Toys for Christmas right??? Not clothes... vent ahead..

[goofy!]

See that's just it, my counterpart, meaning the other DIL that married one of MIL's sons, not her daughter that is technically also my SIL, has made it crystal clear that the clothes she has recieved for births, birthday and holiday presents will "go to the Mexicans that mow our lawn if they are from Carters, Childrens Place or Walmart etc, they will never see the light of day on my children" So we have all sort of discussed how different all of our tastes are in clothes and also what we each prefer/can spend on clothes etc so that is also a part of why I would have thought that outfits and such would be avoided but matching disney pj's are still good for grandma to get. See there I go again with more in-law venting but really it had to be said.

Ummm...no it didn't.

You seem to have a real sense of entitlement for getting ONLY gifts that please you and the rest of the family be damned if they don't get you exactly what you want.

 

[Arielle22]

My siblings and I have always asked for a Christmas list for the nieces and nephews. When they were younger we bought off the list but if we found something we thought they would like we would buy that. Now that the older nieces are adults, we know what their interests are and buy appropriately. It seems to make the whole process much easier than what is described in some posts.

When my daughters were young I would always tell them you thank the giver for thinking of you on the special day before you open the present. Then you can thank them for the specific present.

My daughters are now 16 and 18. When the older one was five she would have hated getting Barbies. Even then she was into books. She read the first Harry Potter when she was 6. The younger one has always loved clothes. She was very happy getting clothes when she was younger.

 

[Dee77]

You do see that is wrong on many levels, right?

And, no, it didn't. In addition to my parents teaching me to be appreciative for what I'm given, they also taught me that if you can't say something nice, don't say anything.

Of course it is wrong, I am not the one who feels that way though and it certainly was wrong for her explain what was happening with the gifts many of us had given her.

 

[JaneBanks]

Of course it is wrong, I am not the one who feels that way though and it certainly was wrong for her explain what was happening with the gifts many of us had given her.

Some people have difficulty with reading comprehension when they're jumping on the "gang up" band wagon.

 

[YodaGirl]

Of course it is wrong, I am not the one who feels that way though and it certainly was wrong for her explain what was happening with the gifts many of us had given her.

I'm glad to see that you realize that is wrong. I was unable to discern that from your post.

 

[Dee77]

Some people have difficulty with reading comprehension when they're jumping on the "gang up" band wagon.

Thanks!

 

[Dee77]

I'm glad to see that you realize that is wrong. I was unable to discern that from your post.

Oh yeah, wrong, very wrong and made my head spin around when she said it. But hey at least I know to be prepared for racist and unflattering comments to be slung around freely in the presence of my child when we are together.... thus why I said that I have issues with my in-laws and why we are taking a break this Christmas and just sticking with my very predictible family.

 

[goofy!]

Of course it is wrong, I am not the one who feels that way though and it certainly was wrong for her explain what was happening with the gifts many of us had given her.

And yet it is perfectly ok for you to vent about how wrong the gifts they gave you were? You are doing the same thing, explaining how wrong the gifts your in-laws gave you.

Look at it this way. You got pretty defensive about the snow-globes you give the teens when others mentioned that teens probably would not like them. Yet, YOU feel they are a great gift and derive much joy with giving them to the teens.

Your in-laws are probably the same way. Your SIL likes high-end clothing, thus thinking Uggs would be a great gift. At least she asked and listened to you and sent Barbies.

Your other in-laws probably love to clothe shop for little girls. I know I would love that too. They bought the gifts that they wanted to give your daughter, just like you bought the snow globes because you like to give them as gifts.

Teach your daughter (and yourself) to appreciate the gifts you receive. They many not be your perfect vision of a gift, but it is a gift never-the-less.

Otherwise, you many end up venting on a thread that your horrible inlaws didn't get your DD anything due to your ungratefulness.

 

[JaneBanks]

And yet it is perfectly ok for you to vent about how wrong the gifts they gave you were? You are doing the same thing, explaining how wrong the gifts your in-laws gave you.

Look at it this way. You got pretty defensive about the snow-globes you give the teens when others mentioned that teens probably would not like them. Yet, YOU feel they are a great gift and derive much joy with giving them to the teens.

Your in-laws are probably the same way. Your SIL likes high-end clothing, thus thinking Uggs would be a great gift. At least she asked and listened to you and sent Barbies.

Your other in-laws probably love to clothe shop for little girls. I know I would love that too. They bought the gifts that they wanted to give your daughter, just like you bought the snow globes because you like to give them as gifts.

Teach your daughter (and yourself) to appreciate the gifts you receive. They many not be your perfect vision of a gift, but it is a gift never-the-less.

Otherwise, you many end up venting on a thread that your horrible inlaws didn't get your DD anything due to your ungratefulness.

The OP has said that her nieces collect snow globes. Why does this keep being brought up like she's giving snow globes that aren't wanted?

It's like people just like to keep on picking and picking at the OP to the point where people are disregarding what she has said and exaggerate everything.

It's getting ridiculous.

 

[moon]

OP, I SO agree with you on the toys thing, esp for very young kids.

I think I've told the story before, but here it goes again. This didn't happen on Chriatmas, but on my birthday, so I think it fits here.

I was turning five, and was given a really small "party". Just my 2 uncles and their families. Which meant two presents. I was aware of that, and was exited wondering what those two gifts would be.

The first uncle arrives, and I run to oped my present. It was underwear. I was quite disappointed but I politely thanked them for the gift. Then my other ucle and his family arrives. I open their gift and it was the exact same underwear I had just received. I was chrushed and just blurted out "Oh no, the same thing!" My mom made me apologize and thank them for the gift.

All these years later I still remember that and wonder about the lack of thought displayed by both families....well, the aunts mainly since they were the ones who made the putchase. I was familiar with the store from where the presents came, and they had toys in every price range. Just spending a few more minutes there would have made a world of differece to a child.

That's why I never give clothes to kids. If they need underwear, well, I just buy it and give it to them, but I would never wrap a pair of panties in pretty paper with a bow and expect a child to be all excited over it. Please!

 

[luvmy3]

OP, I SO agree with you on the toys thing, esp for very young kids.

I think I've told the story before, but here it goes again. This didn't happen on Chriatmas, but on my birthday, so I think it fits here.

I was turning five, and was given a really small "party". Just my 2 uncles and their families. Which meant two presents. I was aware of that, and was exited wondering what those two gifts would be.

The first uncle arrives, and I run to oped my present. It was underwear. I was quite disappointed but I politely thanked them for the gift. Then my other ucle and his family arrives. I open their gift and it was the exact same underwear I had just received. I was chrushed and just blurted out "Oh no, the same thing!" My mom made me apologize and thank them for the gift.

All these years later I still remember that and wonder about the lack of thought displayed by both families....well, the aunts mainly since they were the ones who made the putchase. I was familiar with the store from where the presents came, and they had toys in every price range. Just spending a few more minutes there would have made a world of differece to a child.

That's why I never give clothes to kids. If they need underwear, well, I just buy it and give it to them, but I would never wrap a pair of panties in pretty paper with a bow and expect a child to be all excited over it. Please!

The OP isn't talking about opening just 2 pks of underwear so I don't think your story fits here at all. Also, not every child is disappointed by underwear, I gave my ds his first boxers for his birthday and you would have thought he won the lottery.
But back to the OP, her dd received multiple presents, some clothes, an ornament, a blanket and cookie cutters. Her issue was that NONE of them were toys.

 

[Crystal824]

I am fine with my DD getting clothes for Christmas. She has a ton of toys, which seem to be taking over my house. Any clothing she gets from friends and family is less I have to buy. Santa is bringing more than enough toys.

With that being said, when I shop for kids usually my nephews, I try to do a mixture of clothes and toys. We already had Christmas with my family. I got my 7 year old nephew a Redskins jersey (he LOVED this), an outfit (jeans and a shirt) and a Wii game he wanted. We did the same for his 1 year old brother. He got a couple of outfits and several toys.

 

[fortwildernessishome]

OP, you just don't realize how you came across. Sorry, you sound very ungrateful. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Some of us on here do not have relatives who buy our kids gifts. Some don't even have money to buy their own kids what they really want. So you complaining that your child "only" got clothes from family members sounds horrible. I have six kids and they only get things from us. I would love for my inlaws or my relatives to think of them even if it is a pair of socks! It just troubles me that people are really like this and that so many posters defended you! Where has the true meaning of Christmas gone??? And no, Christmas is not all about getting toys! Really?

It really sounds like your daughter will have plenty of Barbies to open up from you on Christmas morning so why would you even care enough to give it another thought, never mind vent to a bunch of strangers! Yes, we have all opened up gifts we didn't want or need but we move on-not actually get bothered enought to write about it on a message board!

Well actually, not you personally, but MANY people on the dis actually DO write on a message board about how bothered they are with their gifts. The OP is in very good company on the Dis............

 

[crashbb]

OP, I SO agree with you on the toys thing, esp for very young kids.

I think I've told the story before, but here it goes again. This didn't happen on Chriatmas, but on my birthday, so I think it fits here.

I was turning five, and was given a really small "party". Just my 2 uncles and their families. Which meant two presents. I was aware of that, and was exited wondering what those two gifts would be.

The first uncle arrives, and I run to oped my present. It was underwear. I was quite disappointed but I politely thanked them for the gift. Then my other ucle and his family arrives. I open their gift and it was the exact same underwear I had just received. I was chrushed and just blurted out "Oh no, the same thing!" My mom made me apologize and thank them for the gift.

All these years later I still remember that and wonder about the lack of thought displayed by both families....well, the aunts mainly since they were the ones who made the putchase. I was familiar with the store from where the presents came, and they had toys in every price range. Just spending a few more minutes there would have made a world of differece to a child.

That's why I never give clothes to kids. If they need underwear, well, I just buy it and give it to them, but I would never wrap a pair of panties in pretty paper with a bow and expect a child to be all excited over it. Please!

HUGE difference between a pair of underwear and pajamas, a blanket, a "trendy outfit", and a hat and gloves (plus cookie cutters and a holiday ornament).

Had the OP's daughter been given a pair of underwear, I'd agree that the gift didn't show much thought. However, that is not what she was given.

 

[Dee77]

OK I have been called ungrateful one too many times, and told how I should raise my daughter to be more appreciative more times than I think most people would put up with. I came here to vent and that is exactly what I did, now I am off to go wrap my 73 toys for my precious snowflake and to burn what she opened last night in retaliation for how I have been vilified here. Thanks everyone for your insightfulness and take no prisoners attitude. Have a very Merry Christmas and I will be thinking of each of you as DD is on hour 3 of opening her plethora of TOYS and MORE TOYS this Sunday morning, now that we got the boring clothes and crap out of the way

Have a great day everyone!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Some people have difficulty with reading comprehension when they're jumping on the "gang up" band wagon.

For the most part, I think everyone's reading comprehension is working properly.
It's pretty dang petty to accuse others of not being able to read when they can read just fine. Disagreeing with the OP is not a sign that they cannot comprehend her complaint.

It is just another tale of "If you agree with the OP, you have an open mind. If you don't, you are closed minded."

It's becoming tradition much like egg nog and evergreens.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

OK I have been called ungrateful one too many times, and told how I should raise my daughter to be more appreciative more times than I think most people would put up with. I came here to vent and that is exactly what I did, now I am off to go wrap my 73 toys for my precious snowflake and to burn what she opened last night in retaliation for how I have been vilified here. Thanks everyone for your insightfulness and take no prisoners attitude. Have a very Merry Christmas and I will be thinking of each of you as DD is on hour 3 of opening her plethora of TOYS and MORE TOYS this Sunday morning, now that we got the boring clothes and crap out of the way

Have a great day everyone!

That's the spirit!

Merry Christmas.

 

[JaneBanks]

For the most part, I think everyone's reading comprehension is working properly.
It's pretty dang petty to accuse others of not being able to read when they can read just fine. Disagreeing with the OP is not a sign that they cannot comprehend her complaint.

It is just another tale of "If you agree with the OP, you have an open mind. If you don't, you are closed minded."

It's becoming tradition much like egg nog and evergreens.

No, I have no problem with people disagreeing with the OP. I do have a problem of 14 pages of people ganging up on the OP, telling her she's raising an ungrateful brat, calling her nasty, disgusting, etc.

One poster insinuated that the OP made comments about Mexicans.

The OP has said her nieces collect snow globes yet people are still accusing her of giving horrible gifts to her niece and making fun of the fact that she gave her nieces the snow globes.

 

[luvmy3]

OK I have been called ungrateful one too many times, and told how I should raise my daughter to be more appreciative more times than I think most people would put up with. I came here to vent and that is exactly what I did, now I am off to go wrap my 73 toys for my precious snowflake and to burn what she opened last night in retaliation for how I have been vilified here. Thanks everyone for your insightfulness and take no prisoners attitude. Have a very Merry Christmas and I will be thinking of each of you as DD is on hour 3 of opening her plethora of TOYS and MORE TOYS this Sunday morning, now that we got the boring clothes and crap out of the way

Have a great day everyone!

OP, honestly you have to know how ungrateful you come across in your vent. If thinking what people chose to give your dd is ridiculous isn't a sign of that, I don't know what it is. Don't make us the villians because we called you out on it.

 

[crashbb]

One poster insinuated that the OP made comments about Mexicans.

I guess my reading comprehension is lacking. Can you please point out said insinuation?