best years of my life...
Raise a little family and hang out with my wife...
Spend precious moments with the ones that I hold dear...
Make up for lost time here, in my next thirty years...
In my next thirty years...

 

[ericamanda01]

I have loved being 30! I am about to turn 31 and I was just thinking this morning how great my 30's have been. Besides it really is only a number like 1,457,656. Just a number! Embrace 30 as your new lucky number! And just because your 30 doesn't mean you have to make all your major life decisions now. There is no clock dictating when you have children or any other major event. Your still you, your just one year wiser!

 

[Rozzie]

thank you! Thing I will dig up that CD somewhere--I guess even if Tim can sing happy about it, I'll be just fine!
I feel a lot better this morning.

 

[PaulaSue]

The thought never really bothered me. (Im 34)

The only thing that bothered me was that my parents who just got back together (divorced 16 1/2 yrs and remarried others) wanted to throw me a suprise party with JUST my 2 sides of my family, NO Friends, we don't even talk to many of our family since I was very small) they told Dh and he told them not to, I was still upset with them back together and on high risk and due a month after my birthday.

He told me and I told them to cancel. IT seemed more like they wanted to have the party because they were back together and not for me. Now 5 years later they are still together but still have seperate homes and nothing has changed in 5 years.

 

[Feralpeg]

Wait until you turn 50 and people start treating you as a senior citizen! I'd love to be 30 again!

 

[belleandthebeast]

And I thought I was the only one. Had a real big issue turning 30. I think that's because I expected to be somewhere else by this time. Like many other posters, I expected to me married w/ kids. Lived w/ a guy for 6 years. Thought he was the one. Until he came home one day and told me it was over. I wanted to get married he didn't. Perhaps he could have mentioned this like maybe 3 or 4 years sooner. Maybe if then I would be married w/ kids right now. The married w/ kids thing was the big reason I hated turning 30. Otherwise I love birthdays. Presents for me!

 

[BostonTigger]

Don't worry, it aint so hard. I've been on the "Dark Side" , as Boston Tea Party put (loved the way you put that) for five years and I lived through it. There's one thing you have to remember, age is a state of mind. And for me, I think there are times when I'm five years old everyday of the week. So stop thinking about it and just live life to the fullest and you'll do fine.

 

[DopeyRN]

30 was awful for me. I think there is something about leaving the 20s behind. 40 didn't bother me in the least. (I went to Jamaica). I am on the down side heading to 50....guess we'll see what happens with that one.

 

[ilovedale3]

AS a person who is turning 30 in just TWO DAYS, I know how you feel.

Sometimes I get depressed because I always thought my life would be different at this point. I am married, so that helps, but I always thought that I would be established in a career by 30, and I'm not. I have a great job as a tutor and study skills teacher, but I wanted to be a "real" elementary school teacher long before now. It gets worse especially when I think that some of my firiends (who are the same age) have been in their positions for 6 or 7 years now... my best friend even has her Ph.D!!!!

Oh well, it's inevitable so let's buck up, sister and embrace 30... after all, it's better than pushing up daisies!!!

 

[Rozzie]

AS a person who is turning 30 in just TWO DAYS, I know how you feel.



Oh well, it's inevitable so let's buck up, sister and embrace 30... after all, it's better than pushing up daisies!!!

Happy Birthday ilovedale3!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

So, was it hard for you? what did you do for your 30th, and advice for a sad gal in Bama tonight????

No, but 40 was hard. I had certain goals that I had not done and realized that I couldn't do them all. So I accomplished the ones that I was able to do and was OK. I started doing this at 37, which is when I was freaking out about 40. By the time birthday hit, I was OK.

 

[Margie J]

Well, if 40 is the "new" 30, then 30 must be the "new" 20! Think of it that way.

30 is only old and terrible if you view it that way. The 30's were pretty good for me. Though I must admit it does come with extra expectations.

We've talked a lot about the 30's at work since one co-worker just crossed the threshhold. The feeling is that in your 20's you can still get away with certain things, basically use it as an excuse for behavior or inaction (personally, career-wise, etc.). Not that everyone does but plenty in their 20's do. You can "live it up" and few will give you the because of it. If you did the same things in your late 30's or beyond people are more likely to call you an irresponsible fool.

The 30's come with expectations such as setting the real path in your career and family life. Big decisions can come in this decade. It's scary sometimes but can be so rewarding.

Yes, even your body can change in the 30's often for the better. I felt like I had more energy and even took up new sports (tennis and weight training) in that decade. When I saw people twice my age or older doing these things I knew I wasn't too old to try.

Mourn your 20's and then move on. The 30's hold new adventures for you.

 

[lbgraves]

I was actually very anxious to reach 30. My 20s were such a terrible time for me...except for meeting DH ...that it just had to be better. In fact, 9 days before my 30th birthday DH proposed to me. That was just the start of a great change in my life and now I am 1 1/2 years away from 40. That doesn't bother me right now anyway. To me, if you are with the right person then it doesn't matter how old you are.