Turning 17 - do I let her?

[RyeCrimsonMoon]

Wow, I didn't think so many people would be for it. It took me 2 months to convince my mom to let me get a cartilage piercing when I was 16 or so. She insisted on showing me horror pictures of people who didn't keep it clean. Eventually she gave in, now I have seven piercings and size 2 gauges. She just smiles awkwardly.

To be honest, I'd let her get it to. Can't do much about it. And like a lot of people have said, when she doesn't want it anymore, she can just take it out. I don't have one, but my friend had one and took it out. There isn't a scar it's just hard where it just to be, nothing visible.

 

[imabrat]

I'm with brat. My son wanted an industrial bar when he was about 16 1/2 - and then wanted an eyebrow piercing when he was 17 1/2. I signed both times.

I have a kid that comes home on time, doesnt drink, smoke or so drugs. I figure if he wants to self mutilate, I'd prefer he does it 'professionally'.

Besides.... there's not many times in a woman's life she could pull off a belly button ring. LOL! Now is about the only time.

FTR - No tattoo's. I wouldnt ever sign for those, even though I have them myself. That would have to be done when he's legal. Much more permanent.

Yes!
IMO, it's just a piercing. It'll close up, no big deal. Then again, this is coming from someone who got a tattoo for her 16th birthday so of course I'd say let her do it! I'm not a bad kid, and the tattoo is something that has a very important meaning that'll stay with me for life whether I have it tattooed or not, so whatever.

 

[AristocatFan]

I agree. Let her do it. There are worse things she could want/do to her body. Belly piercings are pretty minor these days.

 

[Seewhatimesdone]

It really depends on you DD. If you think she is mature enough to handle it (it does take maturity to take care of a piercing) and not getting it for the wrong reasons then there is nothing to be worried about! I suggest that if you still feel on the fence about it you sit down with her and just have a little chat. I asked for the same thing and my mom had no problem with it but we are very close and I tell her everything. Piercings don't equal an bad/irresponsible person! I hope you DD has a great birthday

 

[saratogadreamin09]

IMO, a naval piercing is a way of saying "hey look at my stomach"! I would never get one because I dont show of my stomach when Im not in a bathing suit.


I have to agree that it depends on your daughter's maturity

 

[saratogadreamin09]

This falls into the category of "reasons to not let DD16 pierce her belly button" for me. I personally don't want to draw anybody's eyes to her body anymore than they already are.

Yup

 

[cruisnfamily]

It really depends on you DD. If you think she is mature enough to handle it (it does take maturity to take care of a piercing) and not getting it for the wrong reasons then there is nothing to be worried about! I suggest that if you still feel on the fence about it you sit down with her and just have a little chat. I asked for the same thing and my mom had no problem with it but we are very close and I tell her everything. Piercings don't equal an bad/irresponsible person! I hope you DD has a great birthday

What are the wrong reasons? For that matter, what are the right reasons?

 

[Seewhatimesdone]

What are the wrong reasons? For that matter, what are the right reasons?

Well i've known several girls who got them because their boyfriends wanted them to or to rebel against their parents. For me, those seem like wrong reasons. Maybe not. Right reasons, that's a little more subjective. Because you think they're cute, just for yourself, etc. I've had mine pierced for three years now and it's been exposed maybe twice when i've gone to the pool. I don't get it to show it off. It's just for me. That's just how I feel about it.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

There are so many worse things - or more expensive things - that she could want. I'd let her do it. It's a way to express herself, and she'll think you're a rock star for letting her.

 

[CathrynRose]

Piercing at 17? Really not a big deal. Go with her so you can take a lot of pictures i mean, if you can't find a way to embarrass your kid you're not doing it right.

Indeed! Don't forget your camera. The flinching pics are the bestest!

I dont know how well you can see them, but they suit him. I dont think theyre all so bad.

 

[ShuisFan584]

I would definitely let her get it done. I never saw the big deal with belly button piercings and why it's seen as a bad thing to some people.

I'm 25 now and got it done when I was 18. My sister was 15 at the time and she also got hers done. My mom actually wanted us to get it done since she always thought it was cute! And not surprisingly, my mom just got hers pierced 2 years ago as well!

 

[MrsPete]

Assuming it's done in a safe place, and assuming she promises to listen carefully to the follow-up care instructions, I'd say yes to this. If she changes her mind on it later, it's easy to hide or to allow to close up.

 

[KSchwagg86]

Let her do it!

 

[Ellen aka Snow White]

WOW! I never expected so many responses!! She has gone to the lake with some friends to celebrate this morning. I'm still talking it over with her dad and will give her our decision when she gets home. Now, where does one go for a belly button piercing?????

Ellen

 

[shortbun]

Yeah, I'd take her and make it her present. Small potatoes.

 

[clgwli]

I would search for a piercer through this site

http://www.safepiercing.org/locate-a-member/

That site has a lot of great piercing information as well for all types that are done. They really changed my mind with how even ear piercing should be done.

 

[luvmy3]

This falls into the category of "reasons to not let DD16 pierce her belly button" for me. I personally don't want to draw anybody's eyes to her body anymore than they already are.

I know what you mean, but as I see it 18 year old boys, 17 even 16 for that matter are going to be looking at her body regardless if there is a piercing there. We'll see how my opinion changes when my 11 year old dd is older and wants one though

 

[lisalynn]

I agree! Let her do it--it really isn't a big deal. It is just a way for kids to express themselves. My oldest DD had it done last year at 16 years old. She is a Straight A Honors Student, a 2 sport Varsity athlete, no drinking, drugs, or smoking, and an all around great kid. If this is the worst thing she ever wants done--you're doing AWESOME!!!

 

[MerMom60_94]

I say let her do it. As a PP said, belly button piercing is to this generation what ear piercing was to a few generations back.

That being said, I had mine pierced about 10 years ago. It was such a pain in the neck to take care of and constantly was getting infected. Not to mention, when my weight fluctuated my wasteband would make it dig into me. I love the notion of a belly button piercing, but the reality of it wasn't so pleasant. That's me, though. Eventually, I had to concede and take it out and now it just looks like I have a freckle above my belly button. No long term harm done. My DD (14) has asked to have hers done, but she can't even keep her ears pierced and DH is opposed to it so I just tell her I want her to wait a few years and then she can decide what to do.

 

[KristinBelle]

You should let her -- all the 18 year-old boys will think it's really hot!

This falls into the category of "reasons to not let DD16 pierce her belly button" for me. I personally don't want to draw anybody's eyes to her body anymore than they already are.

Yep.