Tomorrow I hit the big 3-0

[daleswife]

And I am feeling OLD. Maybe hormones, but seriously, I am not doing good at this moment. How did you guys handle 30??? I feel kind like I dont care, but I feel like OMG i haven't accomplished anything I have wanted to. (with the exception of marriage and kids).

UGH!!! I'll let you know tomorrow exactly how I am doing...but tonight.....

 

[*KeepMovingForward*]

I didn't have any issues when I turned 30...or 40 for that matter. I really don't think about age and in fact when people ask me how old I am, I have to sit there and do the math before I answer. I actually worry more about age when I look at how old my kids are and its more of an amazed feeling that I've been around this long without it feeling like it. I've been getting hormonal myself now that DS is college bound. I think it really is true that age is a state of mind though.

 

[K and K's Mommy]

Happy Birthday!! 30 didn't bother me, but I was due to have a baby in 5 days so I had other things on my mind!!

Now, I am hoping the next two years go SLOW because then it will be the really big 4-0!

Have a great birthday!

 

[ilandrazdsw]

Happy Birthday.
I didn't really have an issue with turning 30...this year, last year, or the year before. (I only celebrate my birthday when DH is home from out to sea--obviously he hasn't been home the last 2 years.)

The way I see it...I'm not thin (or even close to where I want to be), I have 2 beautiful children, a loving & supportive DH, caring parents & in-laws, and a roof over my head...I could be a whole lot worse off.

Besides 40 is the new 30 so worry about it in 10 year.

 

[srwarden1928]

Thirty was no problem. Forty on the other hand...
I think part of it was that my father died about six weeks before, and my mother had died three years before that. But it was really hard to turn 40 for me.

 

[nessz79]

I'll be 30 in less than 2 months. So far, so good. I kind of feel a tinge of sadness that my 20's are over and I feel like I'm really reaching a milestone in my life. However, I don't feel like I've missed out or not accomplished things. I have my husband and two kids, a stable job that I enjoy as a teacher, a small but safe home, and a generally happy life.

I'm sorry you are feeling sad. Maybe it'll go soon. Try to focus on the positives in your life- your marriage and your children are quite an accomplishment if you ask me!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

You know, I used to get very upset at birthdays. I always thought that I was some sort of failure for not accomplishing everything that I wanted to by a certain timeline that I had in my head. After one particularly glum birthday my DH had a chat with me. It changed my outlook. The gist of it was-

You have accomplished so much already. There is no magic number that you have to get things done by. Yes, you have goals, yes you will reach them. Just because they didn't happen exactly when you thought they should doesn't mean that you have failed. It just means that you were busy accomplishing other things.

Somedays I think that I should be doing more to get to my goals but then I look around and see all that I have accomplished. So it's not like I have been sitting here picking my nose. I try to keep in mind that Man makes plans and God laughs. It is true. I have changed my timeline and instead of a specific date to get things done by, I just tell myself that I will make these things happen. It may not be for a few years but I know I can do it and I know I will do it.

Have a wonderful birthday. Enjoy all that you have accomplished and be especially grateful for your health. That really is the best gift of all.

Happy Birthday!

 

[McKelly]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! So how is it? I have been 29 years old for six years now..........the kids are starting to wonder, so I think I might have to jump up to 30 soon!! LOL!!

Seriously, don't fret too much. The 30's are great. It is when I stopped caring what other people think (didn't care if other people thought I accomplished anything or not). Life was so much easier. You have accomplished marriage and children and that's HUGE!!! Congratulations!! If you are worried about the rest, look at 30 as a new beginning! Now that I am 30 I am going to...........not, geez, I am 30 already and I haven't done xyz.

 

[MiniGirl]

I'll be honest with you..... I never understood why people get so upset about turning 30 or 40 or whatever. I LOVED turning 30. I got married a couple of months before my 30th birthday, and I felt like I had finally arrived. Before that, when discussing issues, ect, people would dismiss my opinions because I was so young. Seriously, even at 29, I'd hear, "Well, you're still in your 20s. Your opinions will change once you are older and are married and have kids." Ugh!!! Now, I'm in my 40s, and I can really speak my mind. LOL!!!! No, seriously, life is just getting better and better.

I hope you have a great birthday.

Oh, and FTR, my opinions on most issues really didn't change after getting married and having kids, but they are no longer dismissed out of hand either.

 

[liznboys]

Happy Birthday!!

You know 30 didn't bother me at all. I think because most of my life my friends have been older than me, I was doing a lot of things in my 20's that people were in their 30's, and I went through a lot of unpleasant stuff in my teens and 20's and always felt older than I was. I really felt like I was already in my 30's. I was actually happy to finally be in my 30's, it felt like that's where I should be. I know that probably sounds weird. lol

Anyway, hang in there!

 

[luna99]

this is a great topic for me because I see it both ways now..

I'm 32 and somedays I feel like I'm old or getting there (which I know I'm not!).. whenever I read magazines with celebrities in them or hear of women having babies I am constantly comparing myself to where they are in life and how old they are .. which I know I shouldn't do. ( I don't have any kids myself yet). So I have decided that from now on when I find myself doing this I am going to stop it and tell myself I am beautiful and young and full of life! I don't want my 40's to creep up and feel like I spent all of my 30's worrying about how "old" I was and how my 20's passed by so quickly.

On the other hand.. sometimes when I think about my 20's and how many stupid things I did and how clueless I was, I thank God I am not in my 20's anymore! I definitely would not want to be out in the dating scene again, that's for sure. My single girlfriends tell me about all the hassel they go through and I do not want to deal with that again!

I think in our youth focused culture it's only natural for some of us to feel like we are "old" or not look forward to getting older.. but really we should be embracing our life in all stages of it!

oh, and happy birthday!!!

I hope that when I'm 40 and 50 I can declare my age with pride and say 'YES! I'M FIFTY!"

 

[luna99]

I feel kind like I dont care, but I feel like OMG i haven't accomplished anything I have wanted to. (with the exception of marriage and kids).

oh, and as for that.. yeah, I hear you. I am 32 and still trying to figure out what I want to be when I "grow up"! To me, that's the most frustrating part about my life.. being 32 and not having a "career" yet or some sort of work that I feel passionate about.

and if you mean you feel like you haven't accomplished things like life experiences (travel, hobbies, going out, meeting people, getting involved in your community) then what is stopping you! Even if it's something small like taking a painting class or volunteering or taking a small weekend trip to a nearby city.. get out there and do it!

 

[Kit'smommy]

I like being in my 30s. I am 35 now and am in great health, still look very young, have a great family and a job I like.

I am certainly not where I wanted to be at this point in my life, but I am ok with that.

Age is truely just a number.

 

[daleswife]

well, im offically 30!!! must have been the hormones!!! i actually feel great!! my accomplishments i have far out weigh the goal i had. I have two wonderful kids and an amazing husband who loves me no matter what. (even if Id like to beat the hoo haa out of him at times....) Every thing I have is wonderful. I wouldnt change a thing. I guess its true, age is just a number, your only as old as you feel, (sometimes I feel 130!!!) But I am ok with this. Besides, on your birthday you get pampered, right????? hahahahahahahaha!!!

 

[disneybridetobe]

Happy Birthday!! Go get pampered!

 

[hoosiergirl7]

I had no problem turning 30. It's kind of weird because it was a relief to me. Granted I did some great stuff in my 20's - got married, spent an entire month traveling all over Europe with my parents & my sister, became a mom...

I am dreading 40 a little although it's still 7 yrs away for me. When DH turned 30 he had no issues either. He turned 40 last year and it hit him. Mostly because he doesn't look nor does he feel 40. That's why it bothered him. He'll be 41 in April.

One of the best things I tell myself every year that I have a birthday is "You lived to see another year. Nothing tragic happened to you, you have your health and your family." Not everyone is so lucky.

 

[barnaby1]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

I hit 40 yesterday. I can almost say it now without breaking out in a cold sweat!!

 

[daleswife]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

I hit 40 yesterday. I can almost say it now without breaking out in a cold sweat!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU TOO!!!!!

 

[drinkme]

My 30's were great. Finished up grad school, career was going good, kids were born, house was bought, making lots of money, etc.

40's are awful. Aging parents, kids are older (teens!), financial problems hitting, medical issues arriving, etc.

Enjoy the 30's while you can. You're still so young.

 

[Carriemel]

When I hit *that age*...I cried for a week. There were so many things I'd wanted to do by that time...didn't do them...not even close. Kind of funny, I always thought 40 would be my horrible age. I'm actually looking forward to 40...in 5 years.