TinkerPixxie said:
Is it not the parents choice to decide what their childs needs are?
Of course! I've said from the very beginning that we as parents get to make choices on how we parent. I never suggested BANNING the darn things!
TinkerPixxie said:
Just think for a moment of how others situations may require such a device. Myself for instace am disabled, I have 5 children 4 of whom I would like to take to Dis. Because of a combination of both my childrens curiosity and my inability to physically keep up with them should I not use such a device and take the chance a child gets lost or gets hurt? Perhaps they just dont deserve to go?? I guess we would have to take that up with the driver who took my abilities away from me.
Sorry to hear about that. I never once considered the impact of disabilities. Of course, neither did any others on this thread until now. As a society, we need to adjust our demands and expectations when individuals have disabilities; in a legal sense, this was codified in the "reasonable accommodations" clauses of the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990.
All the people who posted before you, all the people who advocated for child leashes/harnesses, none of them cited a parental disability as a reason for a leash's/harness' utility. You are the obvious exception (on this thread), and of course I agree you need to use any and every method you can to help yourself function as fully and independently as possible.
Maybe my visceral, emotional negativity about the use of leashes/harnesses stems from my background of working with people with disabilities. SURPRISED? Oh my, you have no idea the can of worms you just inadvertantly opened!
When I was just a young pup freshly out of college and into graduate school in the late 1980s, I worked as an internal consultant for a non-profit agency that provided group homes for individuals with mental retardation, as well as a few faciltiies for individuals with mental illness. For decades and in fact centuries, people with all kinds of disabilities had been, yes, degraded and dehumanized. Most old psychiatric hospitals had ward rooms and hallways that had ceramic tile on the walls up to about shoulder height. WHY? So the patients could be hosed down every now and then, rather than be allowed to bathe like anyone else in the world. This is just one example of MANY I can think of regarding degrading and dehumanizing practices. Are you familiar with the expression "the pendulum swinging the other way?" Well, starting in the late 1960s but really taking off in the 1980s was the pendulum swinging the other way, in which very well-meaning people advocated for making everything for people with disabilities as mainstreamed and non-judgmental as possible. The pendulum swung WAY too far the other way, and here's an example we can ALL appreciate. I had to advocate for a 30-something year old man's right to have a Mickey Mouse poster in his group home bedroom. I was there when an official from the State of Pennsylvania came for the typical yearly inspection. She cited the agency for treating the man like a child by hanging a Mickey poster in his bedroom; my employer was about to receive a hefty fine, and that man was going to have his poster taken away from him by the government. I had to step in and explain to the inspector that that man had a right to love Mickey Mouse enough to have a poster on his wall, and that if that man did not have mental retardation then surely there'd be no policy against his having a Mickey decoration in his own private home! In the late 80s or today, if any staff person of a group home or other facility had a leash on adults or children in their charge, they'd be summarily fired, no questions asked. FIRED.
Like I said, the pendulum swings so far the wrong way sometimes it's ridiculous. Starting in the 80s we were not allowed to call the people we served "patients" because "patients" are sick and someone saw that as somehow lesser than non-patients. The accepted term then changed to "residents," but through overuse that, too, came to have a negative connotation to some people. The next word used for many years was "client," which I happen to like. Lawyers, accountants, stock brokers, they all have clients -- to me, nothing degrading about being a client. BUT, lots of people in the country disagreed. We tried "consumers" for a while, but after a while that also had a negative connotation to some people, who thought it was degrading to call people with disabilities "consumers." The last I paid attention to this mess, the word "individual" was used, which is totally ridiculous to me. When I was consulting in the Cleveland area I saw an agency had a flyer for it's "Individual Picnic." I really thought it meant there would be a picnic for one person at a time!!!
At the present time, I work one-on-one every day with people with a so-called "hidden disability," many of whom ended up that way due to motor vehicle accidents. I sometimes spend a lot of time advocating for the essential rights of individuals with disabilities, either in a formal sense with employers or in an informal sense with their neighbors and friends. In the background of all of this is the core idea of making sure people with disabilities are not stigmatized and are permitted to function as independently as possible without others degrading or dehumanizing them. I still hear way too many people telling me "those people should be locked away somewhere, they shouldn't be out here with the rest of us. It's such a sin."
THIS IS MY BACKGROUND. THIS IS HOW I WAS INDOCTRINATED INTO MY PROFESSIONAL LIFE, so I guess this is my reason for seeing leashes as degrading. I've had to function in a system where words like "patient" and "client" are considered abusive and disrespectful (not by me, but I've had to conform to the system). So you can now imagine my emotional reaction to seeing leashes and harnesses. All of this hadn't occurred to me until the subject of disabilities was raised.
The question is, who do I pay for this hour of psychotherapy?
-- Eric
