TTC thread take 2

[cherbear]

I've been lurking here for a while and finally decided to post.

I'm 32 and have been with my husband for 13 years. We were always fence sitters about having kids, and finally decided that we would like to have one. Since we've been trying so long to prevent having kids, we thought for sure I'd get pregnant right away when we started trying. Well a year and a half later, and I'm still not pregnant.

We're both going to our first doctor's appointments this month to see if anything is wrong. Can't wait for that. We've decided that if I don't get pregnant by the end of the year we would start looking into adoption. Of course, this has already opened us up to comments. I told my best friend that we were thinking of adopting, and she asked me, 'Oh, do you not want any of your own?' Now she's the sweetest person on earth and I hadn't shared our struggles with her, but still. If it was anyone else that asked that, I think I may have struck them.

So anyways, hello.

So glad you decided to post! No need to lurk anymore, we won't bite

I understand about wanting to strike your friend! LOL

You're not alone. I feel the same way sometimes. Like there's this certain alottment of pregnancies for the month/year and they're going to get used up or something.

heehee that's a funny way to put it. I KEWYM though!

 

[cherbear]

I know what you mean about mixed emotions. I talked to a girlfriend of mine a few months ago about our trying to have kids. She has 3 girls and said they were debating having one more. Wouldn't you know it, she gets pregnant the very first month of trying. We don't see each other on a regular basis, but I haven't had the heart to seek her out to congratulate her. I feel awful about it, but I just can't right now. I am very happy for them, but I'm also sad for us.

wow. Whenever I hear the "1st try" I always have to cringe a little. I was once on a TTC message board...then a new girl joined and in her first post she explained how she and her husband conceived all 3 of their girls in the first month of trying every time. And her husband cheated on her, a one night stand with another girl and got that girl pregnant that one time too. It just made my JAW DROP. (could have at least waited til her 2nd or 3rd post there eh?)

 

[MommaSnowwhite]

wow. Whenever I hear the "1st try" I always have to cringe a little. I was once on a TTC message board...then a new girl joined and in her first post she explained how she and her husband conceived all 3 of their girls in the first month of trying every time. And her husband cheated on her, a one night stand with another girl and got that girl pregnant that one time too. It just made my JAW DROP. (could have at least waited til her 2nd or 3rd post there eh?)

Maybe she could have shared him! He maybe some kind of good luck charm.

Welcome jenm2878!

 

[cherbear]

Maybe she could have shared him! He maybe some kind of good luck charm.

Welcome jenm2878!

yeah obviously!

 

[jenm2878]

Thank you for all the welcomes!

 

[Kronk's girl]

Good morning ladies (and another welcome to Jenm2878). Well I ended up telling my parents yesterday. Of course I cried for a long time (which I HATE crying, and I usually I don't cry over this, but if I talk about it too much then I can't help it).

After I told my parents my husband admitted that he had already told his sister and that was why he was suddenly pushing to tell people (I suspected that). I guess his sister was harassing him a few weekends ago about how "we should really have kids, and you shouldn't wait till you're old, and she wants her kids to have more cousins, and when can she drop off all the hand me down baby stuff" etc. Well, I guess my husband just snapped (since this is like the 10th time she has done this!). So it's done.

Anyway, I hope everyone had a good weekend. I am trying to keep my mind busy on other things... disney trip planning, house cleaning and organizing, new books etc.

I hope all is well and I hope this is a lucky month on this thread

 

[D&DDisney]

Good morning ladies (and another welcome to Jenm2878). Well I ended up telling my parents yesterday. Of course I cried for a long time (which I HATE crying, and I usually I don't cry over this, but if I talk about it too much then I can't help it).

After I told my parents my husband admitted that he had already told his sister and that was why he was suddenly pushing to tell people (I suspected that). I guess his sister was harassing him a few weekends ago about how "we should really have kids, and you shouldn't wait till you're old, and she wants her kids to have more cousins, and when can she drop off all the hand me down baby stuff" etc. Well, I guess my husband just snapped (since this is like the 10th time she has done this!). So it's done.

Anyway, I hope everyone had a good weekend. I am trying to keep my mind busy on other things... disney trip planning, house cleaning and organizing, new books etc.

I hope all is well and I hope this is a lucky month on this thread

Maybe it will be good now that they know. Hopefully they will be a lot more sensitive.

Maybe we should start a new thread for some of us long timers ---TTC but trying not to think about it. That way we can talk about other things while still offering support.

 

[cherbear]

Good morning ladies (and another welcome to Jenm2878). Well I ended up telling my parents yesterday. Of course I cried for a long time (which I HATE crying, and I usually I don't cry over this, but if I talk about it too much then I can't help it).

After I told my parents my husband admitted that he had already told his sister and that was why he was suddenly pushing to tell people (I suspected that). I guess his sister was harassing him a few weekends ago about how "we should really have kids, and you shouldn't wait till you're old, and she wants her kids to have more cousins, and when can she drop off all the hand me down baby stuff" etc. Well, I guess my husband just snapped (since this is like the 10th time she has done this!). So it's done.

Anyway, I hope everyone had a good weekend. I am trying to keep my mind busy on other things... disney trip planning, house cleaning and organizing, new books etc.

I hope all is well and I hope this is a lucky month on this thread

oh sweetie!! I cried when I told mine too. Do you feel better now that they know?? What did they say? Did your DH tell you what his sister said?? (Bet it shut her up about it all...)

 

[Kennywife]

After I find out about what the dx says, we're going to start ttc again this fall. Unless I have to have something done.

I know I'm being silly, but I almost don't want to try anymore. I just feel so defeated and keep thinking that we'll go through it all again and still nothing. Am I horrible for thinking that?

Course, this time we may have help, so it may take this time....one can only hope.

Oh, we've decided for this reason mainly to have our vow renewal in 2012 instead of next year. We want to see where this ttc thing will go. We're thinking Oct. 2012 at Disney!!!!!! (That way, we have a while to plan it and save for it).

Gabbie

 

[Kronk's girl]

oh sweetie!! I cried when I told mine too. Do you feel better now that they know?? What did they say? Did your DH tell you what his sister said?? (Bet it shut her up about it all...)

Weirdly everyone was mad that we hadn't told them sooner, but I thought that was weird because why would we tell them sooner? I had convinced myself every month that we are probably just one more month away from getting pregnant and there was no need to tell. I sort of still feel that way.

And shockingly it did not shut up my SIL. I guess she made my Dh tell her everything we have done/tried and she got mad when he told her that we aren't interested in taking it any further with IUI or IVF. She proceeded to argue why we should do these things, and that she thinks we are giving up- which I think is totally rude! I feel it is a very personal choice and is up to the couple, and as of now, it is not something we wish to pursue (I don't think we are even at that stage yet anyway, it's only been two years and we are still young!). We just want to keep trying the old fashioned way and cross our fingers and if we ever change our minds it certainly won't be because of her nagging us! Apparently she said she would drop it after that, but for some reason I doubt that . I am glad I wasn't there!

(Please don't feel like I am against anyone doing these procedures- I am very excited for you guys and cross my fingers for you every time!!! It is just not something we are really interested in).


And best of luck when the Fall rolls around Kennywife. Disneyworld will still be there in 2012 . Sorry for such a long post guys!

 

[esbrick]

Hey ladies! Just checking in. Nothing new really. I was doing pretty well until last Thursday when I went to meet up with an old college friend. We met at the brewpub and I was all set to sit with her and commiserate over our "fertility issues" until, that is, she walked in. . . She had mentioned that she was having similar issues getting pregnant. . . neglected to mention that in the last four months these issues had resolved themselves and there she was 4 months pregnant with TWINS via IVF!POOBALLS. . . Went to bed on Thursday night and must have grinded my teeth to a new level cause I haven't been able to open my mouth since and my dentist actually perscribed Xanex for me Pooballs. . . I thought I was ok, I really did, I guess with having my cousins with us for the past 3 weeks, work being stressful and this whole figuring out what we are doing next took it's toll!

Oh well, i'm gonna move on and relax. . . Stress, as we all know, doesn't help anything anyways

I'm still reading just and praying and thinking bout you all. . . Just quiet right now. . .

 

[Kronk's girl]

I know there's nothing I can say other than we're here for you when you need to/want to talk...and to root you on with whatever happens next.

 

[cherbear]

I know there's nothing I can say other than we're here for you when you need to/want to talk...and to root you on with whatever happens next.

ditto!!!

 

[cherbear]

Gabbie, we ALL get that way. It's easy to get defeated when you keep being let down month after month. At least we can look around to our left and right and realize that we have friends on this road. If I've gotta be on this road, I'm glad I have so much support.

 

[cherbear]

tonight I've been watching actual videos of IVF retrievals on youtube. It is SO neat to watch!!

I started to research and then I thought hmm....there's videos for EVERYTHING, I'm sure there's egg retrievals. Yup, sure enough, there's plenty!

So let's share the strangest and/or coolest things we've ever looked up on Youtube

 

[cherbear]

and by the way, AF is teasing me with cramps, but she's not actually here yet. I wanna punch her in the nose!

 

[esbrick]

Thanks everyone. . . feeling a little better. I will be better, just need to get over the hump. . .

AF is a witch! I'm confused again as to when i'm due but i am assuming shortly.

Take care. . .

 

[Kronk's girl]

Thanks everyone. . . feeling a little better. I will be better, just need to get over the hump. . .

AF is a witch! I'm confused again as to when i'm due but i am assuming shortly.

Take care. . .

Glad you are feeling a little better.

tonight I've been watching actual videos of IVF retrievals on youtube. It is SO neat to watch!!

I started to research and then I thought hmm....there's videos for EVERYTHING, I'm sure there's egg retrievals. Yup, sure enough, there's plenty!

So let's share the strangest and/or coolest things we've ever looked up on Youtube

Wow, that's awesome. What a great tool to be able to see ahead of time EXACTLY what will happen. So is this for sure a "go" this month? I really hope this is it for you!!!

I have to admit I have never really looked anything up on you tube. I have really only been to it when people have sent me links of something. So I have no interesting clips to share, sorry!

Happy Tuesday everyone!

 

[cherbear]

KG, it's only for sure a "go" if I ever get AF this week. So I'm really praying she comes!! I was hoping she'd arrive before my appointment tomorrow. I'm gonna feel pretty stupid if I have to tell them that I STILL don't have my period. I had told the IVF coordinator on the phone last week that I "expect it any day now"

 

[ead79]

Weirdly everyone was mad that we hadn't told them sooner, but I thought that was weird because why would we tell them sooner? I had convinced myself every month that we are probably just one more month away from getting pregnant and there was no need to tell. I sort of still feel that way.

And shockingly it did not shut up my SIL. I guess she made my Dh tell her everything we have done/tried and she got mad when he told her that we aren't interested in taking it any further with IUI or IVF. She proceeded to argue why we should do these things, and that she thinks we are giving up- which I think is totally rude! I feel it is a very personal choice and is up to the couple, and as of now, it is not something we wish to pursue (I don't think we are even at that stage yet anyway, it's only been two years and we are still young!). We just want to keep trying the old fashioned way and cross our fingers and if we ever change our minds it certainly won't be because of her nagging us! Apparently she said she would drop it after that, but for some reason I doubt that . I am glad I wasn't there!

(Please don't feel like I am against anyone doing these procedures- I am very excited for you guys and cross my fingers for you every time!!! It is just not something we are really interested in).


And best of luck when the Fall rolls around Kennywife. Disneyworld will still be there in 2012 . Sorry for such a long post guys!

I'm sorry your SIL is being so insensitive! Yikes! I'm not sure what makes people think that everything about someone else's life is their business. Of course, people say that sort of thing about everything--when you should get married, have kids, how many kids you should have, etc. Sheesh people!

Hey ladies! Just checking in. Nothing new really. I was doing pretty well until last Thursday when I went to meet up with an old college friend. We met at the brewpub and I was all set to sit with her and commiserate over our "fertility issues" until, that is, she walked in. . . She had mentioned that she was having similar issues getting pregnant. . . neglected to mention that in the last four months these issues had resolved themselves and there she was 4 months pregnant with TWINS via IVF!POOBALLS. . . Went to bed on Thursday night and must have grinded my teeth to a new level cause I haven't been able to open my mouth since and my dentist actually perscribed Xanex for me Pooballs. . . I thought I was ok, I really did, I guess with having my cousins with us for the past 3 weeks, work being stressful and this whole figuring out what we are doing next took it's toll!

Oh well, i'm gonna move on and relax. . . Stress, as we all know, doesn't help anything anyways

I'm still reading just and praying and thinking bout you all. . . Just quiet right now. . .

I'm sorry you had such a tough evening. And twins no less--I can imagine that would be difficult.

and by the way, AF is teasing me with cramps, but she's not actually here yet. I wanna punch her in the nose!

OK, AF needs to show up for you too! I finally got mine to show back up, now yours needs to get with the picture!