Treasure your friends

lisajl

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I just want to send you all a friendly reminder, even though some don't need it.
I made a friend years ago through our work. We hit it off, we spent some time together, our sons(close in age) got along fairly well. Had not seen her in a few years.
We had talked in January, she wanted a reference for a job. We talked like we had just seen each other. We discussed getting together but time slipped away.
Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I get a call Saturday night and she tells me she is dying. She has pancreatic/liver cancer stage 4.
I start to cry. She holds the phone away from her and says, "She's taking it like everyone else, she is crying, geesh!" She knew how to lighten a moment.

My husband and I go to see her the next day(Sunday) and spend a couple hours with her, her husband and her son-that has aspergers.
We take a photo together, she walks us out to the car.
The last photo of her I have in my mind is her dear husband with his arm around her waist. They are saying goodbye to us.
On the following Saturday I bought her another card to send to her. I had just sent one a few days earlier.
I wanted to get together on this past Wed.
It was not to be. Her husband called and told me she passed away Sunday.
It was exactly a week later.
I wanted to get together with her Wed, well I did. I was at her viewing.
Her sisters did not know me, but her niece did. She told me that by my friends bedside was a photo with her son, and the photo of us that was just taken a week ago.
That was all it took and I cried like a baby. Then I cried again at the funeral when I saw her husband and son walk out together, crying-holding onto each other. I want to cry now.
Please, tell your friends how much they mean to you, get together with them, don't put it off.
My friend found out about the cancer on Feb 28. and passed away on April 17th. God speed Judy.
 
I just want to send you all a friendly reminder, even though some don't need it.
I made a friend years ago through our work. We hit it off, we spent some time together, our sons(close in age) got along fairly well. Had not seen her in a few years.
We had talked in January, she wanted a reference for a job. We talked like we had just seen each other. We discussed getting together but time slipped away.
Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I get a call Saturday night and she tells me she is dying. She has pancreatic/liver cancer stage 4.
I start to cry. She holds the phone away from her and says, "She's taking it like everyone else, she is crying, geesh!" She knew how to lighten a moment.

My husband and I go to see her the next day(Sunday) and spend a couple hours with her, her husband and her son-that has aspergers.
We take a photo together, she walks us out to the car.
The last photo of her I have in my mind is her dear husband with his arm around her waist. They are saying goodbye to us.
On the following Saturday I bought her another card to send to her. I had just sent one a few days earlier.
I wanted to get together on this past Wed.
It was not to be. Her husband called and told me she passed away Sunday.
It was exactly a week later.
I wanted to get together with her Wed, well I did. I was at her viewing.
Her sisters did not know me, but her niece did. She told me that by my friends bedside was a photo with her son, and the photo of us that was just taken a week ago.
That was all it took and I cried like a baby. Then I cried again at the funeral when I saw her husband and son walk out together, crying-holding onto each other. I want to cry now.
Please, tell your friends how much they mean to you, get together with them, don't put it off.
My friend found out about the cancer on Feb 28. and passed away on April 17th. God speed Judy.

I know what you're sayin'. :hug:
 
I am sorry for your loss.....thank you for the reminder..
 

You are in my thoughts and prayers :hug:
 
Amen. I went back to college and I have been so overwhelmed. Last quarter my best friend told me how hurt her feelings were that I never called her back. I said, "I did call." She said, "You didn't!" She was right I sadly realized.

She was going through some serious surgical recovery. We both cried. I apologized. My husband said, "She needs to get real. You are BUSY."

I disagree. She misses me. I have gotten my priorities together. People matter.
 
I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for the reminder. I am off to mend a little bridge that has been needing some fixing between a long term friend and I.

Silly to let something stupid wait, you are right, maybe I do not have "all the time in the world".

I am happy that you have that last visit in your heart to remember.:hug:
 
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend~:hug:
I know this story all too well and hear it all too often. Every day is a gift.
 
I'm sorry for your loss.

Unfortunately, it took the same lesson for me to come to my senses, sadly too late.
I had a dear friend for many years. Our sons grew up together, from elementary all through high school, and we worked in the same place for many years. I left to attend college and we ultimately lost touch. I avoided the place we had worked together (retail) for a long time---I just couldn't stand to go in there. Last year, I did start popping into the store once in a while, and the last few times, I thought, "I should go upstairs and see if L is in her office," but I was always too busy or had some lame excuse to do it "next time." I should have listened to that voice in my head. She died a few weeks later, also of pancreatic cancer. You are so right---we need to value and treasure our friends and family.
 
:hug: so sorry for your very difficult loss. I think her neice speaking with you about the photo was a special moment, one you will treasure. You are right, treasure friends, for sure.
 
:hug: I am so sorry.

As I head deeper into my forties, I am really realizing the importance of my friends. I was always saying no to almost every outing, and am now enjoying time away from home with them. Dancing, chatting, having a drink.

I don't come from a large family, so they always were my family growing up. Like sisters to me.
 
So sorry for the loss of your friend:hug: I think this not only applies to our friends but to our family. In 2007 my Mom was going in for surgery.. she was scheduled for 7 am and when I arrived at 6:30 am she was no longer in her room. I asked the nurse where she was and they had already taken her to the OP room. But the nurse said they were waiting for me. She refused to have her surgery until I got there. I clearly remember my Mom saying "Hi sweetie, I was waiting for you before I go in for my surgery" We hugged and said "I love you, I'll see you in a bit". Sadly, the operation had complications and that is the last time I heard my Mom's voice or have received a hug from her. She is still living, but with many health issues. Please tell your loved ones everyday how much they mean to you.
 
So sorry for the loss of your friend:hug: I think this not only applies to our friends but to our family. In 2007 my Mom was going in for surgery.. she was scheduled for 7 am and when I arrived at 6:30 am she was no longer in her room. I asked the nurse where she was and they had already taken her to the OP room. But the nurse said they were waiting for me. She refused to have her surgery until I got there. I clearly remember my Mom saying "Hi sweetie, I was waiting for you before I go in for my surgery" We hugged and said "I love you, I'll see you in a bit". Sadly, the operation had complications and that is the last time I heard my Mom's voice or have received a hug from her. She is still living, but with many health issues. Please tell your loved ones everyday how much they mean to you.

Bless you and your mom!
 


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