Turning 30...why is this hard???

[Rozzie]

I have been ok about it all year. Planned this great trip to OKW for that week, uh, guess it is week from monday.
then suddenly, it hit me tonight at Target. I was trying to find a card for a neighbor, and I saw this WHOLE section of "turning 30" cards. I just looked at DH, who dragged me away as I started to cry. Jeepers, I just can't believe it is going to be hard like this. I always pictured myself growing old gracefully, not crying in the middle of target late at night. I guess I feel fat and old. I decided not to tan this summer, and I always feel ugly when I am fair. I have put on 10 lbs, and quit running. (knee problems).
I guess it could be worse. I have graduated from college, and own a home. Heck, we bought DVC last month. Just something about not being in my 20s, and now I have to decide if I want to have children, and when, and blah blah blah.
So, was it hard for you? what did you do for your 30th, and advice for a sad gal in Bama tonight????

 

[Boston Tea Party]

Join us on the dark side. It ain't so bad...

 

[Dan Murphy]

It's been so long I have no recollections, LOL. You'll be fine, Rozzie!

 

[LoraJ]

I had a hard time turning 30.
You're a lot more ahead of me than I was at 30. I was single and renting. I had always thought I would be married with at least one kid by the time I turned 30.
Now I am 36, still no kids, but at least I own a home. Still not married either, but hopefully that will change by the time I turn 40.

I have to say though, I have enjoyed my 30's more than my 20's.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

30 is NOT old. Not even close. Even when it come to having kids, you still have a good 10 years before you have to worry about being too old.

I have a few friends who hate having birthdays because it means they are another year older. I will never understand why people get upset about having a birthday.This is what I tell them EVERY year...."You really should feel lucky you have a birthday. What is the only alternative to NOT turning another year older?"

Think about that one a minute, ok?

My friends don't cry about their birthday to me anymore. In two years, I lost 2 brothers, and neither one of them lived to see their 50th birthday. One was 45 and the other was 48.

 

[goin2disneyagain]

I am 33. It was hard for me too because I also thought I would be married and have 1 or 2 kids by the time I turned 30. It still hasn't happened for me either.

 

[Lars624]

Lightening struck our house on my 30th birthday Really it did
Actually 30 didn't bother me at all.........last month I turned 40 & it didn't bother me either (I spent it at OKW too)....I guess I just dont' really think too much about it...I don't feel any different now than I did when I ws in my 20s.......
Good Luck to you

 

[Rozzie]

My friends don't cry about their birthday to me anymore. In two years, I lost 2 brothers, and neither one of them lived to see their 50th birthday. One was 45 and the other was 48.

sorry, I don't mean to sound silly. I am honestly depressed about turning 30. But you are so right, 100% right, about the alternative. I do value my health, I take care of dying people for a living. I am very grateful to be alive. thanks for reminding me of what is important.

sorry if I offended. I can't imagine losing 2 brothers.

 

[Beauty]

Humm 30 wasn't that hard for me that I remember. I'm almost 34 now and in the process of adopting our second child so hopefully I still have many many years before I'm officially old!

 

[OprahW]

 

[scrump]

I honestly don't see 30 as old. I even looked forward to turning 30 last year, didn't have a problem. I felt that my life was just beginning, and it is.

 

[nativetxn]

I had no emotional problems when I turned 30, 40 or 50. I do wonder about 60 though.

 

[teacherforhi]

I'm right there with you. When I turned 29 this year, my SO and I were at the Grand Canyon and all I could think of was that in a year I'm going to be 30! I almost decided to never have another birthday until he reminded me that there would be no more presents if I have no more birthdays!

 

[Disney1fan2002]

sorry, I don't mean to sound silly. I am honestly depressed about turning 30. But you are so right, 100% right, about the alternative. I do value my health, I take care of dying people for a living. I am very grateful to be alive. thanks for reminding me of what is important.

sorry if I offended. I can't imagine losing 2 brothers.

You did not offend me at all!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Disney1fan2002, sorry to hear about your brothers.

Rozzie, I think it's hard to turn 30 for a lot of people because of the biological clock and everything that is tied with it. Turning 30 was hard for me for those reasons. For others they may look at what they haven't accomplished yet and don't like what they see.

For the posters that expected to be married by their 30's but haven't yet, what do you think about your future? I ask because I was in your shoes. I know what it feels like. (I'm happily married now with children.)

There is a saying that is very true, "Do what you have always done and you will get what you've always gotten.". (Something like that.) Might be time to change something. For me, it was my schedule. I worked all the time and went to school at night. It left little time for romance.

 

[Beth76]

I'm about 5 months behind you. The only thing that keep me "sane" about it is DH is 13 months older than me. So, when he's 31, I'll still be 29--for another month. But, I'm still counting it!!!!! I don't know how I'm going to handle it when it gets closer. I tend not to make a big deal out of birthdays anyway. So hopefully it will just pass like any other day.

 

[Rozzie]

I'm about 5 months behind you. The only thing that keep me "sane" about it is DH is 13 months older than me. So, when he's 31, I'll still be 29--for another month. But, I'm still counting it!!!!! I don't know how I'm going to handle it when it gets closer. I tend not to make a big deal out of birthdays anyway. So hopefully it will just pass like any other day.

I know what your saying. DH turned 30 two years ago. He loved it, said he it was like his first 29 years were a "practice run" and now his life is to begin. He always takes things much better than me.

Oceanannie--you are right. I think the big thing why I am stressing is my bio clock just kicked in. Even though I know I have still a few years, it is more audible.

 

[LoraJ]

For the posters that expected to be married by their 30's but haven't yet, what do you think about your future? I ask because I was in your shoes. I know what it feels like. (I'm happily married now with children.)

There is a saying that is very true, "Do what you have always done and you will get what you've always gotten.". (Something like that.) Might be time to change something. For me, it was my schedule. I worked all the time and went to school at night. It left little time for romance.

I think every birthday gets harder for me because of my biological clock. I keep thinking that if I can't have a child of my own, I would like to adopt. And then I start thinking that there is no way I will be able to have a child with my current job. So, I am going to have to make some changes.

My SO is 5 years younger than me. I think he keeps forgetting that I'm not getting any younger. So, I think I'm going to have to start doing the "My Cousin Vinny" dance for him soon. lol.

 

[Papa Deuce]

My birthdays mean nothing to me, never have, except #21. Just another day. So, certainly I can't tell you why it is hard, but I can say that, at 30, you shouldn't have to sit at the kids table anymore!

 

[JennaTX]

I was okay with 30, I had just had my first child one year before. But now I am about to turn 35, and that is really bothering me!!! I cannot imagine what will happen when I turn 40, I will probably take to bed for a week!

Even though my 30's have truly been the best years of my life, the number still gets me. I also remember my Nanny, who at 83, said she felt like she was 35, being 14 or so at the time I thought she was crazy! But now that I have a few years on me, I am starting to understand what she meant, I don't feel 34, I still feel 20.

Your 30's will be great! But somehow as women, we are programmed to worry about that number!

Happy Birthday!!