Toddler dies after being left in hot car .....HORRIBLE!!!!

[bubie2.5]

This is just my opinion, but maybe the mother was in a desperate situation. If the child had been ill and the mother didn’t had a job, she most likely had unpaid medical bills, no money for a baby sitter and no one to help her take care of the poor little girl. Maybe, just maybe, she thought she had finally caught a break, she had a new job, and with that first paycheck, her life and her daughter’s was going to make a turn for the better. And then she made a bad decision.

Or maybe she was just stupid…

Either way, the child is dead and she’ll end up in jail. It could all probably have been avoided by her, if the had made a different decision, or by someone else, had they offered their help.

 

[padams]

Article from Atlanta newspaper this morning: http://www.accessatlanta.com/ajc/metro/atlanta/1002/04childcar.html

 

[SilverLily]

Thanks for the link, padams. What an adorable little girl, and how sad this whole mess is.

But...it sounds like the mother made several horrible decisions. She was living in NJ, making $15/hr (which is better than many single parents out there), the little girl's grandmother cared for her while the mother worked, the little girl was going to school, etc. Why would any mother disrupt her child's life to move to another city without even having another job lined up? She claims she wanted to make a better life for herself, but wouldn't that have been easier if she had stayed in NJ where child care wasn't an issue? It seems like it would have been easier to go back to school, job hunt, etc. in a place where you knew your daughter was being take care of.

This was not a "tragic mistake". This mother made some intentional bad decisions, and she should be punished for them.

 

[Robinrs]

That was some story.

Unfortunately, I see women coming to Atlanta everyday with a dream in their eyes.

$15 a hour is not alot in NJ, in fact it's close to nothing. In Atlanta it's pretty good money for a young woman. I see her thinking that since her sister was here she could probably give her child a chance to grow up in a house and in a nice neighborhood. Stone Mountain is FULL of northerners who did just that. I bought my first house there and lived in a cul de sac with nothing but transplanted NY single mothers, all happy to be able to provide for their kids in a way they could not in the north.

It is so sad that it ended so tragically.

May God bless little Asan'te. She didn't deserve to die because of this.

As for her mother, she needs serious counseling and psychiatric help now. She is not a threat to society. She will suffer for what she did without the law's help.

 

[JerseyJanice]

What greater punishment could this woman receive than she's already had?

I don't think there is anything on Earth that is worse than having to bury one's child. She doesn't need jail on top of that.

 

[John Smith1]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
OOOOOOO-Kay! So when 1 person disagrees with 20 people, and the 1 person is addressed by the majority of those people, the 1 person doesn't have the right to respond to each and every one? The 1 person is PUSHING his opinion, but the 20 are just stating theirs? Please get a job with the local news; you've got the bias thing down to a tee.

since I DO report news I thought I'd take this on....

Doc, this is not a gangfight on a person who just stating his views, from what I see it's a bunch of people stating their views about the original story and one person giving his opinion of the the people who had an opinion.

In my work, you don't make a statement of OFFense and don't expect DEfense. That's the difference beween what one does and the other 20 did.

JMHO.

BTW, are you ALWAYS this charming???

 

[JohnTBap]

Originally posted by minniepumpernickel
Yes, it looks like some people were flirting on here last night. I guess some people consider death an aphrodisiac. I definitely don't!

Sorry.

Tension breaker.

Had to be done.

 

[pooh6890]

Robinrs.......At $15/hour x 40/hr = $600/week x 52/wks = $31,200. In Miami, that is pretty good money. How many single moms do YOU know making that kind of money? She left her child in her car because she wanted that job and "a better life". She was already making good money, her child was taken care of and she had her mother as a support system to boot. Well, now she is going to GET LIFE for her foolish decision. We really don't know her and what she was thinking. Most of us moms here know what we would do in that situation. I have never left my children in the car for any reason, even getting gas ( I pay at the pump). I also don't believe we are self rightous. Life if too precious and now I guess this woman is finding this out. I don't believe she made a poor decision at the last moment. She got in her car, strapped in her child and left it IN the car on purpose. No amount of I'm sorry or I made a poor decision can change things. Yes, she will regret this for the rest of her life, but she will be behind bars where she belongs to think about.

 

[Planogirl]

Originally posted by minniepumpernickel
Yes, it looks like some people were flirting on here last night. I guess some people consider death an aphrodisiac. I definitely don't!

It's a matter of fact, I'm so disgusted I think that I'll take a break from posting for awhile. Carry on....

IF anyone was flirting on this thread, I don't see why that's so bad. People have different ways of handling stressful topics whether it's a bit of playing or being part of the so-called HEH crowd. I hardly see why someone should get so upset about how others react to things but that seems to usually be the case here.

Back to the poor child, I would be more interested in the mother's motivation than her circumstances. I doubt that there was intent to harm but who knows at this point.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Originally posted by Planogirl
IF anyone was flirting on this thread, I don't see why that's so bad. People have different ways of handling stressful topics whether it's a bit of playing or being part of the so-called HEH crowd. I hardly see why someone should get so upset about how others react to things but that seems to usually be the case here.

Back to the poor child, I would be more interested in the mother's motivation than her circumstances. I doubt that there was intent to harm but who knows at this point.

ROFL!! Now you've got me laughing hysterically! The last thing that I would want to do is get involved in a cat fight over a man!

I would like to say that I never should have made a comment about the flirting thing, it really is none of my business.

I wouldn't want to rock the status quo here. I won't post on this again, I just felt that you wanted a response, because you quoted me!

I'll try to look for news reports on the progress of the case. Keep on truckin.....

 

[maleficent1959]

Yes, a child died and it is a terrible thing. But I feel some compassion for the mother as well. My friends in New Jersey tell me that $31,000 is not a lot of money to live on. Take away taxes, take away bills, take away rent, medical costs for the child and I don't imagine there was much left. And who knows what propelled her to leave Jersey? Maybe she hates it, maybe she and her mother don't get along, maybe her sister told her life was so much better in Atlanta and she went for it, maybe she thought Atlanta was safer. Who knows?

I can't imagine being in the shoes of a woman so desperate that she thought that leaving her child in a car was her only choice. She was new in town, she had no daycare, she had already missed the first two days of her new job and was told to show up or get fired. I don't think she meant for the child to die otherwise she would not have gone out to check on her and taken her to the hospital while she was still alive.

 

[preshi]

Originally posted by maleficent1959
Yes, a child died and it is a terrible thing. But I feel some compassion for the mother as well. My friends in New Jersey tell me that $31,000 is not a lot of money to live on. Take away taxes, take away bills, take away rent, medical costs for the child and I don't imagine there was much left. And who knows what propelled her to leave Jersey? Maybe she hates it, maybe she and her mother don't get along, maybe her sister told her life was so much better in Atlanta and she went for it, maybe she thought Atlanta was safer. Who knows?

I can't imagine being in the shoes of a woman so desperate that she thought that leaving her child in a car was her only choice. She was new in town, she had no daycare, she had already missed the first two days of her new job and was told to show up or get fired. I don't think she meant for the child to die otherwise she would not have gone out to check on her and taken her to the hospital while she was still alive.

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I feel no compassion for her... has she been living under a rock her whole life... newspapers and TV news stories and common sense tells you you leave anything in a hot car... be it a child or animal... for long enough and it's going to die. She's an idiot who deserves to have the book thrown at her.

 

[EROS]

Wellllllllllllllllllll, I do detect at least a "touch" of compassion for this tragic woman today. Perhaps there's really a "heart beat" around here after all . Of course there's always LOADS of P.D. and Prayers for DIS members in all kinds of difficult circumstances. Perhaps if Mrs. Burgess was a regular poster here, she might have received an ounce of understanding .......

 

[Saffron]

Welllllllllllllllllllll, there he is, Mr. Sunshine himself! So nice to see you bring the tread back on track, as it started out, all about you and how you feel about fellow DISers. . Oh wait! That's not what the thread was about to begin with!


Great post John Smith1.

 

[preshi]

Originally posted by EROS
Wellllllllllllllllllll, I do detect at least a "touch" of compassion for this tragic woman today. Perhaps there's really a "heart beat" around here after all . Of course there's always LOADS of P.D. and Prayers for DIS members in all kinds of difficult circumstances. Perhaps if Mrs. Burgess was a regular poster here, she might have received an ounce of understanding .......

No she wouldn't EROS... anyone that neglecting of their child deserves no compassion. It's horrific.

 

[EROS]

LOL, Saffron . First I take heat for offering an opinion of my fellow DISers.................one must NEVER DO THAT . THEN, I step aside and take heat for not answering members' queries...........and THEN I return to be greeted by your sweet nothings . That's what I lovvvvvvvvvvve about the DIS.............everyone is just sooooooooooo HUGGABLE around here. All of that sweetness and light has just left me blind. This board indeed has a heart ....... just like ROBODOG . ......

robodog

 

[Saffron]

Of course we're lovable and huggable EROS! You wouldn't keep coming back for more if we weren't.

You're welcome for the sweet nothings! I'm just returning the favor.

Seems you're caught in the same "damned if you do, damned if you don't" delima that you put us in! How could that happen???

 

[EROS]

I'll say this, SAFFRON.............WILLY is definitely cuter than ROBODOG.........You've got Good Taste .........

 

[Saffron]

Why thank you, yes I do. But aren't we getting off topic here? Let's get this thread back on topic. So, back to you telling us all about ourselves ...

 

[EROS]

Originally posted by Saffron
So, back to you telling us all about ourselves ...

Not to worry. You'll just have to wait for the next topic which again demonstates the depth of compassion and humanity on the DIS.

HUGS!!!!!!!!!