Trying to stay calm

[Kriii]

I'm soooo stressed out right now even though I know life is being good to us in so many ways. My dh transferred a few months ago, but I've been staying here waiting for dd to finish the school year and me to finish out my job. We wanted the transfer and are going "home" so this is a huge blessing. The house sold (yay!) so we've had to move into a rental in the meantime. The new house has been a pain to close on but it looks like we FINALLY have a firm closing date. There is just so much last minute stuff with moving plus we have to hit the ground running when we arrive at the new place b/c dd's many summer activities are starting within a day of the move. On top of that there are little issues taking up my time and patience. I'll have a new job to adjust to, no complaints b/c I am lucky to have a new job, but still a bit of a worry. It's just that all is hitting at once and I'm physically not feeling well with all of the pressure. Would appreciate any words of encouragement from others who have gone through relos. I've done this before, but every time still feels hard. Thanks for listening to me let of a bit of steam.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

First off, congratulations on your move!! Especially getting to go home. We have been through that several times and it is hard but you will make it and your life will be better than it was.

I know first hand how hard it is being alone on the back end of the move. We have done it three times and I always felt like DH had the easy part, but I guess it was stressful for him too. I think going through a move like that makes you so much stronger and wiser because you are faced with big decisions to make all on your own, in a lot of cases. I don't know, there is still something so exciting about it.

My DH just got promoted at work again, and more than likely we will be moving within the next year ourselves. I am a little nervous because we have no idea yet where we would go, but it would be our choice. I am also very excited to be starting over fresh somewhere new.

I guess if I could say anything to help you it would be that God will never give you more than you can handle. Each day is a blessing and just try to hang in there. The move will be over and you will be settled in to your new home before you know it.

 

[SLK1]

A good friend just said something the other day that might be of interest to you: If we all put our problems in the middle of a circle, then looked over everyone else's problems, we would probably take our own problems back out with us.
You'll look back on this time and will remember how chaotic things felt, but it will make you appreciate the "smooth" life that much more! Good luck!

 

[fortcampers]

I feel your stress! We moved 5 times in 4 years including a move to New Zealand for 2 years and then back to the states. When we first started we had 2 boys and then our dd came along. It was always a promotion for my husband and while the kids were young, it wasn't as huge a deal as it would be now for us. Back then they weren't in school and I could take my time unpacking and we would go exploring our "new home". The opportunity came up for us to move from our current home where we have lived for 9 years. The kids are all now involved in sports, dance and one is in college and we added one more child to the mix. When I found out we might move, we were all devastated----My kids have been with their friends since kindergarten. My 17 yr old has been with this group of kids since kindergarten and this upcoming school year is the year he is going to be the starting kicker on the varsity football team. My daughter does lots of dance things and competitions with dance and is also part of the Duke Talent Pool---something she could no longer do in the state we were going to move to. I would no longer be working since in the state we were going to move to I would have to have a 4 yr degree just to be a substitute teacher or teacher assistant and I only have a 2 yr degree. So I feel your frustration and anxiety. I had no idea how we would be able to accomplish either leaving the college student behind (800 miles away) or having him transfer to a new college, make the senior in high school start school, hopefully get on a new football team and graduate his senior year with a new group of kids, have both boys find a new part time job and have the dd have to audition again for another competition team with girls she doesn't know and hasn't dance with and take them from the only real friends they have had after all those other moves. For me, the dance moms and my school where I work are my other homes---they are my friends and support system. We have no family where we live to help us, so if I am in a pinch, I call on my friends. No one wanted to leave their friends and jobs behind and move to a state where tornadoes happen and the sun barely comes out from October to April. I am happy for you that are you going back home. I will be a daily race to see how much you can get done, but from my experience, just take it a day at a time. Unpack the things you must have---things for the bathroom, kitchen and some of the clothes. With the weather being warmer, you won't have to unpack all your winter clothes. And then as you have the time, unpack a box here and there. Your kids are old enough to unpack the boxes for their rooms and get things set up----even with their busy schedules. You may not be completely unpacked for 6 months or so, but you will be in a much better frame of mind if you realize that you can't do it all in a day. Get out what you need and go from there. I wish you lots of luck and fun!

 

[poohfriend77]

First of all...

The worst part is over, right? You'll be back with DH, in your new home, without the stress and worry about whether you'll sell the old house, find a job, etc.

You said you're moving "home." Does this mean you'll have family nearby? Let them help! Summer activities can wait a few days if they're too overwhelming. Focus on your job, and deal with the unpacking/settling in when you can. Easier said than done, I know. The boxes would drive me crazy, you can eat take-out for a few days and just enjoys being together as a family again.

 

[Kriii]

Thanks for the kind words you guys. I really do know how fortunate I am and there will be family there. Everyone who posted did make me feel better and for those posters who are going through upcoming relos, I wish you luck too!