Over the July 17 to the 19th weekend there was a CM that was Cindrella's "helper" that refused to trade with my DN, age 6. HE told my SIL that the 3 pins on the bottom of his lanyard(potholder style, can't remember the offical name for the square belt hanger type), were his "Personal" pins and she did not have anything he wanted! I was shocked! My DN was very confused. I got her into the pin trading cause I was tired of standing in line to take photos/autographs of the same WDW characters each and every trip. She was very confused.. wish I had been there! We have a lot of college age kids that are family friends that are CMs at WDW and when I told them what happened, and the exact time they are checking to see if they can find out who was the handler on that day/place/time. And since it was just after lunch at the Castle it should not be hard...
I don't have a problem with CMs having personal pins with them, but if they have them on an "offical" Disney lanyard I think they should be willing to trade. And several times we have been some place at WDW and had CMs trade from their personal pin stash when we asked if they knew anyone that had a pin we were looking for! They had them either in a pocket or in a couple cases they told us when they got off work/on break and went to a locker? and got the pin and then traded us! Talk about super nice! And we traded at England in ECPOT for a pin that one of the CMs had been trying to save for a fellow CM and when we found out tried to give it back... she wouldn't take it! So we found the pin latter from another CM, traded and went back to England to make sure the CM we got the first one from had it..she was off work, but we knew her name and a friend made sure she got it!
Also I agree that some adult kinda edge on their kids to get pins they want. I have wanted to several times with DN, but we all agreeded in the family that if she wanted to trade a pin that it was her decision, and we would not try and change her mind, we have, however, perma-backed several of the pins on her lanyard! And in her trading book.... but not till she got upset she had traded something in the heat of pintrading and regretted it latter! Good lesson for all of us....