Totally stressed...don't know if I can handle another 2 months of this!

[jmmastra]

Have any of you come to a breaking point? I think I am there...2 months to go and I am ready to elope. So yes, this thread is mainly for me to vent about my wedding planning issues! SORRY! I am having a Custom DFTW on May 1 and a home reception on May 20th. The Disney Planning is going fine, I have a great WP but I got my BEO and had to cut out a lot. DF is not working so I am totally stressed about how we are even paying for this wedding. We are supposed to take out a loan. I have great credit but I am having nightmares about being denied. So that has really stressed me out. My invitations are also late getting out. DF and his BIL have a wedding invitation business...so they are doing them...they will be amazing, but late. So now my RSVP dates have to be changed which means printing of all seating cards has also been delayed (doing all printing myself). I also work 3rd shift...so I have a very small window of normal business hours when I can speak to vendors. The 2nd reception is costing $4000 more than expected. It was supposed to be a simple luncheon. Now I am having a DJ (more$$$). My sisters friend was supposed to do my makeup and her husband was supposed to do the photography for the cost of film. After reminding them for the past 8 months about the date...they decide to book a trip to Europe instead!!! Now I have no photographer (for the 2nd reception). So...more money. I have also been told I should not make my own centerpieces and bake my own cupcakes. Easy for others to say but I have no more money. After insisting on baking 200 cupcakes myself my mother took pity on me and agreed to pay for a bakery to do it. However, the only bakery in my area only takes calls at night. Well I work, I can not call. I think she has sensed my stress! My DF's other BIL is not making Disney related things easy either...he got all upset because I wanted Carolyn to come to the hotel room to measure the guys for Tux's...he objected. It took away from his time at the pool with the kids...HELLO its my wedding...right? Everyone keeps telling me that if I need help to ask...but when I do no one has the time...and I am a control freak and fear things will not get done correctly. I am really overwhelmed and DF and I are fighting constantly. I almost had to drag him by the hair to look at wedding rings! I know it will all work out, but I am not excited any more and it is making me sad.

 

[hiwaygal]

Wow, hun!!

First of all, I hope you are feeling a little better after getting that all out and maybe resting a bit!

Second, yes, I believe all the stress you are feeling is really normal. We may not all experience the exact same issues, but the issues we do have, especially at wedding time, will cause us all to feel the way you do!

I know it sounds lame, but everything WILL work out! It will all be wonderful and in the end you will be married to your best friend!

Take one step at a time, handle one problem at a time and you will get through all the problems quickly. Do what YOU have to do to make it work for you, try not to worry too much about what others think.

And, believe it or not...when it's all over, you will miss some of this time

 

[Maggimus]

I was at a breaking point at my 2 month mark--- but it hit me hardest at the 2 WEEK mark. I seriously dont know how I kept myself together... you are right though, its YOUR wedding.

I kept an ongoing list each day of things I needed to do and get taken care of. First of all my advice is forget those who are making this difficult.
My list had from most important (at the top) to least important things I needed to get done.... everyday i would try to accomplish as much as I could, and what was left over would carry onto the next days list due to importance. Your #1 on the list should be getting those invitations done-- so I would call everyday and see how they are coming along.

GL with everything Once you get to Disney everything will go smoothly and youll forget about all of this

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

you poor thing....I want you stop & take a deep breath!!!

I know it seems like everything is falling apart, but what you need to do is calm down....believe it or not everyone can see it.

Stressing out does not get anything resolved, it only adds to the pile

take some time & write down everything that need to be done & troubleshoot...what can YOU do, what can SOMEONE else do, what can MOH do, and so on....

Try to enjoy this & not let it cause fights between you & DF

Things will fall into place but you need to relax

chin up & hakuna matata

 

[PRINCESSAJ]

Hi

Just read your message and couldn't believe it had to tell you that we are also getting married on may 1st 2007!!
We are having an intimate wedding at the pavilion at 2.30pm and then back to GF and afterwards we are having a meal at the fireplace room, Victoria and Alberts and then we're doing the wishes cruise!! can't wait!!

I think i've had my stress already as we are also having a reception when we get home and i've had more problems with that then the actual wedding itself

but you will feel better soon you're just going through a bad moment when it feels like nobody really cares about your day!!
try and think of all the good things you're looking forward to and

what time is your wedding and where will it be?? We might see you around!!

 

[LindaBabe]

you poor thing....I want you stop & take a deep breath!!!

take some time & write down everything that need to be done & troubleshoot...what can YOU do, what can SOMEONE else do, what can MOH do, and so on....

The old lady would add to this list - what you can DROP - that is - just not do at all.

She sees the root of your stress in this line . . .

I am totally stressed about how we are even paying for this wedding. We are supposed to take out a loan. I have great credit but I am having nightmares about being denied.

and that issue MUST be resolved first. You are two months out, and you don't have your funding yet. Without that, the other issues may become instant non-issues.

Good Luck!

 

[PrettyInTink]

I am so sorry! I eloped partly because of dumb family members causing trouble with my planning. The only advice I can give you is TAKE CONTROL. It's your wedding. If people aren't willing to do the things you need them to do exclude them. Your wedding party accepted the responsibility to serve YOU. Not their desire to sit by a flippin pool like a 5 year old! I'm sorry but I went through this same stuff. We are planning our custom VR and I will not let people run all over on me again unless they want me to unleash bridezilla on them. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Many people are oblivious to the fact that you are so stressed. I think people assum weddings just happen. No planning needed. Just not true. Throwing some pixie dust your way!

 

[jmmastra]

Hi

Just read your message and couldn't believe it had to tell you that we are also getting married on may 1st 2007!!
We are having an intimate wedding at the pavilion at 2.30pm and then back to GF and afterwards we are having a meal at the fireplace room, Victoria and Alberts and then we're doing the wishes cruise!! can't wait!!

I think i've had my stress already as we are also having a reception when we get home and i've had more problems with that then the actual wedding itself

but you will feel better soon you're just going through a bad moment when it feels like nobody really cares about your day!!
try and think of all the good things you're looking forward to and

what time is your wedding and where will it be?? We might see you around!!

Cool! My wedding is at 5pm and WP...the groomsmen will be showing up right after your ceremony! We should try to meet up at some point. Will you be there the whole week?

 

[jmmastra]

Thanks everyone! I really appreciate all your kind words. I know it will work out...and I will get the funding. If not through a loan then I have credit card offers up the ying yang! I will apply for a loan next week. I have waited so long becasue I as soon as I get the loan I will have to start paying it and DF being out of work suddenly has thrown me for a loop. So I do not want to start paying it until I have to. Today I told him he is in charge of getting the invites done. I will proof them...but the rest is up to him (he is out right now buying the most important ink cartridge) I am also calling my mother and asking her to call about the cake. And my sister is workin gon a photographer. One step at a time I guess!

 

[PRINCESSAJ]

Cool! My wedding is at 5pm and WP...the groomsmen will be showing up right after your ceremony! We should try to meet up at some point. Will you be there the whole week?

Hi

Yes we arrive in orlando on wed 25th april but don't check in to GF till the
sun 29th staying there till 3rd may then we go on our honeymoon!!
Where will you be staying??

 

[hulagirl87]

Hi

Yes we arrive in orlando on wed 25th april but don't check in to GF till the
sun 29th staying there till 3rd may then we go on our honeymoon!!
Where will you be staying??

oh goodness! we are checking in to the GF on april 29th and getting married on the 30th!

It's a stressful time and it's kind of going in spurts. At times it feels good to just kind of sit back and take a breather. And then all of a sudden there will be a few more things that pop up that need taking care of. Going to get the notary for the marriage license to send in the paperwork, calling Rosie to make sure DF boutinnere matches with my bouquet, waiting for the passports in the mail when they should have been here already rolleyes1 ). Our at home reception is on June 3rd and while we have a venue we haven't even really started to plan that yet...

I was just talking about it today about how I want it to get here, but then how I don't because I don't want it to be over. Jmmastra, you need to do things the way that you want - it's your day. If you want everyone to get measured for their tuxes, then so be it! You're the bride! they must obey! When all is said and done you are going to have such a beautiful day! You're getting married!!!

 

[DisneyFairy19]

WOW I am so sorry to hear about all your troubles... I wish I lived close to help you out... I am hoping everything will work out and I bet it will... GL and everything will go smooth sailing... Just a bump in the road at the beginning but in the end it will all be perfect

 

[jmmastra]

WOW I am so sorry to hear about all your troubles... I wish I lived close to help you out... I am hoping everything will work out and I bet it will... GL and everything will go smooth sailing... Just a bump in the road at the beginning but in the end it will all be perfect

Aww thanks DisneyFairy19, I appreciate it. I think I will be okay once my invitations are out.

 

[jmmastra]

Hi

Yes we arrive in orlando on wed 25th april but don't check in to GF till the
sun 29th staying there till 3rd may then we go on our honeymoon!!
Where will you be staying??

We are arriving on April 28th and staying at the All Star Movies Resort until the 5th. Then we check out and stay at GF for our last night.

 

[jmmastra]

oh goodness! we are checking in to the GF on april 29th and getting married on the 30th!

It's a stressful time and it's kind of going in spurts. At times it feels good to just kind of sit back and take a breather. And then all of a sudden there will be a few more things that pop up that need taking care of. Going to get the notary for the marriage license to send in the paperwork, calling Rosie to make sure DF boutinnere matches with my bouquet, waiting for the passports in the mail when they should have been here already rolleyes1 ). Our at home reception is on June 3rd and while we have a venue we haven't even really started to plan that yet...

I was just talking about it today about how I want it to get here, but then how I don't because I don't want it to be over. Jmmastra, you need to do things the way that you want - it's your day. If you want everyone to get measured for their tuxes, then so be it! You're the bride! they must obey! When all is said and done you are going to have such a beautiful day! You're getting married!!!

Thanks! What time are you getting married? My rehearsal is on the 30th at 10:00 AM. We along with PRINCESSAJ should meet up. Maybe for a drink...I will need it by then...oh wait I need it NOW

 

[hulagirl87]

my wedding is at noon at the yacht club gazebo. i can't believe how quickly it is coming! (yeah, I'm not really sure what that guy is doing, but sometimes that's what I feel like - all jumpy!) It would be fun to meet up with other brides that are down there at the same time and getting married!

 

[PRINCESSAJ]

oh goodness! we are checking in to the GF on april 29th and getting married on the 30th!

It's a stressful time and it's kind of going in spurts. At times it feels good to just kind of sit back and take a breather. And then all of a sudden there will be a few more things that pop up that need taking care of. Going to get the notary for the marriage license to send in the paperwork, calling Rosie to make sure DF boutinnere matches with my bouquet, waiting for the passports in the mail when they should have been here already rolleyes1 ). Our at home reception is on June 3rd and while we have a venue we haven't even really started to plan that yet...

I was just talking about it today about how I want it to get here, but then how I don't because I don't want it to be over. Jmmastra, you need to do things the way that you want - it's your day. If you want everyone to get measured for their tuxes, then so be it! You're the bride! they must obey! When all is said and done you are going to have such a beautiful day! You're getting married!!!

Hi

Thats really cool that we will be checking in the same day at GF,
I will look out for you on your wedding day all done up!!
it would be good to meet up with fellow brides

 

[hulagirl87]

Hi

Thats really cool that we will be checking in the same day at GF,
I will look out for you on your wedding day all done up!!
it would be good to meet up with fellow brides

yeah, do you want to come help me get into the limo? that's my only concern at this point. It is just me and my fiance going down to Disney and I have to go down to meet the limo by myself... I can just see trying to struggle getting into the limo by myself with my big poofy dress. If you see me, don't laugh, just give me a big push...

 

[jmmastra]

Hi

Thats really cool that we will be checking in the same day at GF,
I will look out for you on your wedding day all done up!!
it would be good to meet up with fellow brides

We should plan a day to meet up....maybe after our weddings

 

[hulagirl87]

We should plan a day to meet up....maybe after our weddings

that would be great - i'm totally for that!